I will be 36 in a couple of weeks. I got married 5 months ago and my husband wants to wait until we are more financially stable before starting a family. I completely understand where he is coming from, but, am I getting too old to have kids? I really would like to have a child with him, but I don't want to take any risks.
2006-12-16 10:53:25 · 14 answers · asked by QDPie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
if people waited until everything was perfect to have a baby, no one would have babies. do it now!!! i had my last child at 36, trust me...i sure didn't have the enegry i had when i had my other babies in my 20's!!! good luck!
there is so a "too late age" to have a baby! down-syndrome and other medical problems greatly increase after age 35. i had an amino done with my last child because of my age...she was born the day after my 36th birthday. thank God she was perfect, but a cousin of mine, in her late 30's had a down-syndrome baby. check with your doctor.
2006-12-16 10:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I see where you are both coming from. Having kids is always a little (or lot) scary. You want to have everything ready, and you want to have time to just enjoy eachother too, before you lose a lot of your privacy. But also, your biological clock is ticking. The risks of complications goes up each year (with the sperm, egg, and your health). If you can help him see this, and he agrees, go ahead and get pregnant. If he will not agree, you may be better off waiting and taking the risk of infertility. Many husbands resent the intrusion and time of kids, if he is not there with you, it could cause lots of problems. (I know, I'm being pessimistic today).
God bless, I hope it works out for you and your husband.
2006-12-16 13:12:50 · answer #2 · answered by Bre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pregnant and I'm 31. I have a 3 year old also. This pregnancy has been so much different than my first. Wow. The energy is not there like it was with her. Even just that short couple of years. It is much harder the older you get. And everyone is right. There's never enough money...but having children will complete your life. There is nothing more wonderful in life than that. Trust me...you won't regret it. There are hardships but the outcome is the most ultimate experience you will ever have.
2006-12-16 12:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by bellas_mom2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go for sooner rather than later. Maybe compromise and set a specific time frame. (6 mo. /1 year, etc.)
Your risk of complications goes up every year---so, if the ONLY thing holding you back is money-I would say "Go For It." Kids can be expensive, but you don't have to have EVERYTHING they sell at the store. Buy second hand. Ask for hand-me-down clothes. See if you qualify for the WIC program for free formula.
Hopefully your husband isn't using money as an excuse.
One caveat: if you are in debt, it would be wonderful to get rid of that before getting pregnant. Also, consider if you will want to work after the baby. Will your husband's income cover your cost of living or will you need to downsize?
2006-12-16 11:01:22 · answer #4 · answered by kyletexas_123 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The older you get the harder it may be...to even get pregnant. You may be considered "high risk" already at age 36. I understand why you would want to be financially stable, but if your waiting to have enough money for kids...well, let me tell you from experience...There's never enough money when you have them! Good luck.
2006-12-16 10:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it feels right for you then I would have a serious talk with your husband about it. Think about it like this, over half the women who get pregnat and have babies never planned to. If you keep waiting until you think you're financially ready, you could be waiting the rest of your life. Plus the risks get higher for you and the baby the older you get. Talk to him.
2006-12-16 10:59:53 · answer #6 · answered by believer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age women are waiting until their late 30s to start having babies, I am 30 and I am almost always the youngest mom and I have older and more children then the older moms.
36 isnt old, not even close, you can still experience the magic of newlywed-dom and have your babies too.
Good luck!
2006-12-16 11:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's a decision you should make together...if you are having financial problems having a child can be a burden, but just waiting to have them untill you have a lot saved up could leave you waiting too long. things always come up & you could just keep waiting. people now have kids way into their 40's so you could still have plenty of time!
2006-12-16 11:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by RysMa510 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
um check with your husband and make sure you have enough money to raise a child. about 30,000 dollars or less depends.make shure if your ready and if you are than go right a head. umm most people get married late and have chilgren late. if u want to have earlyer so you'll see your child get married
2006-12-16 11:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by R5T6H9KF 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wait until you get more financial stability, you'll never get pregnant. I think he's a little scared. . That's normal a lot of us have been there before.
If you wait until you're 40 than he's gonna say ,at that age it's to risky.
2006-12-16 11:01:44 · answer #10 · answered by maxon475 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋