My father came out in October. What is your opinion? He is a successful Lawyer. After my parents divorced he goes, "I'm Gay." At my age of 17 I was all, "My dad is- what?" But I've come to terms. My dad is who he is. What do you think?
♥ Emma
2006-12-16 13:18:12 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think you should be happy as long as he's happy. I don't have anything against gay people. He can't change who he is, and I bet he's happy to have your support!
2006-12-16 13:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Because of the way some shows depict gay people eg:BIG BROTHER and some individuals actions, some people feel gay people are all like that but believe me...they are not. Some of the most fantastic looking people, who come across as being anything BUT gay...are gay.
Not in all cases of course. Some think that if you are gay, you act like a girl and are afraid to fight and only want to do filthy things. Again, this is entirely false. You're father needs you right now. You need to log off and speak to him about this. You WILL understand about his sexuality in time. The most important thing of all is that he's happy. For some, its not easy being gay because they feel scared of being rejected by loved ones simply because they want to be who they are and feel loved. Love for a gay man is the same as love for a straight man. When you love someone, it doesnt matter what they are. Its who they are. He brought you into this world and if the tables were turned, he would accept you, you know! Ive been gay since i was 6yrs old and am totally opposite to what gay-haters think. In fact, im just the same as THEM but without the HATE. Im a really down to earth guy just like the others!
Before coming out, i found a lot of my friends were gay-haters. When i did come out, they saw the better picture. They couldnt believe how hatefull they were. It was a massive waking up point for them. A few years down the line and 3 of them realised they were gay themselves and used to be gay-haters ONLY because they were afraid of being discovered!!!!!!!!!!
Isnt THAT something to think about!
Thank God im happy that i found love. Ive been with him for 8yrs already and we are just as normal as anyone elce even without all the glamour and such and such.
You're dad is the same. Remember that. I only hope he doesnt have to wait too long to find love and happieness again. Please stay by him and tell him you love him on regular occasions because we all know you do.
All the best emma babe.
xxxxxx
2006-12-17 09:45:57 · answer #2 · answered by tomy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your pretty amazing to have such an adult attitude, especially considering you are only 17. Too bad there are not more people like you in the world who are just willing to love people for who they are and not what their sexual orientation is. The world would be a much better place.
Your Dad is your Dad. He will always be your Dad no matter what, and the loving, open minded person who YOU are becoming is in part because of the person that your Dad has helped you to become.
I hope your Dad knows how VERY fortunate he is to have such a loving daughter.
Good blessings to you both - there is nothing as special as a father/daughter relationship; treasure it forever because life is too short.
2006-12-16 21:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by Lili 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to support your dad and continue to love and respect him. Is he a good person? I would never generalize and say I love gay people. I happen to have a very close friend that is gay. I love him because of whom he is, not what he is. Don't let your dad's sexuality change your opinion of the man that he is. You sound like you've come to terms, but your worried about how others may feel when they find out your dad is gay. Just be honest with others. I find people are generally good and nonjudgemental. I hope you find that in your life. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-16 21:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by bibliobethica 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"the Gay" people????? It sounds like you have major issues with your father being gay. It does sound like you love him though and that is all you can do, he can't change how he feels, but your love and support of his decisions will be wonderful especially since some of his friends are going to turn their backs on him, which is sad. Gay people are just like you and me with the exception of being attracted physically and emotionally to the same sex. Everyone acts like homosexuality is a "new" thing but it has been around for centuries.
2006-12-16 22:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by lizincali 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I *heart* "The Gays"! Haha, but for real, I'm bi. Love is love...there's nothing wrong with loving or being attracted to a person of the same sex. It's natural and Nature doesn't make mistakes. =)
I think it's awesome that you are open-minded and accepting and seem to be a very loving daughter. Your dad is courageous for finally coming out and he's also very lucky to have a daughter who loves him for HIM. =)
2006-12-17 00:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by Megan V 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think sexuality is completely up to each and every person. God made you that way, so why change? You cannot help who you love, so why bother trying to do something that you truly don't wish to do? Being gay is not an option, it is how you are born. Gay people are awesome, and that's my opinion on gay people. By the way, I am happily engaged to a man, myself being a woman.
2006-12-16 21:27:10 · answer #7 · answered by LiSa B 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I happen to adore them, I have many gay friends in this community. Some are very successful that I know, and I love each and every one of them with most of my heart. Being gay is as normal as being straight, the only difference is who they're attracted too. Nothing wrong with it at all, we're all human. Love thy neighbor correct?
2006-12-16 21:30:47 · answer #8 · answered by Cassidy's Mama 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My parents got divorced because my mother is a lesbian. I learned about it much younger than 17, so it might have been easier for me at first. However, I think it's great to have diversity in one's family. It helps you be more open minded about others. I'm thankful despite the fact that my parents are divorced.
2006-12-16 21:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by fourwhirledpeas 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
What a misnomer! The homosexual life style is not "gay" at all. I am frustrated that people take such nice words and put such awful connotations on them.
I am sorry we live in a sin filled world where we do not do what is right and do not look beyond our own immediate enjoyment. We think when we do something it should not affect anyone else, so it is OK. But everything has a cause and effect. Others are always affected by our decisions. Homosexual behavior is an effect, a symptom, and a cause of much sin. Besides being a sin itself.
I do not hate Gay people, if that is what you think. I love them as creations of God whom He loves and died for. God did not create anyone to do anything He calls an abomination. That came about as a result of sin. God doesn't say, since you have a sinful nature, it is OK for you to go and sin all you want. Jesus said, "Go! and SIN NO MORE!"(emphasis mine).
Your father's sin brought much suffering on your family. But, if you had lived in bitterness, it would have ruined you. I am glad you are not adding that to your list of negative effect of his sin. I'm glad you could forgive him so that you can go on with your life. You do not need anyone to validate your dad and what he did and is doing to himself and those who love him. You cannot change him. You can pray for him, but he will decide what will be his master, just as you will decide what will master you. You have a choice, let your Creator, who loves you, be your master, or let sin be your master. Only by choosing God's Way (Jesus) can you avoid the law of sin and death that leads to hell. Pray that he and you (if you haven't yet) will find God's Way before it is too late and sin takes it toll.
2006-12-16 22:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by Bre 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Gay people are great, and I have never met a gay jerk. They also sometimes adopt kids who would otherwise not have a home to live in, how can that be bad?
2006-12-16 23:33:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋