I have this mentality that I would never ask someone to be my boyfriend. The reason is that I want to know and I need to know that the person (whoever it may be) would have chosen me anyway without my influence (by me asking). What do you think? Am I weird? If you are a guy, does it influence your decision if a girl asks you out who you wouldn't have asked out? I think so, but tell me if it is otherwise.
2006-12-16 15:04:45 · 5 answers · asked by Lilliana 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In response to some of the answers so far: I have showed interest, for a sustained period of time... I'm actually going to give up on that person. But I posted this question just to see what people think about why a girl/woman may not want to ask a guy out. For goodness sake, I have asked him out to meals before. I don't fear rejection, I'm just fed up.
2006-12-16 15:19:19 · update #1
A lot of women seem to feel this way. I should point out that it takes some courage to ask a person out. Sure, by requiring them to take the first step, you rule out some wishy washy types. But you also risk losing out on some guy who merely misread the signals. What the actual risk is and what is acceptable is for you to decide.
As a guy, for me to start "wooing" a woman requires first that she catch my eye. Then, as things progress (IF they do) I still need some sign that I have a chance. Disinterest not only encourages me to cut my losses, it's a turn-off.
As to being asked out, sometimes it can be a plus or a minus. If they seem to eager, I will tend to say no as politely as I can. If they simply seem strong-willed, it can be a plus. But I don't think that should discourage you. That he might otherwise have not asked you out could simply mean that he doesn't know you well enough.
Hope something here helps. Good luck.
2006-12-20 01:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by maxdwolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand you I am an old fashioned girl and dont like to initiate relationships. I dont think theres something wrong with it but you shouldnt play "hard to get" give hints that you dig the dude hopefully he'll pick up on it and ask you out
2006-12-16 23:08:30 · answer #2 · answered by cvegas229 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you show no interest no guy will date you. Make sure you dont remain a spinster. There is nothing wrong in being single. But after certain age one feels lonely. You have to decide how you wish to conduct yourself.
2006-12-16 23:10:31 · answer #3 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should ask a guy out and on the date ask him, "Is there any chance you would have asked out if I hadn't asked you first?"
Let his answer be a guide to how the rest of the relationship goes.
2006-12-16 23:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go out with the IDK Retard (formally the What Do I Do Retard)
2006-12-16 23:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋