suicidal & depressed & pregnant?

Question

I want help. I want to be happy. I just can't find it anywhere. I love God and want to live with him for all eternity. I'm stuck in a rut and I need help. Everyone I try to tell just fusses at me, not realizing they are pushing me closer to do the worst. What should I do?

Renee-I go to a good church

Amy-I told my doctor...she didn't too much care

Tellie-Thanks for the prayer

Answer 1

If you're feeling suicidal, or entertaining the idea as a possibility, you need to get treatment. A lot of antidepressants are not safe to take in pregnancy, but the older ones are OK. I took imipramine during my 2nd and 3rd trimester. My baby was fine. Not treating depression during pregnancy is harmful to the baby. All the literature I've read says that it's safer for mom and baby to use antidepressants than to do nothing. If your doctor isn't getting the message, you may need to be very blunt with her and tell her you are having suicidal thoughts. If she's still not willing to treat you for it, get a second opinion. I don't know if you have a prior history of depression, but pregnancy can set it off because of the hormonal changes. Be your own advocate and insist on getting help.

Answer 2

I'm sorry you are depressed. I know how horrible it feels, as I myself have been depressed for a year now. I didn't know, what you are depressed about, but maybe it might be because of you being pregnant, maybe you are not with father of the baby, i don't know. If you don't want the baby to be born, you might choose an abortion. If you want the baby to be born, be happy, you are blessed, because becoming mum is the most beautiful feeling. I cant wait myself to become a mum one day. and once, you hold your baby in your arms, you will feel like never before.
Don't kill yourself, that is last stop, you cant ever take it back. sometimes it is really hard to live, but later, when you find happiness again, you will be happy you didn't take your life. I'm thinking very often about suicide, but i decided to fight my depression. If you feel like your doctor doesn't care, try to tell her again, exactly how you feel, that you have suicidal thoughts and if she still doesn't do anything, visit different one. Being depressed while pregnant influences your baby, you know? So take care of yourself, hope you will be happy soon.

Answer 3

Brandy, you are experiencing depression most likely due to hormonal changes related to the pregnancy. You need to talk to your doctor about it NOW.

People are fussing you because they don't understand, and want you to 'snap out of it' which is not necessarily something you're going to be able to do on your own.

I know that you FEEL that you should be happy, should be able to get over this 'for the baby' , etc, and that it just adding guilt to the fact that you CANT just get over it.

This is a physical issue causing emotional symptoms, and you MUST talk to a professional NOW. If you don't have a doctor, then call your local hospital and ask them to refer you to someone.

You're not doing anything wrong, and this is not going to be this way forever. I promise you. Just hang in there, and believe that there are people out there that know about this problem and are equipped to really help you.

You mention that you believe in God. Look in your yellow pages under non-denominational churches, and start calling. Ask them to have someone pray with you. God has NOT given up on you, but he has given you this pregnancy, and he needs you to stay here for that child. He's not ready for you to come home yet.

You can do this, honey. Now, go make those calls, please!!

Answer 4

Life is about choices.
You live by the choices you make.
To become happy you have to accept your circumstances.
First things first.
Be totally honest with yourself.
Never mind what you think other people think, or how god will react.
Do you want this child ?
If not, is there still time to abort ?
You are on the god trip.
There should be churches where you can fit in.
You say you want and need help.
What do you need help with first ?
Do you know ?
You say, you feel pushed to the worst.
What or who is the worst ?
Are you questioning what you are told to believe ?
You are not alone.
What you are feeling are growing pains of the mind.
Do you want to talk to me further ?
Do you have answers to my questions ?
Do you have questions you need answered ?
You can contact me by e-mail.

Answer 5

Stop telling them things , it's personal what's your going through and if you can't trust them do not tell them anything. Sometimes we're happy and sometimes we're sad and depressed you have to believe that it soon will pass.....May God always be at your side .....I will pray for you!
Loving God
protect me with
Your Love,
Prevent others
from viewing me with hostility.
Never allow
the negativity of others
to influence my life
or affect my destiny.


Oh how much good
I've lost
in losing control
of my anger;
such a large portion of life,
so much growth
I've let slip from my hands
by allowing my burning thoughts
to get better of me.
God,
teach me to let go.

God of wonders,
You've given me
the most wonderful
of all gifts--
the gift of free will.
May my will never deviate
from Your holy Will.
Guide me always,
so that all the choices I make
are good ones---
choices that are
in harmony with Your Will,
as long as I live.

God of unfathomable goodness,
the history of human agony
haunts my soul;
ashes, blood, and cries
pierce my heart;
diabolic schemes of oppressors
plague my mind.
Grand me an extra measure of
strength,
understanding
and faith
to help me find You--
to discover Your Light
midst the blinding dread,
through the revolving horror.

God, perfect God--
You created me
destined for perfection;
how far have I wandered
from that destiny!
How much of my purity
have I squandered
through careless, thoughtless,
self-centered behavior--
behavior wanting in morality
and holiness.



Overcoming Doubt

My vision is distorted,
loving God of truth.
I want to see clearly,
but my heart leads me
through twisted, convoluted paths
of misunderstood impressions.
Straighten those paths
so that I can strengthen myself
in the conviction of my beliefs.


Troubles

Kind, Loving, Mighty God:
Stretch out Your hand
to strengthen me.
Lift me up
from my abyss;
right my wrongs;
turn my every failure
into success.
Look upon my troubles
and say,
"Enough!"


Oh, God
Your Creation resonates
with holy sounds
Let me hear them all.
Let them penetrate my heart
and rouse my senses;
the jangle of a charity box;
the voice of an faithful teacher;
even the intonation
of my own sign
when I cry out to You--
all these sounds are holy.
Oh, God
let my heart hear them all
and be uplifted.

Ruler of the World,
grant me truth!
Spare me from the lies of others,
Help me stop myself
from lying
to others
Save me
from lying to myself,
and spare me
from the lies
of my own illusions.
Oh, God
never let me live a lie,
even for only a moment.

Center of all existence
help me find the way
to that sacred sanctuary
within myself,
to that precious center of my existence.
Help me discover
my place in the World--
that space where I truly belong,
that space which belongs
unconditionaly to me
Dear God,
I've wandered for so very long,
Help me find my way
home.

Answer 6

life is a test, in fact each moment is a test of people.
now according to religions the one who commites suicide will never go to heaven...
chill out.. it'll be ok, i'm 19 now and i was suicidal 1-2 years ago because i'm swedish but i'm stuck in this sh*thole country Iran because my father is iranian, and they say i have to attend the military for 2 years or pay a huge amount of money.... and my father won't pay attention to me (i really dislike him).
sooo. it's just a matter of time... it'll be ok later, maybe not in 3 months but maybe in a few years?!!! you're young, you have a full life ahead.. maybe you'll start college or university with 2-3 years delay but ''so what''???
just don't think about your problems(although it's hard) and plan what to do in your life, and start living with some points in your life....like i'm going to educate to be .... and then start with it, it's hard first and if no1 helps you(no1 helps me here) it'll be harder, but if you try hard you always succed.
so keep the faith and don't think about your problems much.

Answer 7

When you seek happiness some place "out there" you're overlooking your own true nature, which IS happiness. Don't overlook yourself.
Also, this applies to your understanding of God. You're missing the fact God is omnipresent. Not "out there" either. So stop seeking, just be. This is happiness.

Answer 8

Don't commit suicide are experiencing postpartum depression in your pregnancy? If you kill yourself your child will never be able too see you. Please don't kill your self try too find a good church too go too. I tried too kill myself one time and I thought my mom will never be able too see me again.