Religion and dating question: no premarital sex but...?

Question

Neither of us believe in sex before marriage and we haven't done anything but when things keep getting more physical is it best to break up or work on things?

we have worked on things and took a couple weeks apart but it doesn't seem to have helped.

we're mid twenties actually...but that is still helpful

Answer 1

work through it. if you keep running away from the one you love you won't have that love. when you do get married your bond will be that much stronger with your partner.

Answer 2

Well...I Corinthians 7:1-2 says, "Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband." Yeah, if you two are starting to get physical in any respect, you need to do something. I would try working on things and attempting to further abstain first. Remember to supplement your actions with prayer, for "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." (Phillipians 4:13) However, if you find the temptation too great and cannot remedy things over time, I would suggest breaking up before things get too messy. And don't pay attention to the people who will almost inevitably tell you that you're stupid for believing in not having premarital sex. Stick to the truth, God's Word!

Answer 3

You do not give your age, so I am assuming you may be teenagers, but it would apply to adults.

Dating was not the custom in Bible times. Nevertheless, when carried out intelligently, cautiously, and honorably, dating is a legitimate way for two people to get to know each other. And, yes, it can be enjoyable. But does this mean that you should date?

Man, Women or teenager should not begin dating simply because he or she feels pressured to do so! For one thing, dating is serious business, a part of the process of selecting a marriage mate. Marriage? Admittedly, this may be the last thing on the minds of most youths who date. But really, what justification could there be for two people of the opposite sex to begin spending a lot of time together other than to investigate the possibility of marrying each other? In the long run, dating for any other reason is likely to result in anything but “fun.”

First of all, you should consider whether you (and any prospective partner) are of marriageable age and in a position to fulfill the responsibilities of marriage. Having decided that someone has possibilities as a marriage mate, you might approach the person and express a desire to get to know that one better. Assuming there is a positive response, your first date need not be some elaborate affair. A lunch date, or even being part of a group date, will enable you to become better acquainted so as to decide whether you want to take the relationship any further. Keeping things somewhat informal eases the nervousness both might feel initially. And by avoiding premature expressions of commitment, you can minimize the feelings of rejection, or embarrassment, if one of you loses interest.

This does not mean, though, that you cannot enjoy the company of the opposite sex. But why narrow your association down to one person? The Bible, in another context, encourages us to “widen out” in our associations. (2 Corinthians 6:12, 13) This is good advice for young people.

Waiting a while before you date will not hinder your emotional development or stifle your freedom. Because you have not yet taken on the adult responsibilities of courtship and marriage, you have the freedom to ‘rejoice in your youth.’ (Ecclesiastes 11:9) Waiting will also allow you time to develop your personality, maturity and, most important of all, spirituality. (Lamentations 3:26, 27) As one Christian youth put it, “you should be committed to God, before you commit to anyone else.”

As you get older and your advancement becomes obvious to everyone, your parents will begin to view you differently. (1 Timothy 4:15) And when you are truly ready to date, you will no doubt be able to do so with their blessing.

Answer 4

So many situations like yours...so many.

Much like God holds us, his children, as a 'pure and holy bride', men should do the same with thier women until they are finally united (married). We are unified with God when we go to heaven like women (by tradition) go into the household of thier husbands.

Having a boyfriend/girlfriend is fine. God loves it. However, if it's distracting you from having a relationship with God and his plan for you, then it's bad. (like everything else). That's not just sex, that's talking on the phone for six hours instead of giving God some time to chat.

As Christians were called to endure hardships if we have to, and avoid temptation if we can. NOT to quit. If you can avoid sex, do that. Try not to get in 1 on 1 situations. haha. I've been there.

Stick with God and he'll bring you through no matter what. Ask him that question.

Answer 5

The God of the Bible says, contained in the former and New testomony, that pre-marital sex (fornication) is incorrect. sex is the covenant between a dedicated guy and lady. This relationship mirrors the relationship between God and His human beings. it isn't likely damaged. So living mutually with out marriage is a counterfeit relationship to what God needs for His adult men and females. Socially, it hurts women more beneficial than adult men. i develop into youthful once and used to imagine as you do. yet adventure and wanting to do God's will has lead me to settle for God's preparation in this. He made sex, He is acquainted with the perfect relationship for adult men and females. It develop into incorrect for that pastor to call you inexpensive. He spoke from his personal frustration, no longer from God.

Answer 6

Work on being able to have fun together without being physically intimate. Part of that begins by refraining from discussing topics that turn each other on.

Answer 7

Work on things. No need to break up because of natural, healthy, human urges.

Answer 8

Work on things.

Answer 9

Shalom Abby,

Perhaps you need a chaperon?

Peace

Aza

Answer 10

It's better to set your guidelines before you date. That way, in the heat of passion, you will make the right decision.