Ok I was at the mall today and this mother had her kids on a leash. It was wrapped on there wrist but who would do that to a child. I mean I have seen those leashes but I have never seen anyone use them. I think it is terrible and it looks trashy. Come on that is terrible to do to some! Anyone agree?? -Happy Hoildays!
2006-12-16 14:40:49 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
They use those to keep their kids from running away
2006-12-16 14:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by A nobody 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is another perfectly logical reason one might do this which has not already been mentioned. What if the parent or child (or both) had prosopagnosia, a cognitive condition whereby the person is unable to recognize people using the face as the primary recognition clue? If the parent has prosopagnosia and the child is still too young to understand the social implications of a parent who has it, losing their child in a crowded place might be a very scary proposition for the parent to not be able to locate his or her child again. If the child has prosopagnosia, he or she will not easily be able to locate their parent if they get separated. If both have prosopagnosia (apparently not so uncommon if one does), then who knows if they will ever be able to find each other again? In such a case, a leash could be very effective at preventing "lost people" from not being found quickly, if ever.
I'm told that as a child, there was one occasion in which my mother literally had a store in lockdown mode when she couldn't locate me, and I was eventually found dressed up in different clothing tagging along with a complete stranger. I don't remember this at all, but to my mother, this is a very vivid memory. I'd hate to think what would have happened to me if I had not been located. In such cases, I do think that a leash would, indeed, be appropriate for the safety of the child, the parent, or both. If you want more information about prosopagnosia, I run a Yahoo group about it, and you can find that at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/faceblind
2006-12-16 15:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by Glenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I had to use on on my middle son. He has autism and impulse control issues, he would just bolt and run off as fast as he could sometimes. It was specially made for children, (I hope the woman you saw did not have an animal leash on her kids?) and in many other countries that are widely used. As a child reaches a certain age they want to be able to walk and explore the world around them, but in a busy crowded place like the mall during the holiday season it would be unsafe to have a small child walking by them self, they could disappear in the crowd or get separated from mom so easily. So I think these "leashes" are actually a great idea! The child gets to walk and have some freedom, but mom can still keep control of the situation.
2006-12-16 14:46:41 · answer #3 · answered by meow 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think the leashes that go on the wrists are horrible. I swore up and down I would never do that to my child either, but I found one that is a backpack. It's a monkey and the tail of the monkey is the "leash" part. It looks so much better then the ones that go on the wrist, and we call it a backpack, its not a leash. I tried it out on my daughter (age 2) and she loved it. She liked the fact that she could walk by herself with out holding onto anybodies hand. Now once she started to not like it, I wouldnt make her use it anymore..We dont use it often, only when we go to big places like the zoo and ect, but being in Japan it does come in handy.
2006-12-16 15:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by Apryl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Child leashes allow the child some freedom, mom the use of both hands and keep the child safe from physical dangers and strangers.
Would you rather see a bunch of fat-*** kids trapped in strollers? Or maybe more kids with tire tracks on them?
Do you know how hard it is on the back to bend ever so slightly to hold a child's hand all the time? Not to mention how much most kids hate to hold hands.
Seriously until you walk a mile in that woman's shoes you have no right to judge her. At least she is keeping her kids safe and under control.
2006-12-16 15:16:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
With all the rush and commotion as well as the kidnappings, I'd rather look like a 'terrible' mother and get to go home with my child (safe & sound) than have them running freely and something happening to them, and I go home feeling guiltly for the rest of my life. Besides a 'leash' was used on me at times, when I was a child, to keep me near my mum so that nothing happened to me - I turned out great!!
Have a great Xmas and a fantastic and safe 2007.
2006-12-16 15:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by mayeranthea 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had a very very hyper 1st child who would always run away and climb on things or hide from me...no matter what I did. When he was 2 and a half yrs, my second son was born...now I really had my hands full.
I used those 'leashes' because I had to! Dont judge someone until you have walked in their shoes!
I also might add that I eventualy taught my son to hold onto the stroller (as I couldnt hold his hand while pushing it)...and the leash wasnt forever. Soon I just had to carry it in my purse....and when he started to try to run off and let go of the stroller..I would just take it out and show it to him and he would behave! He quickly decieded he would rather not be running off anymore.
Dont knock it till you tried it!!!!
2006-12-16 15:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by paradox is interesting 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A leash??? Wow, you couldn't think of a better way to criticise mothers who are looking out for the well being of their child? Better yet, you couldn't hink of your own word to describe it? I use a "leash" and have no problem with it! Just cause you see a problem with the idea of safety in an unsafe world does not mean you have to start bashing mothers who care for their children! Get over what others are doing and concern yourself with you and you only!!
2006-12-16 16:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine Swirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are getting pounded by the other Mom's out there with responses....yep the leashes work...there are tons of reasons to use them and yep - trashy, but have you been to the malls the last couple of days and this being a wekend day.... Bless the mommies trying to do their best to help their kids be safe. I have ADHD sons. My first son was very out of control because I couldnt find a dr to see him since he was so young...I needed the additional help to keep him near me...
A suggestion for the mommies....leave the purse at home and get a debit card....take it and your ID in your back pocket - this SO frees up your hands and is very simple and easy!
2006-12-16 14:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by star 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok- This summer I was pregnant. I have a 4 year old who will always stay by me and a 2 year old who thinks she is above all and doesn't have to listen to me. She would run away and no matter what I did (praise or punishment) she would still do it. I got her a back pack that has a strap on it so that I can keep her close by and I don't loose any children. Now, I have a newborn, a 4 and half year old and a 2 year old. I have a choice I can go running after her (if I don't have a stroller) and possibly need to leave the baby to find my 2 year old. Or, keep her close with what we call buddy bear. You choose what is best! Please don't judge other peoples parenting. They are doing what they need to keep their children safe and everybody happy.
2006-12-16 14:49:08 · answer #10 · answered by kelliemag 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay, personally, I wouldn't do that with my son. That is me. Everyone is different. Maybe she has had a bad experience with her child running off. You see all of those movies with parents losing their children, especially in mall? I have. I think maybe she done that because she's very cautious. It may look really bad, but I would rather be safe, than sorry. If my son ran off in a mall, and I couldn't find him, when I found him, I would defin. have him on a leash. Maybe strapped in a stroller, super tight. LOL. You can't be, too safe with your children these days.
2006-12-16 15:21:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋