26 and a virgin, is this bad?? I date men alot and alot of them are very respectful of the idea, and said they will wait. I made a promise to wait till I am married, but its getting more difficult. Is this bad I am still a virgin at my age? Just with all the STD's the chance of pregnancy scares me. Although trust me I am sure I would enjoy it if I did, but I really want to wait.
2006-12-16 14:50:01 · 31 answers · asked by Imyourfantasy4u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl it doesnt get any easier from here on. IM a virgin by choice and im in my late thirties. I was recently on a talk show for that subject. In this day and age you are going against 99.9999999999% of all people here in america, cause most dont value the sacradness of sex anymore. They just wanna screw and forget what love is all about. I am also waiting till i get married so i know what you are going through girl. You have got to make urself known by joining social groups of people with similar morals. Trust me when your marriage night comes if he doesnt think sex is that big of a deal you will both regret it after.
Its awesome that your still a virgin but u should start to look to get married soon. I will say a prayer for u that you meet your soulmate. My prayers usually work for other people lol.
2006-12-18 05:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by virgin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fine that you're still a virgin, as long as you're comfortable with it. The decision to lose your virginity is a very personal thing, having nothing to do with age. For a long time, I planned to wait until I was married, but life went on, and my priorities changed. I never regretted waiting, however, and now I don't regret not waiting. I think the key is to never be pressured into doing something you don't want to do.
2006-12-16 15:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by allimarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kudos for you! There's nothing wrong with waiting until you're married (especially in this day and age when VD is new, improved and able to kill!) As a devout Catholic woman, I waited until I was married (age 29) to lose my virginity and I've never regretted it. Sure, I lost some dates, but hey, if they felt that way and could not respect such an important and personal issue to me, then I didn't need them anyway. My husband respected my decision, did not pressure me or make me feel like I was doing him wrong. We had a nice courtship (lasted 7 months) and got to know one another on so many other levels. We have now been married for 16 years and have two babies. *smile* And he tells me everyday how honored he was that I waited for the right man. You're doing something very important....something important for you and your health. One of the greatest acts of self-love is being true to thy own self. You, my friend, are comitting an act of self-love that goes beyond words and can never be bought. If you lose yourself you're gone for good. So the men that pressure you or try to make you feel inept for waiting...forget 'em. Their not "the ones" if they're trying to manipulate you into doing something you're not ready for and won't be there afterwards anyway. Hang in there and stay true...and strong. God bless!
2006-12-16 14:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by Madame 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My only worry for you is that you will build sex up so far in your head that when you finally have it, it will be a big big dissapointment. I waited until I was 20, and when it was over I was like..."That's it? That's what I was waiting for?"
I hate to say this, but it makes perfect sense: Why would you buy a car without giving it a test drive. Or, you try on the shoes to make sure they fit before you buy them. The idea of waiting for marriage is noble, but I would hate to see someone marry someone they aren't sexually compatible with.
May I suggest, perhaps waiting for marriage will be difficult, but waiting for a serious relationship should be alright. I say do it when it feels right, use protection religiously and see a doctor regularly.
2006-12-16 14:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not a bad thing at all!!!! I can only imagine how lucky your future husband will be.
As far as all the crap others will give you, don't listen. It doesn't matter how inexperienced or experienced your mate is in the bedroom, there's always training to be done. In other words, each other needs to explore and find out what each other enjoys and wants. Half the fun is this form of intimate exploration.
Do whatever you feel is right for you and don't give in due to peer pressure or some horny (looser) guy. Good Luck
2006-12-16 14:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by De Expert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wise to wait. Having sex before marriage cheapens it. Trust me. If you have sex just for the sake of having it then that is all it is........just sex. However, if you wait until marriage then you have a great experience awaiting you. The first time only comes once. When you wait until you meet the right guy and marry him and you love him as he loves you, then when you both are together intimately for the first time, is it not true love? s it not the expression of a deep abiding love which you each have for the other? It is not just sex but something more. It is the expression of the depth of feeling in your heart for the love of another person. Each intimate moment after that should be cherished. Love actually only comes once. So don't blow it. Don't cheapen it.
2006-12-16 14:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not bad at all. I am also a 26 year old virgin. My reason is that even though I have been on many dates, I have not found a woman special enough for that. Whomever you finally end up marrying will be honored to have you.
2006-12-16 14:53:58 · answer #7 · answered by Patrick C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not bad. Waiting for the right guy to come along is a pretty good idea actually. You protect yourself in many ways by waiting, including the ways you mention.
Don't let people with different ideas convince you you're wrong. You're doing just fine.
2006-12-16 14:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by Judy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STDs are not the issue here I think. I am just glad to see there are still some people out there will morals. I think you are doing a great and very strong thing by sticking with your morals and I would be proud if you were a friend of myne. Don't do anything you don't want to because you feel presured.
2006-12-16 14:53:56 · answer #9 · answered by Deeneyboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont' think Its bad..but I'm a girl, and I'm still a virgin. Although I'm only 18, with the way my life is going right now and guys not being my top priority..college coming first and all, I'll probably at least in my mid-twenties when I'm willing to give it up to some guy..
2006-12-16 14:53:30 · answer #10 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋