If your daughter is fifteen about to turn sixteen next month. Makes A's and B's in school. And her and her boyfriend are going out for almost 2 years. If she invited her boyfriend over to her house and they were outside,without u knowing. When you found out,would you ground(punish) her or would you tell her she cant talk to her boyfriend anymore.
Do you think she'll listen?
Explain.
2006-12-16 11:30:28 · 15 answers · asked by lpkegirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They were outside just talkin. But no one is suppose to be over to the house.
When i get home the neighbor tells me she had her boyfriend over.
2006-12-16 11:36:26 · update #1
well okay.. i'm only 15 going on 16 so i don't know why i'm answering this. but still... from my point of view... u can't just tell her she can't talk to her boyfriend anymore. cuz first of all it would be really cruel. i mean they must be together cuz they care abt each other.. and 2 years says something... second: she still goes to school and can see him.. and then she'll only go behind ur back and meet with him... now where will that lead u?!? i just recently ivited my bf over to my place to meet my dad. and dad was perfectly okay with it... of course with all the "u take care and don't do anything stupid" that is necesary so to say. u could just talk to her and tell her what bothered u. and is she keeps on doing these things u could ground her,.. no more going out a week for example.. i got that one last month... and it hurt.. though i got my lesson... well.. hope it works.
2006-12-16 11:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by tormented_666_soul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell her she couldn't talk to her boyfrind any more but I would tell her that she knows the ruels about not haveing anyone over when I'm not home and for that she will be grounded for a week i would tell her that i'm proud of her for not haveing him in the house and for talking to him out side and for the good grades that she get's and then I'd give her a big hug and let her know that I know that she is a good kid and that I love her and that if she wants her bf to come over to talk that that is fine as long as i was home. Hope this helps. Happy holidays
2006-12-16 11:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by outlawprincess5321 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean by they were outside? I assume they weren't doing anything too bad. I would ask her what she was doing. If she refuses to tell you, ground her. Give her a chance before putting any punishment on her, and explain to her why. If you don't she won't listen AT ALL. She sounds like she's a good kid, so I wouldn't worry. But, You're her mom so it's up to you
2006-12-16 11:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think she will listen. Why would you punish your daughter if she was outside with him and they was talking. i do not understand unless it is sort of a religious thing were you do not like having her outside with her boyfriend and they are dating two years and she makes good grades. You should trust her more. or you are not telling the truth about what happen becase i do not understand why you should punish her.
2006-12-16 11:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe on the punishment but to keep what is important in the immediate light, be nice, understanding and do your best to get an honest answer to why and what they feel the need to do in secrecy. You have to be careful about punishing teens too harshly, as it can manifest into a promotion of lies and continuance of whatever behavior they are hiding.
Be as objective as possible and count on her doing probably the opposite of your desire if you get her angry and her resentment turns in your direction.
2006-12-16 11:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by Rhonda R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't be an issue because my daughter's not gonna have a "boyfriend" at age 13 or 14.
That being said... WHY would you have a problem with them being outside? I'd be freaking out if they were in her bedroom, not in the yard.
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2016-12-30 12:55:14 · answer #7 · answered by Erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your bf were just talking and playing hoops or something
of that matter I dont think mom would be too upset. maybe you should just ask if he can come over. does mom like him? that matters alot. on the other hand if she caught you making out i think she would be very upset w/ you. it is very easy to get pregnant and you dont want that at your age. Im a mom and I think you should just ask her GOOD LUCK and BECARFUL
2006-12-16 11:37:47 · answer #8 · answered by Tracy P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter wouldn't have been going with a guy for two years prior to being 16.
2006-12-16 11:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is at the dating age...leave her alone cause she is growing up. If u dont let her date, she may sneak out or either run away.
Trust your daughter and let her live her life. She will be grown and married before u know it..
2006-12-16 11:54:29 · answer #10 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋