I dated this guy about a year ago now, and on the outside I have 'moved on' and all the rest of it... I have a new man who is lovely, am doing well in college, have future plans and am often happy...
Except I'm still totally in love with this guy. So much more than anyone since. And I don't know what to do, because everyone I fancy now has some similarities to him. I feel like I only fancy people if they're like him... And they're NEVER going to be him
But how to I take this properly to heart??
2006-12-16 11:24:54 · 11 answers · asked by serf m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And we broke up because he just didn't love me. Not because of anything awful. It's impossible for me to even hate him!
2006-12-16 11:26:36 · update #1
be wise, be smart and wash him out of your hair. You now have a nice bf who loves you so get along with your new life and the very best of luck
2006-12-16 11:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by gangico 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah heck! I know how you feel (& trust me I do) I broke up with the love of my life 4 months ago an Im still pineing for her even though shes gone to the other side of the world ( new zealand), I know ill never see her again but I cant help it!! the summer we spent togeather was truely beautiful, the best summer I EVER had :) :) she was everything I could ever want, but now she's gone forever, somedays Im strong other days I weep like a child, I no idea what to do, but.... I know this
Im still young, I have my health and my looks
soo there is some one out there
hold your ground , keep up the good fight, you will find some one:)
Z
2006-12-16 19:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by Z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well to start off first loves will never die, mine didn't I am still going strong with him, and honestly I could never live without him, I hold him as my pedistole to evey other guy, as he dose for me!
but your in a total different situation, because he dosent love you back! Which means he already probley moved on, while your sitting here thinking about him!
If anything talk to him and see if there a second chance, if not theres other fish in the sea!
2006-12-16 19:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by ♥JENN♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's tough. I feel the same way about my wife. I feel that I'm lucky to have her, except she doesn't feel that way about me. Time and being away from the person helps. You need to realize that the feelings you have sometimes are not returned in the same way. Try not to compare and remember it's easy to think of the good things about your ex, but I'm sure their were negatives. So don't try to compare just the good things you remember to the new guys. Because I'm sure they have qualities that are actually more attractive then your ex has. Take care and hopefully time will heal all wounds.
2006-12-16 19:32:10 · answer #4 · answered by MB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, do you really want to be with someone who doesn`t love you - WHAT FOR!! what is the point? Love is a mad thing and we can`t control it, but wasting your life moping after someone who will never be what you want them to is a waste. My dad is dying of cancer and it has really made me take stock of my life, it really it too short hon, so move on and i guarantee you will fall in love again. The right person for you will turn up when you least expect it. Take Care x
2006-12-16 19:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'll be open enough to know the others (guys) well, not just because of the "similarities" but because I want to meet "new" personalities. We all have similitarities, but not everything. Try to get to know more of the other person. It's hard to forget the love in the past, but just be open to others. Know them for who they really are. Sooner or later, you'll get to realize everything, especially your feelings.
2006-12-16 19:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by Chimchim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation. if i was you I would talk to him one last time , if that is possible tell him how you feel see if he feels the same way. If he does not feel the same way keep telling yourself well he doesn't love me. one day you will find someone you really love again , trust me , even if it doesn't seem like it now
2006-12-16 20:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U either let go or pursue the guy back that u still like.
Maybe the guy is thinkin of u too, if not let go and stick with the one that makes u happy.
But, remember....the inside feelings are the ones that really matter.
2006-12-16 19:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will heal. Just keep on moving on. The thing that helps me, is to talk with someone about it. Also just date more people, eventually you will learn to love him less.
2006-12-16 19:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by kwest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drink tea lots of it
2006-12-16 19:28:42 · answer #10 · answered by brioduinn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋