I have 4 children (aged 5, 4, 2 and 3 months old). My children get cold (runny nose) and cough quite often. Its always started with one, then followed by the others, and then all of them are down at the same time.
My mum in law said that it is my fault. I wash their heads everyday and I don`t give them warm drinking water.
And that makes my husband mad at me too. They think I didn`t know how to take care of my children.
When the weather is cold, I always give them warm shower and I only give them cold water in hot summmer day.
I don`t know how they become sick. I brought them to doctors and gave them medication as prescribed but after few months they get sick again.
So, is it my fault? why they always make me feel guilty over my children health?
What should I do to prevent them from having cough and cold?
Thanks.
2006-12-16 16:15:04 · 8 answers · asked by As26 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
don't let the in-laws get you down. Your kids may have an allergy to the family pets or perhaps it's the dust and particles in the air. Try to get air purifyers for their bedrooms. Maybe take them in for allergy testing. Regardless of what your mother in law is trying to make you think, I'm sure you are a great mother. Good luck to you.
2006-12-16 16:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's Ma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not your fault. Children are going to get sick. Wait til they are all in school, then you are really going to have fun. There isn't too much that you can do with there being that many people in the house together, especially children. My youngest hard her first cold at 6 weeks because her big sister was so happy to have her that I couldn't keep her from loving on her. I would walk away to get something and the next thing I know, there she is kissing her baby sister (she still calls her that to this day). One thing that I would suggest is getting the on multi-vitamins with extra vitamin C, that will help boost their immune system
Don't let you mother in law make you feel guilty. She needs to remember how hard it is to be a mother. You are doing fine I am sure.
2006-12-17 00:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by Heather B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sick kids can't be helped and you are not at fault. When my eldest son first started school, he brought home every little virus and sickness going around.
Your mother in law needs to butt out and mind her own business, if you are not abusing the children in anyway tell her her you are not interested in what she has to say and to keep all comments to herself.
As for your husband I wouldn't be putting up with that. His mum obviously has a big influence on him and no matter what you say or do he will never change and as long as your husband sides with his mum she is never going to stop. Ignore the both of them, you are their mother and if you know you are doing your best and are looking after them don't worry about what anybody else has to say,
There is no way to prevent them from getting sick. If you want though go and get them the chewable vitamin C tablets. In af ew years they will be older and they don't seem to get as sick as often. Good luck, keep your head held high
2006-12-17 01:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by shellhiggs07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Diet has a lot to do with a healthy child. Also, rest. Routine is beneificial. Eat a good breakfast, lunch and dinner. Limit snacks and sugar drinks. Give lots of fresh juice.
Wash surfaces with disinfectant often. Especially keep the bathroom clean and fresh every day. You should see an improvement. The kids need to build up their immune system. If they are stressed out from being tired or eating poorly, they will catch viruses more often.
Good Luck!
2006-12-17 00:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by Chew on this! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look tell your mum in law to shut up. Kids get sick and there's nothing you can do about it. You're right, one gets it and the rest follow. I live with 2 neices and a nephew, ages 2,6&8 and one always has a nasty nose or cough. They are well taken care of and healthy kids. They go to school and day care and they always wash their hands. So mum needs to quit bugging you. That's just how it is.
2006-12-17 00:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by moveandlose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry! it seems to me, that you are a good mom, and you care very much about your childrens health! nothing is your fault, you chould tell your mum in law, to back off and let you be the mommy for a while. children and the elderly are most likley to catch colds. thier immune system isnt as srtong as ours. but, you are doing your best, and it sounds to me like you are doing great! there are worse things out there than colds. keep up the good work, and i hope your little ones feel better soon! take care and good luck!
2006-12-17 00:21:43 · answer #6 · answered by superyduperymommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids pick up a lot of viruses at school and daycare. Children of smoking parents are more susceptible to respiratory infections.
2006-12-17 00:18:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't prevent kids from getting sick, its what they do. They can get it from other sick people in the general public, babysitters, school or, well anywhere.
2006-12-17 00:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by roman_ninja 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋