I want to get engaged so bad! What should I do?

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We are high school sweethearts. I want to get engaged so bad! he is still in school but will be done by the summer. I dont want to get married until 2008 or 2009 so he would have time to get a good job and everything. I dont know what to do..I am getting so discouraged because I have waited a long time and he seems like he is very comfortable and doesnt seem like he has to move on to the next step anytime soon. I practically live with him so he probably thinks nothing will change. It is driving me crazy because I want to be engaged..please help me. What should I do?

PS. I know I cant make him or anything but he tells me we def. will get married but I dont want to wait another 5 years or so.

Answer 1

If you really, truly know that you want to marry this man, and aren't just in love with the idea of marriage (trust me, I made that mistake with my high school sweet heart) ask him about it. You said he says you guys will definitely get married someday, but how does he say it? If you think that maybe he really wants to, but is just afraid to propose, do it yourself! More and more women are doing it nowadays. Maybe if he'll be relieved? If not, you may find out how "comfortable" he really is in your relationship. Maybe he doesn't realize how anxious you are to move on to the next step. He may think you are just as "comfortable" as he is. But also, think about what being engaged means. Do you actually NEED to be engaged? Maybe he is just waiting...Anyway...Good luck! I hope it all works out with you two, and I hope you have a wonderful life ahead of you!!

Answer 2

You've been waiting for 5 years and things seems to have been going reasonnably well and of course he would be comfortable and not in a hurry to move to the next step. And yourself saying that you dont want to get married before 2008 or 2009, so dear Heart, what's wrong with being a bit more patient and not push the issue of getting engaged! It does not have to drive you crazy. You are making yourself unhappy for the sake of being engaged, so you can still get engaged in your heart and so does he until it is time to make it official. Don't you think? You practically live together anyway. Don't you trust him when he tells you that you will definitely get married?

Also, you are presuming that he is thinking nothing will change.

Just get the logic and common sense in this. Of course dear Heart. Food for thoughts to you. What would an engagement ring change in your lives?

Ask yourself if you want any changes to take place and if it is just the fact that an engagement ring would be some kind of token to calm your insecurities?

If you love each other, be happy with what you have right now and do not worry about an engagement. It will come in time. Some people I know never got engaged and married years after and are very happy together. Nothing had changed after they got married and they skipped the engagement.

Have a beautiful holiday season. Happy celebrations in whatever both of you decide to do.
GBY.

Answer 3

Wait until he is out of school at least. Maybe he wants to buy you a nice ring and do this "right" and when the time is "right" Don't put pressure on a good relationship by moving too fast. 5 years is a long time but the oldest you could be if you were HS sweethearts is like what...23? You are young! If you were 33 I could see you getting a little antsy only because you start to hear the biological clock ticking, but if you are in your 20's you have nothing to worry about. And if you don't want to get married until 2008 or 9 then you don't need to start planning just yet.
Relax and when the time is right for both of you it will happen.

Answer 4

C'mon Lisa, what's the deal here??? You didn't even mention love or anything like that. You've had bf installed for 5 years and now you want to get engaged.

You should back off for 2 or 3 years and find out whether you love this guy or love the idea of being engaged.

Answer 5

it particularly is excellent once you meet your genuine love in highschool and it works out, mine seems to have so a strategies! yet whats the frenzy?? in case you relatively love somebody you do no longer want a hoop or an valid engagement to tutor it! in simple terms be yourselves, appreciate eachother and enjoy being youthful, then once you're nonetheless going reliable in 5 years or so then choose for it! Engagement isn't that vast a deal have confidence me, theres an exhilaration previously each and every thing and its extra useful once you are able to circulate in jointly and in step with probability actually have a social gathering to rejoice, yet as quickly as the 1st couple of weeks of that have worn off, you're nonetheless in precisely the comparable dating, nothings replaced different than you have a hoop! So do no longer circulate worrying approximately issues like that, in simple terms appreciate yourselves x

Answer 6

You know maybe he is waiting to propose to you when he is out of school so he can help with the wedding and go on a great honeymoon with you. If you are expecting to get engaged maybe he is also waiting for that perfect moment to surprise you to make it that more special for you. I would wait till he gets out of school and then see what is going on...

Answer 7

The problem is, "you practically live with the man!"
You said that, not me. What does he have to get married for when he is coming home everyday to something he wants for FREE.

You have to make yourself scarce. That will make him glad to see you and appreciate you when when he does see you.

Don't forget to be nice to him all the time, no harsh words, nothing negative, look sexy, be sexy, but make yourself scarce.
don't do nothing stupid, be sensible.

Answer 8

Sorry, I didn't get engaged...we made a mutual decision to get married and just did it. Engagements are for people who aren't sure they want to get married yet. Especially long engagements.

Answer 9

so why don't you propose to him??
if that's a little weird, then talk to him about how you feel, it's better than waiting forever for something that might or might not happen.

Answer 10

Break up with him.Remember that cow/milk saying.Sucks,but he's comfortable.If you leave and he does'nt chase you....well...but if he does,set an ultimatum.