if u yell and whop a three yr?

Question

if u whop a 4 yr old all the time when he do sumthing wrong or if he not staying in the bed is that right or yell at him

Answer 1

Let's face it bedtime can be a pretty trying time of the day. It may be okay to yell occasionally but not all the time. If you yell and hit your kids in order to control them then you teach them to be afraid of you. I better do what mommy says or she will hurt me. Do you want your kids to fear you?
Another possibility is that this will work for you until your kids are bigger than you. And then remember what you taught them it is okay to hit and yell to control those who are smaller than you. Watch out then!

Answer 2

There are so many other non-physical ways to discipline a child. At the most a little tap on the hand for really bad behaviors, and even then try not to dominate the poor child (he will in turn develop aggressiveness and maybe hit his friends which is unacceptable). Yelling will never resolve anything, the only thing it will do is create fear and low self esteem. Please research on the net or in books about ways of efficient disciplinary measures

Answer 3

Can you get into a parenting class? Whopping a 4 year old is NOT the way to do it.

Yelling at him all the time isn't, either. You need someone to help you.

Answer 4

I don't have problems with that right now. My daughter usually goes to bed by herself when she knows it's time for bed. Um my best answer for this is try finding something else better than spanking or yelling. I mean it still is an option everyone is different how they raise their kids. You could try an hour before bedtime either reading books with him this usualy gets kids to calm down, or get some kind of activity that doesn't involve them being really active cause that will just keep them up for awhile! With yellin and whooping that is just keeping them up I would think. Well I can't tell ya I haven't gotten to that stage yet. Good Luck hope something helps!

Answer 5

no because what is that going to teach them other than it is ok to just hit someone whenever they do something that you don't like? obviously if a child gets up in the middle of the night they either might have to go to the bathroom or they are scared or hungry or many numerous reasons, the same reason an adult might get out of bed, it's one thing to spank a child on the bottom if they actually do something wrong but you'd also have to explain to them what they did wrong and tell them why it is wrong, just yelling and hitting children whenever they do something to annoy the parent is just showing that they are bad parents

Answer 6

well, it is not about being right or wrong, Believe me...you'll get your way if you use other "techniques", if he doesn't stay in bed, instead of yelling at him try to give him some kind of security object, may be if you put low passive music in his room, or you could try reward him if he stays in his bed, or you may want to try and read him a book if he stays there. I know what frustrating can be, but yelling at him won't help at all, in fact you are scaring him of bed. Be patient, and be creative. Good Luck!!

Answer 7

I guess I feel mature enough and mentally balanced enough that I don't feel the need to hit someone younger, weaker, and much less physically strong than me.
Get professional help so that you can learn a healthier way to take control of the situation.

Answer 8

yelling is only indicating that you're out of control. sounds like he's seeking attention, but I'm no expert. That may be the surface problem, but it can be more to it. whippings don't always work, but are sometimes necessary. Seek expert help. Remember yelling never helps.

Answer 9

I wouldn't do either one of those. I would find a way to keep him in bed. Obviously something is bothering him and he wants his mommy. I wouldn't blame him. If i was four and something was bothering me then I would get up and go to my mom. Now since he is a bit older then maybe he doesn't want to miss any excitement. They believe that there is interesting stuff going on and they really dont wanna miss it.

Answer 10

Since most adults do not limit their strength when hitting a small child, it is increasingly illegal and more parents are going to jail for it.
There are effective ways to discipline kids (yelling and violence do NOT work, if they did you would not need to ask that question).
As you can go to jail for child abuse (hitting kids) you should check Dr. Phil's website for alternatives and learning parenting skills. You do not want your child visiting you in prison.

http://www.drphil.com/