he took advantage of you(have sex) without you realising it .. i would considered it as rape coz neither at the point was the lady drunk. the lady was blackout which she did not know what happen afterwards... as she thought she was only in a deep sleep. since she work up nothing actually felt wrong except for some minor pain..(a virgin before this)
only after years the man confesses and breakdown to her of what he has done to her years ago..and apologize to her etc..
would u as a lady forgive him or be upset or avoid him :-?
-i mean the man a close friend you trusted for life(knew him for 10 years) and he did this to you??
-6 years has pass without you knowing
-basically he took away yr viginity
- he was sincere in his apologize (like i said he broke down infront of the lady saying that this secret has been killing him inside)
what can be done . men/women yr views please?
2006-12-16 12:33:27 · 18 answers · asked by CT T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he came to her to confess because the guilt has been eating him up. even though what he did could be considered unforgivable, he has obviously been punishing himself for years. I would forgive him and still be angry.
2006-12-16 12:38:16 · answer #1 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most men have fantasies of rape but few act on them sounds to me like he may have been drunk also and that might have been a contributing factor now for the past 6 years he has been punishing himself and he did not have to say anything as you never knew this is a hard call to make and the hurt you are feeling now from him violating your trust is something that you have to deal with . the question here is can you forgive him or not it sounds to me like he doesn't care if you put him in jail for rape or not . he would rather let someone he has known and loves know the truth even if it hurts him .and you have to deal with what happens no matter how you decide because it sounds to me like you care more for this person than you are willing to admit here .I can only make the suggestion that you both sit down and talk things over and discuss the consequences of his actions and your decision before you make your final decision .
2006-12-16 12:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way.
simply put if you can't trust him there is no point to having a friendship with him.
the least he could have done was say it the day after. the fact that he kept it in for 6 years is what would bother me the most. ( He probably thought he could get away with it!) if he were truly sorry he would have said something as soon as it happened instead of being phony.
you don't need or deserve a friend like that. screw him and his apology
2006-12-16 12:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by myfianceisamonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm, well, it would be hard to forgive him, i mean, it took him 6 years to confess. if you are asking what i would do, i wouldnt forgive him, but thats the way i am. this "lady" should do what she thinks is right. if she cant find a way to forgive him, then she should stay away from him. if she cant find a way to stay away from him, (since they're close friends) she should at least talk to him.. and this might be emotional time so, she should be prepared. well, it would be considered rape so if she feels she cant stand to be near him, she should report him to the police.
2006-12-16 12:43:41 · answer #4 · answered by agnnes kiim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sin is area of the international, once you confess your sin you promise to avert that sin. Habitually sinning isn't good on your soul, it stops grace from stepping into it, making you a extra useful guy or woman. nonetheless God forgives all sin you nonetheless ought to make reparation for that sin, some do penance in prayer or they circulate help somebody. the element is that in case you do no longer make up for the punishment due you will ought to make it up on the different part. much less sin.. much less punishment.. get it now?
2016-10-15 02:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you can forgive something like that. Taking advantage of the woman like that is wrong. It does sound like rape because the woman had no choice whether she wanted to have sexual intercourse or not. The fact that he did that to her is wrong and I don't know if that is forgivable. Besides you only lose your virginity once.
2006-12-16 12:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by drunken_monkey1988 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be sincere about it now,but why couldn't he confess before. He took your virginity,it's not like you decided to share that moment with him,and now you can't share it with anyone else. It's gone. I couldn't see myself forgiving someone like that. He is a sick minded person,and knows better then to take advantage of someone,especially someone he is so close to.
2006-12-16 12:38:47 · answer #7 · answered by Ellie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness would be in YOUR benefit, not for him. He will have to carry that around whether he is forgiven or not. The incident HAS broken trust of this man, so I would never be around him again, but you should forgive him for your own sake. Good luck to you...I am so sorry.
2006-12-16 12:39:05 · answer #8 · answered by kmoc123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the important thing, is the feeling of the lady,..
she should express her self. all the anger to that man. after that forgive him. forgive but not forget.. i know .. just let it go. wasting energy to think bout the past. just think but your future.
believe me time will heal all the wound .
2006-12-16 12:47:32 · answer #9 · answered by dian_sinta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forgive him, because obviously his actions are bothering him. However I don't think the friendship could ever be the same.
2006-12-16 12:37:37 · answer #10 · answered by krissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋