It has become obvious he has no intentions of committing in this relationship. He has been given such an opportunity, but he just isnt all that into me.
Tonite I blew him off. Lately, I am sick of his crap and have decided I would rather sleep alone then be with someone who puts me in 2nd place all of the time.
I am tired of it, and I know he can feel me pulling away. He wants me to drive his car to work and just bought me a cell phone. He suddenly has an interest in what time I leave work and what happened while I was there, and why I was so late getting home. He asks me to come to his house when I was a virtual stranger there for the last 2 years. He asks me to come over now. I think it is too late to re kindle the fire. Should I try or will he treat me like a door mat again?
2006-12-16 16:21:08 · 19 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have been together for 5 years.
2006-12-16 17:04:30 · update #1
Time to pick up and move it on down the road! You will never feelk the same about him as you once did , mainly because you stayed with him too long as it is! Good thing you don't live with him or he would be really hard on you to leave! Just tell him you can't do this anymore and there is nothing to re kindle! Not even as friends!
2006-12-16 16:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by MagikButterfly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't try if he is just a boyfriend. If you have been married to him awhile, or had kids with him, then putting in an effort to save your relationship would be fine. But, if you are meant to be together, and he really wants you to be with him, he will court you again. You have the right to say, "No thank you, or Yes," when he calls for a date. He doesn't have to know every detail of your life and you don't need to be finding out everything about his. Just see if you can enjoy yourself with and without him. Go out with other people and have a good time. Find a new interest. Do something by yourself you wouldn't normally do, say go to a musuem for the day or study Tae Kwon Do?
Do not stay in ruts and make it all about him.
2006-12-16 16:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think you have already lost. Not you, him. I could see this is 2 ways. **You never know what you have till it's gone** he feels you pulling away and now wants to be there for you. If you ask me, it's too late for that. And 2, it almost sounds like he is keeping a very close eye on you. Does he think your cheating? Or is he really protective. Everything he wants you to do now, with driving his car and the cell and asking really answers I don't think he really cares about. He sounds a little on the stalking side, if not now, then soon. I would get out. give him everything he has given you, and get out. You know that is what you need to do. So just take a leap. Good luck and be careful.
2006-12-16 16:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-16 16:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should give him a chance but treat lightly and if he treats you like crap, leave and don't turn back.
It's good that you stood up to him. I was with a guy for over a year who refused to commit... He broke up with me because he didn't want to "drag me along" and yada yada. I wish I had the courage and the strength you had.
It's only been a week and I'm actually doing great without him.
2006-12-16 16:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say move on. He is a man that has his own agenda and will squeeze 'love' in when it suits him. The only problem is his love isn't really love, it's personal need or desire. Sure, he's into you. He digs you quite a lot but it's love when he can put you first. It's love when he respects you and honors you. He doesn't. Cut him loose and don't count it as a loss but a blessing that you don't have kids and aren't married.
2006-12-16 16:25:54 · answer #6 · answered by Red Birds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just cut off contact with him. If you want to, you can pick up the phone the next time he calls you and say, "This isn't working for me, but take care of yourself." Then get off the phone as quickly as possible. Be brief, be cordial, and don't return any further phone calls; it will only encourage him.
2006-12-16 16:26:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's had his chance. If you're tired of him and his s***, just dump him and move on. Give him back his cell phone, find your own way to work, tell him it's over and MEAN IT.
You know you're not going to get what you want from him, what's the point in continuing?
2006-12-16 16:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has no intentions of committing because you are putting out the goods and if you get married and you want a divorice you get half of every thing. Marriage is for sex only nothing else. since he is already getting some from you he doesnt need to marry you!! ha ha you loose!!
2006-12-16 16:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by Hockeyplaya88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No brainer. Once he' comfy wit ya again, back to da way things were.
Get out before ya start singing tha ol' country tune, "If I Had a Shot Ya Sooner, I'd Be Out By Now."
2006-12-16 16:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋