Hi, I have self-esteem/guilt issues sometimes and i feel it would be useful for me to be of use to ohers less fortunate than myself. anyone have any ideas on how to do this? thanks
2006-12-16 11:15:47 · 9 answers · asked by colejoe79 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
volunteer your time charity shops, animal sanctuaries, anything you can offer to someone that is useful
2006-12-16 11:21:15 · answer #1 · answered by julie t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a good idea, as helping others does give you a tremendous boost when you need it.
If you go on the samaritans website, you can also look into volunteer work. I've done that myself and will be joining my local Samaritans group for listening counsellors for a few hours a week.
Youth work, charity work, volunteering for local schools, retirement homes, hospitals etc. Getting out there for charities and doing that really helps them, helps others and of course, helps you.
Don't get dependant though on using others as a way to make yourself feel good. Treating yourself with things that make you feel happy, people that make you feel happy and spoiling yourself sometimes, really does help you feel more confident.
Have faith in yourself. You have to at the end of the day, if anyone else is going to.
2006-12-16 11:24:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Random acts of kindness - you'll be surprised at how good that can make you feel. It's all the little things that add up. If someone is helpful to you in a shop for instance, tell their manager how nice they were - it will make their day. Be courteous and forgiving to other car drivers - it's so much more pleasant that hooting your horn. Put a coin in every charity collection box you see. Be actively pleasant to all your colleagues at work (even if you don't like all of them). Try and do at least nice one thing for someone every day.
2006-12-16 11:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by goulash 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u are in the uk try joining one of the cadet forces as an instructor, they give u all the training u need and it will help u with confidence and u will enjoy watching the youngsters grow and become more confident as well, i have seen the quietest youngster come out their shell and start to volunteer for things and put themselves forward, try it costs nothing uniforms etc provided
2006-12-16 11:21:33 · answer #4 · answered by grahamralph2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are onto the right path! we all have that issue and i do volunteer works to help less fortunate ones which makes me feel that i use my time efficiently and make me see the big variety of lives on earth. try this charity organization and the founder was nominated for Nobel Peace Prize for one time.
2006-12-16 11:25:11 · answer #5 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just live your life as usual, but be a little more indulgent and generous with other people who you feel deserve that little extra attention. Dont try to make friends with then, just try to help. open doors to a little old lady, give a fiver to a tramp, say good morning to a stranger at the bus stop etc. these are little things which cost us nothing, but are small human acts which are usually never forgotten.
2006-12-16 11:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by eurobuskers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Youth Clubs in London.........i.e. Hackney.
2006-12-16 11:18:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could help people in the orphanage feel good about them sleves.
2006-12-16 11:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by vw chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see a therapist maybe something from your childhood has affected you phychologically
2006-12-16 11:32:10 · answer #9 · answered by the mag 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋