been to things like this before,he ignores me,acts like he don't know me...main prob...i don't like his boss or his wife...and i don't like to pretend i do..what do i do???It's the 23rd.
2006-12-16 10:53:26 · 9 answers · asked by kissy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u know,the more i think about it...he's the type,if shoe on other foot...he would either go and b a real bump on a log or he just wouldn't care and not go..he just wants to go to b noticed....he knows my feelings bout it all...but its really bout him..i told him he could go by himself...he'd be happier...
2006-12-16 11:40:45 · update #1
Then don't go.
2006-12-16 10:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by Creampoof737 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right don't go.
Me and my man have'nt been out to a bar in ages for the same reason.Seems he knows EVERYONE and I get left out.The last straw was when 3 little girls pushed themselves between me and him and tried to lure him to a party.
His Christmas parties are for him and I've never been invited.It used to hurt my feelings but I've long since realized that I'm way better off staying at home than sitting alone while he tells lies and listens to other guys tell them too.
Tell him you're not going because you have no interest in being disrespected by him in front of people you don't really care for.If he can't handle that then too bad.If he treats you like this now how will he treat you after you're married?
I got my point across by making a huge scene in a bar where I threatened to pack him up and deliver his things to whichever piece of trash he preferred to end up with just give me an address.And I made it perfectly clear that if he wanted to leave with the girls that was fine with me but they were'nt gonna have the fun and not deal with all the misery that went with him.
He straightened up real fast.He has never after that day gone to a bar after work with his buddies altho he knows he's welcome to without it bothering me.He won't offer to take me to one either but so what?I can live without the headache.
2006-12-16 20:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by misbehavin165 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's asking you to pretend? You can not like someone but still be in the same room with them. What is the reason you would be going to this party? Would it be to rub elbows with the boss's wife or to support your husband. Thinking the answer is the later then I believe you answered your own question.
2006-12-16 19:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by gtahvfaith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretend you're sick. That's the easy way out. Or, just tell him why you don't want to go. Just say "no". What's the worst he'll do to you if you don't go? Tell him you might embarass him if you go since you don't like the boss and his wife. Tell him you're NOT a hypocrit. Good luck.
2006-12-16 18:58:29 · answer #4 · answered by Nose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u dont want to go because of the way you have been treated in the past. did you talk to ur fiance and let him know that you do know approve of the way that you have been treated? i would either go but drive my car, that way if he began to ignore me again, i could go to one of my hangouts and have some peace or fun. i would pull him to the side in a very polite way and say, well i am not comfortable, and we discussed this so i am going to go to blah blah place, or just not go. you should; however, discuss this at length with hin first and let him know exactly how you feel about the way he treats you. then make your desicion and then stick to it. Girlpower! be confident in your womanhood. you do not need to go to that party to validate anything about yourself. if you do not want to go. then do not go based on how he has treated you in the past. if you do want to help, then let himn know in advance what you will and will not accept, and when or if he does something that you do not think you like, and it is based on how he acted in the past, then step off and go home or go hang out with people who appreciate and like you! Be a cheetah girl! step off for you! all right!!!!! phat beatz
2006-12-16 20:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by PhatBeatz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so dont go. its not worth trying to make your husband look good because you attended... esp. if he doesnt treat you like youre his better half.
you should spend the night feeling great about yourself and enjoying doing things you like with the people you care about. not spending a night dressed fancy and putting on a fake smile all night.
be honest to your husband and discuss the issue with how you feel when youre there and why you choose not to go. dont let him persuade you to go. your no is a no!
2006-12-16 19:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by bjperez07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he ignores you cause he knows you don't like his boss, and he doesn't want to be embarassed if he thinks his boss can tell?
I've your fiance has asked you to go, you should go, especially if you've already comitted to it.
2006-12-16 18:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should tell him u got a family party to go to and it at the same time as his party or say u r going out of town.
2006-12-16 18:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by Kristy Le 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it that time of the month? Put on sweat pants, act bitchy, don't brush your hair and tell him you are having cramps.
2006-12-16 18:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋