Is it okay for a seventeen year old and a thirty-four year old to date?

Question

We both live in Arkansas, and we know the age of consent is 16. To elaborate more fully, I am seventeen and my girlfriend is thirty-four. This relationship does not involve sex because I am a Christian and I have promised myself to wait until eventual marriage for sex. We're just dating like a normal couple would do, but I was just wondering if it would be okay. Again, we live in Arkansas, the age of consent is 16, and it's a dating relationship, not a sexual relationship. Help?

On another note, she is not taking advantage of my "inexperianced mind". I am a college student with full scholorships, and I happen to like older women. And about the girls my own age... All of them are whores and prostitutes.

Answer 1

its love, if your in love then there is nothing to worry about. dont care wether people think it is wrong. it is what you want. nothing should come in the way of love, nothing. follow your heart and if you love her, than that is that. just enjoy your realation ship and have fun and be loved. well hope i helped toodlz.

Answer 2

Only in Arkansas.

Personally, I think it's odd that a thirty four year old woman is dating a 16 year old boy.

The first question that comes to mind is, "what's wrong with her?". I don't understand how the maturity factor isn't an issue. Hell, I'm 19 and I feel like most guys my age are too immature for me.

It's good to hear that the relationship isn't sexual (yet) but could you elaborate on how this relationship is working? What things do you have in common? How do you hang out with eachothers friends. The whole arrangement seems to be very akward.

You do realize, this woman could be your mother, right? You obviously see some quirk in this situation because you're asking the question. And although some people say "age is just a number", most of these people are on jerry springer.

she's proabably looking for commitment, and you'll probably get the urge to date younger girls, or at least women closer to your own age. you have your whole life ahead of you. don't let an older woman manipulate you into thinking you're in love.

I think you should end it and wait until you're at least 25 to date her. I would say the same thing if it were a 16 year old girl and a 34 year old man. It's really strange.

Answer 3

I don't think it is a good idea I am 36 and i cant think of anything i would have in common with today's 17 year olds. And just because the age of consent is 16 doesn't make it right. And just think if it was the other way the guy being that much older what would you and the community think. I think in the long run you will find that the age thing will make a big difference and the longer you are involved with her the more it will hurt when it ends. And she should know better. Shame on her for taking advantage of you in this way. I know there is no sex but the emotion is there.

Answer 4

I don't see anything wrong with a dating relationship, but if things do get serious, both of you need to think of the age difference and if it would cause problems later in life if. Right now it doesn't seem like such a problem because you are just dating, but in 10 years, you would be 27 and the girlfriend 44. Do you think you would have that much in common. Maybe you would, but it is something to think about if things get serious. I know that age difference does not make differences with some people because my dad was 27 years older than my mom and they had a wonderful marriage. By the way they didn't divorce. He passed away. It took my mom 20 years before she remarried, so just go with your heart and be happy. Good luck.

Answer 5

Age of consent or not, you must have different priorities. That would be a very difficult relationship to deal with. The older you get, the easier it will be, but you are still a teenager, you have so much to live and discover. She has already gone through that. The question is: are you both willing to do this? Are you on the same page? Can you afford the mortgage payments? What is the kids situation? ...

Think of those issues before you jump into it. Age is just a number, but ...

Answer 6

Well my answer would be, if you guys are ok with it (and assuming you are not having sex or using each other for sex) then just go with the flow. But most cases, these types of relationships end after a while. I dated a guy few years younger than me, but after a while things went south and we eventually fell apart (but we had some great times and lasting memories). So my advice is, just enjoy the moment (since you are still young) and see what happens after 2 - 3 years (assuming you will last that long).

A relationship may last for a short time but the memory lasts forever. Find the relationship that gives you the most pleasent memories.

Answer 7

Regardless of the age of consent, you are just a kid. I know you think you are a man but 17 is still a kid. I urge you to take a serious look at this relationship. Will it really work out to, as you say, eventual marriage? Or are you a passing fancy for your older, wiser and more mature girlfriend? If both of you are sure this arrangement will work, I congratulate you on finding your match. But, if you have any doubts or concerns you need to bring them up now.

Answer 8

The relationship may not be sexual now but she'll be wanting sex soon. I think you should try and find someone your own age. You will have more in common and won't have to deal with the stress of people staring at you because your date looks like she could be your mom.

Answer 9

Well, that's quite an age difference, ... I mean huge! She's twice your age! I suppose It's okay for a little while, but I don't think it's something you should commit to. I mean think about it, when you're 40, she'll be 57! When you retire, she'll be 82 years old! If you really feel strongly about it, then do what you think is right, but otherwise I think you should find someone closer to your own age.

P.S. I like your nickname (Yes, I can read russian.)

Answer 10

Ultimately no one here can answer your question for you. One thing you need to keep in mind though, is that in your life you are both in very different places, there is a huge generation gap! Often times relationship's like yours do not last because of the age difference. Rarely do they make it. --- Also, while the idea may be tempting to you and flattering that someone of her age may be attracted to you, most older women get with younger guys to make themselves feel younger.... Ask yourself this... When I'm ready to enjoy life will she be dragging me down because she's too old to do the things I enjoy? -- Good luck to you

Answer 11

You are placing some rather severe restraints on yourself and the older person .You must realize that at 34 a person unless they are a bit odd no doubt has had some sexual experience and once having eaten the apple it is easy to want another bite,. If you want to be sure of yourself keep away from the orchard..