Me and my boyfriend is ''taking a break''....his idea.It's killing me.I've never been so depressed in my life.This was both of our's longest relationship.We were each others first love.His mom said he was and still is crazy about me.I dont know what to do.I've cried every noght since he told me we need to take a break.He promised me that we'd get back together and get married.He said May 2008 we'd get back together and then the following September on the 16th(my 17th birthday)that he'd ask my parents if we could get married.I love him so much.I swear.And I swore to him that I would keep that promise(about the plan..2008..may,september)and he also swore and promised me.We hung out last night..very hard.But we had fun.He still kisses me.He did last night.I dont turn it down...lol.But someone tell me what to do.And if you've been in this situation before tell me what you did.I'm in desperate need of help!!PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE....sorry this was so long!!
Thanks,
Sara!!
2006-12-16 12:56:17 · 14 answers · asked by Sara B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we talked about it that night for hours and hours..I miss him...I need him in my life...all my friends say move on..make him jealous but I cant do that to him I love him too much..what do you think...move on or not..I dont want to but I told my friends if he got someone else then I'd find someone that he didnt like at all and date them...and about last night..we did a little more than kiss!!
2006-12-16 13:03:28 · update #1
we promised to be best friends...that's why we hang out and there isnt another girl...skateboarding is the only thing he does..all the time.for a fact..
2006-12-16 13:09:45 · update #2
Sara, If he wanted a break maybe it had nothing to do with you, Maybe his life was getting busy and instead of you being felt left out or 2nd best he thought it best to just have a break so he could concentrate on the deadlines he has. Be happy he is in your life, be happy that you have love in your life alot of people don;t, try not to worry or hold on too tight, Let him have his space and he will see how much he loves you. Keep smiling sweetie everything will work out.
2006-12-16 12:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'd say you both are young and have plenty of time. I'd also say he thinks things are getting too serious or going too fast and wants to slow it down. Or maybe he wants to play the field and doesn't know how to tell you that. "Taking a break" or "needing some space" means putting the brakes on for whatever reason. I'd also say that if it is meant to work out and you 2 are to be together, then it will be that way. If someone doesn't want you, then why would you want them? Let them go. You can't live on promises, you don't know if they'll really happen. If he wants to "take a break" then why are the 2 of you still kissing and hanging out? You're playing games with each other. Keep your eyes open.
2006-12-16 13:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by crimsongal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever a boy needs to "take a break", that typically means that the relationship is going in a way that is scary to him because it is getting so serious. If this is someone with whom you are supposed to spend your life, then you will get back together when the time is right. Otherwise, if he is saying he needs a break, stay away from him in every way, shape and form. I was with my ex-boyfriend for 4 years, and we had to "take a break", and got back together 2 years later. A lot of the issues that lead to our break still were not resolved, and the intimate part is not enough to have a relationship.
You really don't want to have your life in 2008 planned for you, especially when you never know what will happen. You may find someone with whom you are madly in love. Don't limit yourself to someone who is questioning your relationship so much. He's probably just put these two dates into play to appease you, and probably has no intention of ever doing either. He probably feels like he won't be hurting you if he gives you some hope. And, if that's the case, he probably does not have intentions of doing it.
2006-12-16 13:02:14 · answer #3 · answered by Lilly Jones-Fair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds peculiar. Does he have a reason for taking a break? There are a few I could think of... some good, some not so good. If you TRUST him and his intentions, then you have nothing to worry about but some lonely time in between. If you think that this is leading to something else... well, then start preparing yourself for hurt.
I know a lot of couples who take a break when one of them joins the military, because they will be away for a while, either for basic training or to go to war. This is not necessarily a bad thing, but it takes the pressure of trying to be in communication so often off of both people. Not saying your guy is joining the army or navy or anything, but just that he may have good intentions that aren't that visible to you yet. Talk it over more with him, and tell him that a little understanding between you will help the time pass less painfully. Best of luck to you both.
2006-12-16 13:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by John N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if your taking a break he shouldnt be kissing you its all or nothing when you care that much! 2008 is a long time and a lot of life to live in between now and then.No doubt he cares for you, but let him know if you cant be more than friends now then he is leading you on by kissing you. That isnt fair to you. How old are you how old is he? Sorry sweetie life sucks sometimes, I hope you talk o him and you clear things up as to what each of you want from your relationship.God Bless
2006-12-16 13:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by cristy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your still young if 2008 is your 17th birthday then your 15 now? Trust me 15 year olds promising your gonna get married is not the most reliable promise in the world. Just go with it still love him if he still loves you and don't give up on him. But if he gives up and you don't take it too hard your too young to let this effect you so much. Maybe if you were older it would be a little bit easier to understand but at that age promises and love are sometimes deceiving. hope that helped. good luck =)
2006-12-16 13:01:23 · answer #6 · answered by soccerwarrior00 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe to get your mind off of the situtation you need to go out and see what else is out there. Dont give up on him though. Even though you guys are first loves maybe he wants to see if you are really the one for him, and the time apart is actually good for you. Just set your mind to finishing school and setting your goals and acheving them. That way you will never have to depend on a man to take care of you.
2006-12-16 13:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by bbygrl_23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey he is dating someone else but he want u 2 wait for him. he wants someone else but he don't want u to get someone else. your young we all go through that so play hard ball with him and watch he'll come running never show your true feeling when a man leave u because then he know he got u be strong you don't need nobody hurting you like that. find someone who love you and want to be with u not take a year and a half break.
2006-12-16 13:04:28 · answer #8 · answered by sexychocolate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have never been in that situation but maybe he is seeing someone else, or maybe even going through some hard time right now so he cant afford haveing a girlfriend. just remeber that if he told u that he still loves u, then u have nothing to worry about.
2006-12-16 13:05:31 · answer #9 · answered by kristintek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking a break is baaaaad, if you need to take a break from a relationship 9 times out of 10 its going to be a terminal break. If you love the guy, tell him you want to work things out and fight for the relationship.
2006-12-16 12:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by bluechick 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋