its all my fault, I said things that I should not have said last night. I called him and try to talk about it but he didn't really say anything much to me. he just mostly stayed quite over the phone. gosh how can I make him change his mind about breaking up with me.
2006-12-16 14:20:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I prescribe the First Strike theory.
Dump him first. That will effectively forestall any action on his part.
Launch away!
2006-12-16 14:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
All you can do is be you. If he wants to break up, there really isn't anything you can do about that. You just can't make a man truly want you if he truly doesn't. I wish I had a better answer, but the truth is what it is, anything other than that would cause you heartbreak. Also, they say out of the heart, the mouth speaks. Unless you were drunk, you probably needed to get what ever it was that you said off of your chest and you meant it, but maybe it could have come out better. Either way, you need the kind of man who would be understanding even if you said something the wrong way or what ever. Stick by You. Own your words, good, bad or indifferent. People who truly love you will understand.
2006-12-16 22:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by volkgal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL MY DEAR,
THERE ISN'T REALLY TOO MUCH YOU CAN DO.
HONEY JUST GIVE IT SOME TIME,AND FIGURE OUT WHERE YOU WENT WRONG, ONCE YOU CAN TALK TO HIM RATIONALLY, THEN AND ONLY THEN YOU SHOULD CALL HIM AND DISCUSS THE SITUATION.
IF YOU GIVE HIM SPACE THE TWO OF YOU WILL PROBABLY REALIZE THAT IT WAS ALL SILLY.
JUST TAKE TIME,AND EXPLAIN WHAT YOU DID WRONG,ITS USUALLY BETTER THAT WAY, ESPECIALLY IF THE OTHER PERSON FEELS HE HAS FINALLY GOTTEN THROUGH TO YOU. DON'T CALL BUGGING HIM BECAUSE THAT WILL JUST PISS HIM OFF, AND HE WON'T WANT TO HEAR ANYTHING YOU HAVE TO SAY.
WHEN YOU APOLOGIZE DON'T MINIMIZE HIS FEELINGS,AND DON'T USE WORDS THAT WILL PUT HIM ON THE DEFENSIVE RIGHT AWAY,AND CLOSE HIMSELF OFF TO YOU.
EX; WHEN YOU DID ............... YOU MADE ME FEEL,AND I .......
IF YOU DO YOU WILL LOSE HIM.
TRY THINKING ABOUT WHAT YOUR GONNA SAY BEFORE YOU SAY IT BECAUSE AFTER YOU HAVE SAID IT ,IT CAN'T BE TAKEN BACK. JUST ASK YOURSELF IF I SAY THIS HOW WOULD I FEEL IF SOMEONE SAID THIS TO ME?
IF YOU FIND THAT YOU WOULD NOT LIKE IT THEN DON'T SAY IT. DON'T WORRY I THINK ALL WILL BE FINE!
JUST PRAY.
MERRY XMAS
2006-12-16 22:38:40 · answer #3 · answered by celestialangel43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him space. If it was meant to be he will be willing to talk later. If this has happened before where you said things you didn't mean then you need to learn restraint. If it was really bad what you said he may never forgive you.
I know this because I have a friend that really loved this one girl but she kept saying mean things to him. He told me that he was going to ask her the question when she said really bad things. Now I know he may forgive her if she changes. So it may be with you and this guy.
2006-12-16 22:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by Tedi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the hard part. You Can't!!! Give him some space and time but not to much time. Apologize but don't say I'm Sorry, that's a game and he doesn't want that again. If it meant to be it will be. Like the old saying goes. Let it go and if it comes back it was meant to be.
2006-12-16 22:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by dakandishop07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change his mind, you can't control other people. Let this be a lesson about saying things you dont' mean. Could be he was already thinking about breaking up and you gave him the reason he was lookking to do it. If it's meant to be he'll realize it on his own.
2006-12-16 22:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know your bf and every1 is different but some people need time to clam themselves down. My bf gets over things quickly when i want everyone to leave me the heck alone. I think you should give him a lil bit more time and then try to discuss it...say u are truely sorry and u didnt mean what you said (im assuming lol) I think after he cools down you will be able to straighten things out...good luck byee
2006-12-16 22:25:42 · answer #7 · answered by Loveme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess it all depends on what you said. I would call him over and tell him to his face how upset you are at yourself for what you said. Explain to him that you really would be devestated if he broke up with you because you really do care for him. Hopefully he'll change his mind.
2006-12-16 22:40:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that but i think if your bf really wants to break up with you then there isnt really anything to stop him unless he wanted to break up with you all along and now he has a reason that he can go by.If you wanna try crying and pleading well go ahead its not a guarantee its gonna work maybe your pride will be shattered though.Try talking and working through it if that doesnt work then maybe its time u let go
2006-12-16 22:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what u said. the best thing u can do is give him his space and let him think about things. if the things u said were so bad that it cant be repaired, then nothing u do now will help... sorry
2006-12-16 22:25:22 · answer #10 · answered by amwolf2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him some space. You cant change his mind, trust me! Just let him have some time to think about what he wants and dont push him at all, it will just push him further away.
2006-12-16 22:23:37 · answer #11 · answered by Onie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋