My fiance and I haven't had a good relationship lately and he has hurt me with his lies and looking at other women. He is 31 and 100kg and plain looking and I'm 29, 70kg and other guys think I'm hot and he tells me every day that I'm beautiful. Yesterday we were making out like we use to when we first started out and things were getting very hot and I gave him what he needed. After that we were still making out and I really needed to be satisfied but......he fell asleep. I woke him up and told him how I felt about it and he just said he's been so tired lately and didn't mean to fall asleep.What should I do and was this fair of him to do that.?
2006-12-16 16:35:16 · 8 answers · asked by golden tigress 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He's a GUY, and of course he is going to look at women! BUT, he is engaged TO YOU, not the hot chick showing her cleavage walking past him in the street.
So what if he falls asleep and you still aren't satisfied? Sure it sucks, but let the poor man have his sleep! Take matters into your own hands and get yourself off. If this happens ALL the time I could see it being a problem, but if its every now and then let the man sleep!
2006-12-17 09:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a talk with your fiance. Obviously there is something not right if he makes it obvious that he is looking at other women and he is lying. You didn't say what he's lying about so it's hard to know if it's something to worry about. As for him not satisfying you afterward, it's not fair but it's normal. My fiance gets tired after too and just wants to relax so I make sure to get mine first! But if he is making it a habit not to reciprocate pleasure and he doesn't seem interested in making you happy, then you need to make sure he isn't giving his attention to someone else. Good Luck!
2006-12-17 17:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by craigsgirly47 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a married woman---
Men do that. They're pigs once they are satisfied they roll over and---ZZZZZZZ!
Check out Susan Johannson's work(She does the sex talk show on O) Read it together, or watch it. She has a lot of ideas that might help.
Communicate with him. Tell him what's up if he is worth it he'll care. Sure he might have hurt pride but as Dr John Grey (Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus) says " Men aren't stupid we are simple." "Tell us. We don't know if you don't tell us."
Seek counseling, there are sex therapists out there who can help both of you!
AND marriage isn't all about sex. ( I'm sure You already know that) But don't let THAT be the deciding factor.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-17 00:45:13 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs Lizzard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is unhappy with himself. He's probably threatened by how attractive you are and wondering how he can possibly keep you.
Put him on a fitness regime. It will give him the energy he is missing, confidence that comes with a fitter, attractive body and a focus on achieving something will cure the blues. It's a win-win situation. Go for it!
Oh yeah, chicks should always climax first because it's actually quite exhausting for a bloke.
;)
2006-12-18 06:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by splurkles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are lazy,crude can be sensitive and when you give them what they want they just turn off.
tell him that he isn't satisfying you enough.
it sounds like your better than him.
that's OK some men don't really know how good women are!
but whatever tickles your fancy!!!!!!!
when he tells you your beautiful does it make you feel on top of the world and special?
tell him to be more affectionate towards you because you need to be loved to make your marriage work whenever you get married. that's the basics and love will give you a happy long lived marriage.
2006-12-17 17:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by Millie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like to me you think you are hot and hip and put yourself above him. If he doesn't give you the attention you like, move on before it's too late.
2006-12-17 00:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by Nana 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what he did it's not nice.. next time get up ,and go get bread and butter some where else. and tell him that there is no hot oven for raw dough any more.
2006-12-17 02:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by nina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you think you are better than him
2006-12-17 00:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by Megan B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋