What if you came home early and saw your son and his g/f sleeping in each other's arms?? She was in these victoria's secret little panties and bra set, and he was in boxers. The both looked as tho they meant for what they were wearing to be seen by the other. Should I wake them b4 my husband gets home?? Should I wait until tom morning when they realize we came home early?? What if my husband instead of getting mad asks my son "how was it"?? Are the chances pretty high they had sex?? Do I wake them?? Do I send her home and call her parents or let her stay??
They are both 16.
What should I do if when they wake up and see us, my hubby is like " so how was it?"??
I think they may have b/c his hand is on her in a way that is not "normal".
Should I go in there and be like" you may want to put on some more clothes, b/c you father is almost home"??
If they totally freak and jump when I say this, did they probably have sex??
2006-12-16 13:04:15 · 16 answers · asked by Kiah 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Should I wake him and tell him he should take her home?? Or should she stay and be a part of the discussion??
Will she be embarassed??
2006-12-16 13:06:36 · update #1
Will she be all upset b/c this wasn't what she wanted to happen?? Will he be mad or worried about how my husband and I will react??
2006-12-16 13:08:31 · update #2
Should I just let this go and in the morning be like "it was a christmas gift for the two of you and I can forgive you this once" instead of getting mad??
2006-12-16 13:09:44 · update #3
Should I quietly wake my son and tell him to wake his g/f or just wake them both at once by freaking them out??
2006-12-16 13:11:19 · update #4
Her parents think she's at a friend's house.
2006-12-16 13:15:04 · update #5
Maddy calm down and quit asking the same question over and over or you will have been on the stupid computer and not talking with your son. get off your computer and do what comes natural be a mother. I hope you listen to me I have answered your questions 3 times now would you like someone to come over and do it for you!!!!!
2006-12-16 13:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by crazynuns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knock on the door politely and tell them they should put on some clothes. Then your son should take her home. She should not be part of the first family discussion about sex. It sounds like you are worried your husband will make some kind of inappropriate parenting gesture, that will cancel out anything useful you might say to your son.
I agree that probably they had sex. But you should not ask him about it in front of his girlfriend. You need to find out what they are using for birth control, and you shouldn't sanction casual sex at this age. Maybe they are really committed to each other though. If you come off as a dictator or a comedien in this situation, you risk alienating your son.
My first reaction would be not to get the other parents involved, unless you know them really well as good friends. You could set your son up for statuatory rape charges. (You might remind him of this possibility.) Be respectful and try by all means to take your husband aside first and discuss it, so you two are not sending out mixed messages.
2006-12-16 21:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let's see, "they are both 16." The real question is are you and your husband prepared to become grandparents for your son's child. Are you willing and able to support the three of them until they are out of school? Has your husband told his son, and has her parents told her the consequences of unprotected sex and what it cost and the sacrifices two young people and all the surrounding family risks of unwanted pregnancies? Maybe you should wake them and ask them would they like to go to the courthouse and get a marriage license and then to the Justice of the Peace for a marriage certificate, only for the sake of your grandchild. That is, so your grandchild does not have to live with the label of being a bastard for its entire legacy. Maybe you should wake them and explain what being a bastard means. Better yet, maybe you, your husband and her parents, as well as these 16-year olds should all wake up before its too late to save their baby's legacy.
2006-12-16 21:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
few questions first. have they been together long,if yes do they look like they will last? im sure if they do they will be mature enough to know to use protection.
also you could be jumping the gun here and they may be innocent in this.
wake them up tell them to dress and sit them down and talk to them dont start shouting at them that they are too young etc. if they did do something they will most probably would be responsible and used protection.
if you start shouting at them you will push your son farther away and he wont confide in you when he needs to.
just find out the situation first before you accuse them of something they may not of done.
if you think your son is a responible young man and his g/f a responsible girl then they will acted responisble when they come to sex.
also i'm from the u.k and se is legal when you are 16 if it the same in every country then i say leave them to it as they are old enough and if it isnt then i do hope they used protection.
hope it goes well.
2006-12-16 21:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by babytots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id be glad theyr not gay, Petting is normal for teens
Thy see all this stuff on tv and are only copying the Fashin they see, of course they want to look nice for each other, wake them up, dont involve your husband, and dont condemn them or they will hide it from you and probably do it in the park,
Take the girl to the doctors and make sure shes on the pill, and buy them some condoms, you cant defy nature and a teens instinct but you can make sure they are responsible
2006-12-16 21:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by Audio Visual master 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let em sleep. If they did have sex, make sure it was safe...by that i mean condom. The worst thing u could do is come in and start yellin at em so don't do that. But maybe when she leaves in the morning ask him he did do the dirty deed, and if he did be cool about it. Let her parents think that she was over at a friends. Lock the door and tell your husband about it. But tell him the same thing i told you. All teenagers want is to be handled maturelly. Trust me I'm 14. Just wat ever goes down, be easy on em, they r only human. o and sorry for the horrible grammer and spelling errors.
2006-12-16 21:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by Nosam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake them up now and tell them to get clothes on and have a good long talking to them about sex! Yes i would also call and talk to her parents...if not tonight i would call first thing in the morning!
2006-12-16 21:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by decorator101 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to wake them up and send the girl home. Then you might want to have a talk to your son about responsibility and safety. It's up to you to decide the rules you think your son should follow.
2006-12-16 21:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wake them up!!! Have a talk with both of them. Who cares if they are embarrassed it might just save you from being a Grandma a little earlier then you would like.
2006-12-16 21:10:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes....wake them. you can wait till your husband gets home, just talk to him before hand so he dosent say that, but really wake them... call her parents and talk to your son about responsibility. he prolly wont want to hear it, but it was unresponsible for him to wait till you got home to find him like that. its normal at that age (almost) but still have a nice talk. make sure you get her home though... you dont want her parents to worry
2006-12-16 21:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋