I'm a guy by the way!
Let me repeat I'm a guy lol!
If a women comes out a relationship where she was being used for everything, and even a relationship that left her with a kid, how will she approach the dating scene now?
I ask this because I am dating a women who has come out of all this, and I feel she is TESTING me?
If this where you, would you feel the need to test men!?
2006-12-16 15:34:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course, most men today claim they want an independent woman but what they really mean is they want a second mother. I am in a relationship right now that is making me so mad.My boyfriend sits around and basically leaves it up to me to do everything. When i complain and say i would be better of by myself, he manages to pitch in for a minute but then goes back to his same old dirty ways. I've complained to my girlfriends that have said it's me because i do not allow him to be responsible. I have tried what they suggest, you don't even want to know how many times my cellie has been turned off as a result. If i do end up leaving him and get into another relationship u better believe that i will test that man to make sure he helps me out and not suck the life out of me
2006-12-16 15:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hmm, that's not how women test men. I'm a woman and women test men by seeing how much they will step up to the plate and be a man. If the guy doesn't pass her tests, she'll dump him. I am so not kidding. Most of what people are saying is not about testing, it's about getting permission or gauging whether or not they can handle something or are lying. That isn't a test. A test is when you push him to his breaking point and see if he can handle it. The minute a guy wimps out at what a woman throws at him, he's history. Men don't do the same thing. She wants a male who will protect her and her children in the future. She has to test his ability to be a man. She does not have to pass any test other than visual. He wants fertile and healthy. She wants protector and provider. She passes one test and she will then test his manhood over and over again until she thinks he can protect and provide. She'll push him until he can't take it. No way do men test women like women test men. She'll continue to push after they have children to make sure he isn't slacking off. There is no way a man tests a women like she does him.
2016-03-28 21:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet she doesn't even realize that she's testing you. She probably just expects to experience the same disappointments with you than she has with past men.
You'll just have to give her time. How much will depend on how deep the scars run. My boyfriend stopped thinking that I was going to go psycho after we'd been together for about 6 months. I could sense him cringing sometimes, because he was expecting a tantrum.
It's probably a good idea for you to let her know that you feel that she's testing you. Especially if it's pushing you away. That she she's aware of her behavior and has a chance to make a change.
Good luck.
2006-12-16 15:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by LifesAMystery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When two people first meet, everything is a test ranging from what you do and say to how figuring out what you can get away with or what offends the other person.
When they have kids, the test can be much different. She may pay attention to how often you want to include the child in outings or what your feeling are concerning discpline.
Testing is just apart of courting.
2006-12-16 15:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by BionicNahlege 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no! and if that is really what shes doing it wont work! you will get tired of trying to show her that you are not like the guys before who did this to her! it will get old you will "move on" and she'll say "see i knew you were the same!". she needs to put a period at the end of that part of her life. if she cant then its too soon for her to have a relationship. either way you need to ask yourself if you have time or the energy to "pay" for this other guys mistakes? good luck and take my word!
2006-12-16 15:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by nightyzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly yes. I'd feel hesitant about trusting another man with my heart. Someone had already broken my heart and left me plus one. Now i'm a broken hearted single mom.
You just have to be slow and it'll take a lot of time and hard work. but you can prove to her that you're not like that last jerk. Good Luck.
2006-12-16 15:37:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes and no. i think every women needs to feel comfterable with their bf/spouse/partner before they really can trust them and with her backround i think yes she is proably testing you but don't be alarmed because its really natural. most women do it anyways whether they realize it or not. just calm down and dont do anything stupid or anything you know will mess up your realtionship with her. take things slow and let her progress at her own speed. just always reassure her you are a good guy and support her and you should be fine.
2006-12-16 15:43:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's common for women to test men. Don't flunk the test.
2006-12-16 15:38:08 · answer #8 · answered by Joe C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well any little thing could be a "test" but you shouldnt think of it that way. its just a way for girls & BOYS!! (i know guys do it too!) to see how well they know eachother. its just to see if they had been paying attention when for ex. you were talking about how you love a certain band ect.
2006-12-16 15:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think wee all feel the need to test new partners. Wouldn't you????
2006-12-16 15:38:01 · answer #10 · answered by Darling girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋