I might be in love with a girl who is 33 with 3 kids and tubes tied. I am 24 and I want my own family, so we are totally uncompatable in that since, but whenever we hand out we have tons of fun. Last time she kissed me when we were both drinking and bowling with friends.
I think I might love her but I don't want to throw away my chance to have my own kids. I don't know what to do. I think she likes me as much as I like her, but has her own inhibitions about it.
2006-12-16 16:10:38 · 12 answers · asked by JoeIQ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All in all I've known her almost 2 years. As time goes by I've been wanting her more.
2006-12-16 16:14:51 · update #1
THERE NOTHING TO DECIDE YOU ARE 24 AND SHE 33, AND
SHE HAS CHILDREN AND YOU WANT TO BE A DAD. AND THERE NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT BUT GET WITH HER]
WOULD BE A PROBLEM DOWN THE ROAD BECAUSE YOU
WILL START TO RESENT THE FACT THAT SHE CANT HAVE
ANY MORE CHILDREN. SO YOU NEED TO THINK DOWNTHE
ROAD AND WHAT YOU REALLY WANT. THEN YOU CAN MAKE
THE DECISION THAT WOULD BE BEST FOR EVERYONE.
2006-12-16 16:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is more important. Always. If you love her, then keep your relationship and possibly become married to her one day.
Adoption is always an option, you can still have your own family. Her kids aren't untouchables. They will be your family to. Your own family is anyone that is in it, there aren't walls around step children.
And remember that not every relationship works out. You may not end up with her in the end, you may end up with someone capable of having children. But you might end up with her. So don't throw away a relationship just because you want children. There are other ways to have kids.
Good luck.
2006-12-16 16:16:05 · answer #2 · answered by Bored. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, love can be very random at some times. If you truly like her a lot, then keep seeing her and give it a shot. You may end up falling in love with her kids.
Remember though, you're still young, and don't need to be dealing with kids just yet. Besides, wouldn't you love to raise your own kids from birth? Something to think about.
2006-12-16 16:15:24 · answer #3 · answered by Greg S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joel-
really- you get 3 kids in the deal?
If you ask me honestly as a professional-
I would tell you to make of list of I must haves' and I can happily live without.
IF the must have's are longer than- your personal needs are much higher and resentment will raise its head in a few years.
talk in the light of day-hormones can really mess up a serious chat- so keep it at a coffee shop.
I hate to tell people to seek love with another, yet just your age differences and life experiences are enough for me to suggest that "she " may not be the "exact fit" for you as a mate.
Best wishes
2006-12-16 16:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
screw the ***** and go for some sexy 20 year old, you dont want a 33 year old hag with 3 kids. as soon as you get in their you'll be pussywhipped and have to take care of her kids. plus she tied her tubes for a reason (shes a slut) she tied them so she can't keep getting pregnant and keep having kids. go for the 20 year old or at max a 24 year old.
2006-12-16 16:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let the age thing come between you for one. as far as the kids go though i know that it can be done to end up feeling like her kids are your kids. i know that it may not sound like it now but believe me it happens!! its just like adoption, biologically they aren't yours but the feelings you have for those kids you adopt couln't be any stronger than if they reall were yours. i was a single mom too so i know that our concerns are usually about our kids and how they will react to having a man around and how you will react to being with them. so talk about it. and talk to the kids, let them know how you both feel and ask how they feel and you all will be able to come to a good decision on your own!!! GOOD LUCK!!
2006-12-16 16:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your goals in life are different, then there is no use. My friend went through the same thing. She was with him 3 years before she put an end to it. Don't hurt yourself in this. Look at the bigger picture. Don't persue it.
Best wishes.
2006-12-16 16:15:05 · answer #7 · answered by Bikini bandit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart, maybe you will fall in love with her kids like they were your own..
2006-12-16 16:12:56 · answer #8 · answered by dwickleworth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her you would give up ur dream of kids
2006-12-16 16:14:44 · answer #9 · answered by someone n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm no expert but it doesn't sound like love to me. lust maybe. definitely not love.
2006-12-16 16:13:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋