What if you came home early and saw your son and his g/f sleeping in each other's arms??

Question

She was in these victoria's secret little panties and bra set, and he was in boxers. The both looked as tho they meant for what they were wearing to be seen by the other.
I think they may have b/c his hand is on her in a way that is not "normal".
Should I go in there and be like" you may want to put on some more clothes, b/c you father is almost home"??
Should I wake him and tell him he should take her home?? Or should she stay and be a part of the discussion??
Will she be all upset b/c this wasn't what she wanted to happen and embarassed cuz she is paractically naked?? Will he be mad or worried about how my husband and I will react??
Should I quietly wake my son and tell him to wake his g/f or just wake them both at once by freaking them out??

they are both 16

Answer 1

You already asked this

Answer 2

Just wake him up nicely and let them get dressed. tell him you'll need to talk to him later. you don't want to over react becuase he will probably keep sneaking around behind your back either way.

if you talk to him, the most important thing that you two have is trust with your son. set out some house rules on what is allowed or not allowed in your home and have your son make that clear to his g/f. if you have a serious issue with it, realize that the only thing you can really do at this point is EDUCATE him about the CONSEQUENCES.

Please, don't over react about it. Don't let your husband come home and embarass everyone. Your family needs to be able to trust eachother and still respect the rules.

I just hope that at this point, you've already taught him well enough that he is at least making good choices.

Answer 3

I think you should wake them up, tell them both to put some clothes on, come into the living room when they're finished, have them sit down & tell their part of the story about what happened before they went to sleep and why they were laying like that. You need to have a conversation with both of them and have a conversation with you and your husband.
As a parent you have to put your foot down and allow them to be embarassed because she's practically naked, she knew that if you came home you'd probably see her half naked. Your son will be mad of course but you need to be the parent and tell him the rules of your household. Have them both present for the conversation with you and your husband.

Answer 4

I think a good sex education is necessary.
Educate your son about sex. The normal relationship of a man and a woman. The responsibility involved in a relationship -- commitment, and child. Since they are sixteen they are definitely too young toward a commitment. Trying to stop them seeing each other will result making them more desire to see each other.
So, you may just have to provide condoms regularly, if you do not want to have grandkid too soon. Tell them to try to close doors -- which is a proper respect to others in the family. You should contact the girl's parents informing them the situation.
However, over and above, you should stress that they should definitely do better in school to gain continued suport of such relationship from you.

Answer 5

I would wake the both of them up, and tell them to get dressed without arguing, and tell them we need to talk- your son and his girlfriend. I would also take them to Planned Parenthood..they could analyze are they ready to have children, learn about birth control, STDS, and birth control. I don't think you would be condoning the two to have sex if they were to get birth control..But sex is a very big decision, and they need to be protected, because they're not ready (I'm assuming they're teenagers) You shouldn't worry about how they feel at you catching them half-naked...it comes with the territory. It's your house and you are the mother. I wouldn't wait for my husband, I'd settle it..you don't want them walking over you, or disrespecting you. I would most defintely confront them, it took a lot of boldness for them to lay in the bed half-naked. I would also talk to your son's girlfriend's parents, they also need to know. So there will be no blaming you if your son's girlfriend comes up pregnant.

PS I think it'd would be wise to inform your husband of what happened. He has every right, he's also a parent. But I'd have a talk with him first alone, and encourage him to be understanding, and to talk to his son as a man-from a man's perspective.

Answer 6

It really depends on how you and your husband feel and the age of your son and his girlfriend.

Do you and your husband have rules about this or beliefs that you should be married before sleeping together? Or is your son of age and its never been discussed before?

If he is under age or this is against your beliefs I would definitly discuss this with him. He has to have respect for your rules and values.

If he is of age and you were just embarrassed Id make sure to knock or set some ground rules that you can all agree too. good luck.

Answer 7

DO NOT OVER REACT. kids act like this and it was going to happen sooner or later. just go in and say 'sons name, you need to wake up. your dad is almost home and you arent going to want him to see you and your gf nearly naked. you should probably take her home for now'

be very calm about it. at least you know and can have them be responsible to get the protection they need if they decide to continue. would you rather have them sneaking behind your back and find out when shes knocked up?

good luck, remember, stay calm

-Denise

Answer 8

for one thing 16 is to darn young for them to be sleeping together .. for every action there is a reaction and consequences to be paid. yeah they're in love " bull , that's LUST,are they in love enough to care for a baby if she should become pregnant, whether it is to care for a child at 16 or to go thru the emotional upheaval of having an abortion or giving the child up for adoption ll three of these things is to much of a life changing decision for someone of 16 to make. they should be going to proms and football games. and worrying on what they are gonna wear the next day and be looking forward to college.Not crying babies,bottles,the cost of diapers, and if mom might watch the baby so they can go to the movies on friday nite. MOM forbid this behavior, and if they can't follow the rules, its time to get a job and take care of themselves, this includes getting their own apt. make sure they understand if they carry out this behavior any where else the same goes... they want to be adults,, but they must learn how to be adult first. There's a reason God made teenagers, to teach them how to become adults. next time the victoria secrets and the boxers come out into plain view throw cold water on them to cool them off. if you don't you're gonna be a grandma before you want to be. i hope this helps. set your foot down and make sure they understand you mean what you say. good luck and MERRY CHRISTMAS, AND HAPPY NEW YEAR.

Answer 9

Scream real loud and scare the hell out of em. That will wake em up. Then send her home and him looking for an apt. where he can live like a low life.Set some rules parents ! This is one of the things wrong with the youth of today. NO MORALS !!!!!

Answer 10

First of all- how old are they? I think they both should be woken up told to get dressed-NOW!-and get a good talking to. A nice conversation about sex and protection and all that good stuff-embarrass them both real good and do not allow them to be home alone together anymore. Unless of course you don't mind them getting intimate in your house and your ready to become a grandparent- in that case, I wouldn't say anything.

Answer 11

Wait! Go get as many family members as you can find! Walk in with the whole crowd and confront them. Sounds like they are already awake just faking it. The big dramatic effect they wanted will backfire with all these people!!!!