He has two babies and me of course and no matter what i tell him i know he misses home i just want him home with his family its the first christmas away from each other what do i do?
2006-12-16 15:13:47 · 18 answers · asked by Lil Mommi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Mine has been gone for over two months now and he really really misses me and home and constantly tells me this. I tell him to just accept the fact that he has to be gone and each day that passes is a day that brings him closer to coming home. It can be frustrating, but I just try to listen because he really is in an awful situation and would MUCH rather be home. You can always tell him to go talk to the Chaplain. But in my honest opinion, you can only say so much, and you could say everything that a wife could possibly say to her deployed husband but he will still miss home no matter what! Just try to be positive with him. Make sure you make him feel happy when he is sad. I know exactly what you are going through and sometimes I don't know what to say either. But he will be okay and he will make it through this. The only way to make it through deployments without being incredibly depressed is to accept the situation and deal with it...not dwell on it and feel sorry for yourself. I always tell my husband that the only thing keeping us apart is time and distance. Time will not stop so we know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. The distance can be covered in a matter of days!!! Tell him to be strong and tough it out!
2006-12-16 15:21:56 · answer #1 · answered by His Angel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how much you love him and that his family misses him, but we are all counting on the guys over there to do a good job.
Iraq is a pivot point for the world. If things don't go well there in the end, there may be a bigger war with lots more countries involved. That could mean no Christmas as we know it for a while.
Thank you for the sacrifice your family is making! My nephew is in Ramadi.
2006-12-16 23:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by Susan M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you video the kids opening their presents from "Santa"! If you don't have a video camera, you can buy a disposable one at Walmart or Walgreens for something like $20.00. You can video up to 20 minutes. Send him photos. Tell him that you love him and that you'll be thinking of him and praying for him every minute during Christmas. Send him a lock of your hair or locks of the kids' hair. I know that sounds crazy, but it's something very personal that he can touch that was a part of you that he can keep in his pocket or something.
And also tell him how much we all appreciate him and what he does for our country. The media is so negative and I hate the overall message they portray about the war and our soldiers. But I tell you what, all Americans are proud of our soldiers and are very thankful for the job that they do to protect us!!!! So send him a big THANK YOU from us!
2006-12-17 00:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweets, I know how you feel--my son is there, and his GF lives with us.
You need to keep the lines flowing--e-mail or send a snail-mail EVERY DAY (I do!)
If all you ever say is "I LOVE You", it will still mean so much to him that you keep communicating!
Send him what you can--a lock of the babies' hair, or yours, their booties, a prayer---hon, if it's from you & your kids, it means EVERYTHING!!
Yes it hurts, and tell him, because he's afraid you will forget him & find a new man---reassure him, but stay upbeat!
This problem----sadly-----is as old as human love vs. war.
Just let him know repeatedly that you are always waiting for him, missing him, praying for his safety--and that you KNOW he will soon be home to complete the happy family.
Bless you & your babies!!
2006-12-16 23:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you love him and will be there waiting when he steps off the palne.
Maybe you could sing "Right here waiting" by Richard Marks to him
Ocean's apart day after day
And I slowly go insane
I hear your voice on the line
But it doesn't stop the pain
If I see you next to never
How can we say forever
Wherever you go
Whatever you do
I will be right here waiting for you
Whatever it takes
Or how my heart breaks
I will be right here waiting for you
I took for granted, all the times
That I thought would last somehow
I hear the laughter, I taste the tears
But I can't get near you now
Oh, can't you see it baby
You've got me going crazy
Repeat chorus
I wonder how we can survive
This romance
But in the end if I'm with you
I'll take the chance
Oh, can't you see it baby
You've got me going crazy
Repeat chorus
2006-12-16 23:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by mongo_wood 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that the entire country is against this war, and that they support the troops as heros but cannot take much more of this war. Soon they'll have to re-deploy and start sending people home. Bush cannot sustain this, so tell him he'll be home sooner rather than later. Or maybe already knows when he'll be home. Well good luck to you.
2006-12-16 23:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by ebillar 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am soo sad for you both, im not sure anything anyone says will make it easier for you but ive never had the chance to say this so im going to now. its not just your husband we (americans) are SO grateful to and thankful for its also the familys who are left behind that we sometimes forget to thank! we(i anyway) are very grateful that you share him and he should know we are so PROUD of him and were lucky to have him on our side.thank him for parting with his family to serve and i hope he is home with you soon and maybe this will be the only christmas away from you. i hope this will at least put a smile on your face and make the most of this holiday for your kids and take lots of pictures to send "dad" and thank you both!!!
2006-12-16 23:26:06 · answer #7 · answered by nightyzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it won't last forever. Tell him that if he hears that people are against the war they're not against him. Tell him how much his kids look like him and how it makes you feel better to have a part of him here with you while he is gone. Tell him it'll hopefully be the last Christmas he'll ever spend away from you and that he should be happy he's not here to help you with the dishes :)
2006-12-16 23:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Send a small stuffed toy/animal filled with the perfume that you wear the most. I was in the first gulf war and my girlfriend sent me a perfume bear. You can't believe how it stimulates memory to have that smell that is so associated with you. Good luck and congratulations on choosing a man that is so important for everyone.
2006-12-16 23:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by HendryDoso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about you families situation. It must be really hard for him to be over there and you and the kids over here. I would just actually like to tell him something. I would like to say that I support the troops over there and I pray for them all everyday. I will make sure I keep your family in my prayers and I hope that everything goes good with you. I am really sorry.
2006-12-16 23:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by countrygirl:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋