My GF & I have been together 4 about 1 1/2 and we have have a 8 month old baby girl. When we first met we did it like jack rabbits but for the last 6 month she is almost never in the mood. I am young and love to have sex and my GF has always know that. My GF says that she don't care for sex that much. I told her that I understood but to meet me half way sense we are committed and living together and thinking about marriage and are not with anyone else because I have needs. I asked her if she could at least give me some sex at least once every two weeks. I have begged and pleaded with her and we have tried everything from counceling, 4 play.Everything & she is not into it. I can count on one hand how many times we had sex in the last 5 months. That is crazy. I met a girl and we have been talking to for about a month on the phone and knows my situation & wants only sex with me. I told her I want to so bad but had to think about it. I am a good BF but enough is enough!!What should I do?
2006-12-16 15:50:27 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she is suppost to please you even if she is not in the mood.
2006-12-16 15:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you are considering marriage, how can you consider cheating? Separate or stick to it. Don't cheat. Have you mentioned that part to her? Are you aware that the sex drive of a woman can drastically go down after having a baby? It can last a while depending on the woman. She can ask her doctor about her libido. There are many things you can do BEFORE you start and cheat on her. Think about it carefully because she will find out sooner or later, the truth always comes out. What will you do then? Don't forget you have a child together. Sex is important in a relationship, but there is no relationship if there is an extra person.... even if she's a sex toy.
2006-12-16 15:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by Bikini bandit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your girlfriend how you feel about the situation and that you have needs and what do she expects you to do. One may not want sex when they are depressed or stressed out. If you love her do not cheat on her right now and just wait until the problem is solved. Things may work out after a serious talk together.
2006-12-16 16:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her. I had this same concern. After being married for 2 a lengthy time period! All i fairly needed became some thing a touch different. i became very undesirable. i personally had made an association, yet at the same time as it got here time, i could not do it. you word, i could not do it with yet another lady, then face my spouse back, and knew it. i could not do some thing that had a conceivable of wounding her (what with HPV on 80%, and Herpes on 15%). So I approached this the way I frame of mind each situation. i became brutally honest, I informed my spouse each thing. My actually request became that she became more desirable conscious of me in mattress, and that i made her, uh, shave it. It became very demanding, yet once you get by using to the different aspect, you'd be pleased with your self. sure, it really is dishonest till she can furnish permission, reliable success on that.
2016-10-18 09:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by durrett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 3 parts to any relationship and they are at different levels of need for every person and every relationship.
mental
emotional
physical
all 3 out of 3 need to be near the same for both of you or it won't work. You need to be there for your daughter but you need to get out of the relationship. don't cheat, be honest, break it off, be up front. It won't be easy but it's the only way.
note on the previous answer don't buy in to the notion that you can't have custody don't settle for less then 50% shared custody.
2006-12-16 15:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by hogie0101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your plight. Me and my BF have been together for 5 yrs and he sometimes complains of me not giving it to him enough, although nowhere close to your situation. Please dont cheat on your GF. I would be absolutely deastated if I were her. Talk with her about it and make sure she knows how much it bothers you. I've fought with my BF over this plenty of times, and now we both understand eachother and our needs. Talk to her and make sure she knows less than 5 times in 5 months is Not good enough for you. If she loves you, she should be willing to compromise. If you've tried counseling and 4play, try hormones. Ive looked into it fr myself to boost my libido for the sake of my BF. But be careful how you bring it up to her, make sure you dont come across as angry.
Sex for women is different than it is for men. Women need to feel it emotionally before they can get into physically. Men can do it anytime, anywhere. But for women, alot of things alter her libido, like stress, mood, etc. Also try switchin up your daily routine. Go out with her and do something different. Go on a date, make her feel special. Studeis have showed that changes in atmosphere or your day to day routine can create an increase in sex drive.
Good luck.
2006-12-16 16:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by diidy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well personally, i think there has got to be something wrong with your girlfriend if she doesnt want to have sex but a few times in 5 months...thats just crazy! i am not going to tell you to cheat, but i understand where ur coming from. let me ask you this...do you actually think this relationship is going to work if the 2 of you are this much different when it comes to something as important as intimacy??? i think you should just let her know that you cant take it anymore and tell her you are seriously considering cheating on her if things do not change....if she doesnt want to work with you on this i think your only option would be to break things off with her as bad as it would be.....good luck i hope everything works out for you
2006-12-16 15:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by Amy N 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it was because of the baby. Maybe she's afraid she might get pregnant again. Just make sure that when you do it. You use protection and ask her to go on the pill. And dont cheat on her the you'll look like a jerk and an idiot because you'll lose your girlfriend and proably your baby too.
2006-12-16 15:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by Via 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO DONT DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Lay down the law. Tell her "Look ive been nice, ive been polite, ive got us help and you still say no. I am a man and ive GOT to have sex. Either you work with me, be apart of my life and give Me That p@ssy that i so desire from you, Or, i dont want to be in this relationship any longer. Now you can get mad angry pissed. I dont care but Thats the way it has to be. If i continue to stay in this sexless relationship, I guarentee you, I Will Cheat! I know this is not what you want to hear, but i dont what to hear what you tell me either. so what will it be? SEX with you( which is what it want) or just go our seperate ways?"
Good luck to you!!!
2006-12-16 16:03:22 · answer #9 · answered by Crissy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't cheat. Either break up with your girlfriend (if you think sex is more important than your relationship), or commit to her and not having a lot of sex for the rest of your life. Cheating is cheating no matter what the circumstances.
2006-12-16 15:53:59 · answer #10 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Just say NO. You said you were thinking about marriage & thinking of cheating on her in the same paragraph. Ugh. Keep up with the counseling & deal with it or break up & move on.
2006-12-16 15:53:30 · answer #11 · answered by Willow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋