My 8 yr.old daughter has a on/off friendship with a girl who is a bad influence and REALLY gets on my nerves. She comes over often (uninvited) and I can usually make up an excuse to have her leave-but it's only temporary.
2006-12-16 10:50:46 · 14 answers · asked by kyletexas_123 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
This is one of those times you just have to step up and be a parent and tell the child that your child can't play with them anymore. I know, it sucks....I had to do it when my son was about that age. But it's better than dealing with the kid and their bad behaviors/influences!
2006-12-16 10:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by UNI Panther 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where are this girl's parents that she's able to just walk around and go wherever she wants? I'm afraid you might have to be blunt, tell her that she must call first, and that she's not to come over unless she's invited, by you. And tell her that you must talk to her Mom before she comes over. Your daughter might be mad at you, but maybe you could reach a compromise and she can come over 2 times a month, but ultimately, you know what's best for your child and if she's really such a bad influence, you are right in keeping her away from your home. If she's coming over after school. contact the school, I know our school sends out a form at the beginning of the school year for the parents to fill out stating where your child is to go after school. If there are any changes or if the kid is going to a friend's house, the teacher has to be told that at the beginning of the day. That way all kids are accounted for, hopefully. And think of it this way, when she is at your house, she is your responsibility. Do you really want to be responsible if she gets hurt or something? Good Luck.
2006-12-16 19:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by nimo22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents never allowed me to have friends over when I was a kid. They did not want to deal with other people's kids. so make a rule, No more guests. Just invite ones you do approve of for a scheduled play date. Why is her mother letting her come over anyway without talking to you to see if it is okay? Does she really know what is going on in your house (no offense, but these days you have to be careful)? She just lets her daughter go to whichever house in the neighborhood will have her? sounds like a future episode of "america's most wanted".
In the summer it is different cause the kids are outside the house, but in the cold months why should you be responsible for entertaining some girl you dont like? Have to be firm about it, the only way to be...
I dread these future little incidences...my daughter is only 18 months right now! dont envy you!
2006-12-16 19:13:10 · answer #3 · answered by adrixia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter had a friend like this who had a really dysfunctional homelife. They started their friendship at age 5 and were friends, 'tho not to my liking, for years. My daughter just idolized her and the girl kept pulling stuff: my daughter had to learn on her own that this girl wasn't a true friend. Even 'tho I banned her from our house, they still managed to see each other at school, etc. Nip it in the bud. Talk to the parent if possible. Depending on the type of person, 'tho, you could expect an attitude. Excuses only last so long.
2006-12-16 19:04:24 · answer #4 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have set rules when your daughter started having friends over that NO ONE comes over uninvited or without your prior knowledge. As far as this girl being a "bad influcence" maybe it's not the girl who is the problem but your daughter if she is easily influenced.
2006-12-16 20:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a really hard one. I would talk to your daughter about what makes a good friend and discourage the friendship at school and if the friend drops in uninvited explain you were just about to go out and it is not a good time. Good luck
2006-12-17 00:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time that she comes over tell her that she needs to call before she comes over to see if it is okay. Tell her to go home right then and call. Also tell her that there are rules in your house and that if she doesnt want to follow them that she isnt going to be able to come over at all. The things that she does to annoy you (I am guessing these are things that your own daughter doesnt do any way) are not premitted in your home. This way, you are not being rude but you are giving your daughter the choice of who she will be friends. If the little girl is that annoying your daughter will figure it out soon enough. Good Luck.
2006-12-16 21:16:12 · answer #7 · answered by Heather B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell the child's mother that she just keeps showing up to your house uninvited and that it is causing inconveniences to you and your family, and that you don't want to hurt her daughter's feelings by asking her to come back a different day over and over.
2006-12-16 18:57:38 · answer #8 · answered by Joyous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget being polite. Your the adult. If the kid is a bad influence then just tell her she's not to come over anymore, but only if she's legitimately bad, evil, immoral, or dangerous. Don't ban her just because you don't like her. If she's just unpleasant let your little girl figure that out for herself. When she does she'll tell her to get lost soon enough.
2006-12-16 18:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by jgunslingerj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the child next time (and every time) she comes over that your daughter is only allowed to play if she phones ahead and you approve. She'll get the hint after coming over several times without being invited in.
2006-12-17 21:04:55 · answer #10 · answered by caitlinerika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋