I am 36 years old and a single mother of a 6 year old boy. I have been dating a man who is 35, and has two girls ... 3 and 5, for 7 months. We only see each other every other weekend when we do not have our children. We talk every day and have a great relationship. I feel we are at the point where we could introduce our children, but he is very apprehensive ... I don't want to push, but I feel like I am ready for more than 4 evenings a month!!!
2006-12-16 13:53:28 · 21 answers · asked by JC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would wait a few more months, after a year and then bring it up again. He may have some apprehensions due to the children's mother, this may cause problems for him. Or he may just be very scared. However, after a year, I would think that he should be able to take this a step further or let you go. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-16 13:56:08 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would ask the kids and let them decide when they feel comfortable with meeting a potential step dad or mom.That's allot for a kid to handle.As far as him being apprehensive I can understand how he feels.I'm a 45 year old man and I had to do the same thing.Telling my kids I was seeing someone made them uncomfortable and later when I asked about meeting someone they had to adjust to the idea.Hope this helps.
2006-12-16 14:06:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't have time, or the desire to include you with his children. It's kind of sad to think a man has a 3 year old,is not with the mother, and is already dating another women with kids. Doesn't say a whole lot about his character. 7 months is nearly 1/3 of his baby's life- what's your rush?
2006-12-16 13:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay 7 months is long enough why is he apprehensive ? Do you think that maybe the mother of his girls might be a problem since the girls might tell her about you ? Have you met her? If not then that maybe the problem. good luck and god bless and happy holidays.
2006-12-16 14:22:09 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The simple answer is that you are going to have to wait until he is ready, He obviously knows his children and probably doesnt think they are ready yet. You dont say how long you have been dating him so it is difficult to guage if sufficient time has passed, but if it's under 6 months I would wait a little longer.
2006-12-16 14:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her reaction is comprehensible. it ought to't be common to enable go of your perfect of the perfect kin. yet it truly is really a myth and inspite of in case you step out of the photo, I doubt your boyfriend receives back to her. don't sense to blame. do not enable her take you on a guilt holiday. She desires to go back to words with the very undeniable truth that he's lengthy previous and he's not any longer coming back. and that is a few thing she'll ought to do no matter if you stay or leave. you want to envision consisting of your boyfriend even with the truth that. Ask him if he's particular he will under no circumstances come again to her. the finest ingredient you want is him stringing you alongside for years actually to fall back in love consisting of his ex and promote off you. If he's particular, then you actually ought to inform him he desires to make it very sparkling to his ex and leave her off the hook. She desires to allure to close she wouldn't have a shot in hell at getting him back so she will pass on with her own life. and that i'd not take yet another telephone call from her or be left on my own interior of a similar room with her till he's performed that.
2016-10-18 09:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you should invole the kids right way so they could get use to the idea but since that a little to late as soon as possiable would be great. when you involve the kids do it in an inverment that they well feel comfortable in
2006-12-16 13:57:39 · answer #7 · answered by tiff 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think he's very smart to take this slowly.
Children get involved very quickly and this can be confusing for them.
Even if you introduce your children you should still not spend the night together with the children there.
Being a single mother you know that the children and their welfare always comes first.
2006-12-16 13:58:17 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im not the sharpest tool in the shead but i thing you should have introduced them from the very start reguardless of where the rellationship might of gone.
2006-12-16 14:04:35 · answer #9 · answered by stupid 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think its ok 2 introduce ur kids 2 each other
as long as u both have a good bond w/ each other ur kids probably will 2
u also will have more time together :)
2006-12-16 13:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋