He looks alot younger than 49 and treats me like a real woman. I sometimes forget he's his age. I'm 22 and we get along great. Can this work?
2006-12-16 16:20:26 · 13 answers · asked by Blondie4u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sure it can work, make it work, age aint nothing but a number
2006-12-16 16:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by drg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe..I wouldn't bet on it though. You say he looks a lot younger..30? 35? Find a man to treat you like a "real woman" who is a little closer in age. Never go more than 10 years. Just remember..In 11 years you will still be an attractive 33 year old and he will be 60.
2006-12-17 00:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by kevin t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can work. Once you meet a certain age (out of school, mostly) age is different. It depends on your intrests, how you feel about different things, how compatable you are.
If you get along great, I'm not going to tell you that you can't. If it is love, then that's great, forget about age. Just remember that he will most likely die before you. Because that's the only thing that age measures. How long you've been alive, how long you have to live.
Good luck, hope this helped.
2006-12-17 00:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by Bored. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl! You and this man can work if you both want it to. I've been in this situation before. You havin' fun and he making you happy and things can only get worse or better. Let this flow! Age ain't nothing when you feel for a person. Go with your heart and see what it do.Girl he treatin' you like a woman should be treated, you can't go wrong as long as you keep doing whatever you doing to make him feel his way about you. This can work and you both can be happy. Just be honest and let him know what the deal is.
2006-12-17 00:32:36 · answer #4 · answered by turk25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very interesting question!
I myself am 14 years older than my girlfriend. She's 20 and I am 34. We have been together now for about 8 months and there has been some hard to resolve issues with us.
First of all, age will be more of an issue with him that it will be for you. You at a young age have all the options since time is on your side. You may one day say to yourself that "this isnt what i want" and in the mean time he's invested a lot into the relationship thinking that everything is ok.
These kinds of issues or scenerios will be going through his noggen as well as he tries to find an indentity in this unusual relationship. Its very likely that it will make him insecure and therefor distant from real love.
Then what if everything does work out with you two. Is that the end of your problems? HELL NO! Then theres the family to consider like your mom, dad, brothers or even close friends. Are you not going to be embarrased to have him around? Or will you just close him off to that part of your life and leave him wondering whats going on and whats beind said about him while he's not able to be witness to it.
Lucky for me, my girlfriends parents are divorced crack heads with little involvement in her life. I still have to deal with her brothers. But there again, one is a 3 time felon and the other a total intravert so I dont have much of an issue of feeling like im being looked down upon.
Right now our biggest problem is with her friends since i dont feel comfortable hanging around a bunch of teeny boppers listening to rap music talking about jodi's boyfriend just broke up with her so he can be with kelly and kelly is about ready to fight jodi cause her brother keeps telling her that kelly is always this that and the other thing and blaa bllaaa blaa. I think you get the picture. So my girlfriend basicly closed me out of that part of her life. Meanwhile i have to hear about all her run-ins with past boyfriends and stuff like that.
So sure, if you really want to deal with things like that, go for it! but dont kid yourself and be honest with him. He's going to need a lot of re-assurance if you two decide to be with one another.
By the way, Leah and me are getting married
2006-12-17 00:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by alley_walker2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly it can.
but there are factors you should consider.
the great age difference is 27 years.
you guys live in different generations.
and [[sorry]] he might die much earlier than you leaving you being a widow.
think about what he wants.
are you sure he likes you for you because alot of old guys go for young girls to have sex.
also raising a kid, may be shocking for the children and people around.
BUT if you are really in love. Go for it.
but consider what i just typed
if you guys really love each other, it WILL work out.
2006-12-17 00:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by Leilani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might, if you are serious. You have to be clear on why you want it to work and then work at that goal. Be prepared for a lot of bumps in the road. Remember, he is at a whole different stage in life. This is only viable if you can mesh your two sets of interests and behavioral sets into an harmonious lifestyle for the two of you.
2006-12-17 00:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by funwithu_007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i was 22, i would have thought so. Now I ask you, with all of his life experience, what about you is interesting to someone who has lived more than a quarter of a century longer than you have? Answer that and you will know.
Sorry. Good luck.
2006-12-17 00:26:03 · answer #8 · answered by Clear thinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ANY THING CAN WORK IF YOU REALLY WANT IT TO BUT
JSUT THINK DOWN THE ROAD, HE AT A AGE THAT HE
LOOK AT LIFE AT A DIFFENT PLACE AS YOU ARE JUST
START LIVING YOUR LIFE. SO IT MAY BE WONDERFUL
AT FIRST BUT DOWN THE ROAD IT MAY BE ISSUS
THAT YOU WILL HAVE TO ADDRESS. IT NOT ABOUT
HIM TREATING YOU LIKE A REAL WOMEN, MOST OLDER
MEN ARE TRUE MEN. BUT JUST DONT LOOK AT THAT
THINK OF EVERY THING ELSE THAT WILL FACTOR AS
WELL.
2006-12-17 00:26:14 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should go for it...
it is so hard to find some one you can call a good man so.. go for it...Wish you guys all the best
2006-12-17 00:26:08 · answer #10 · answered by sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋