me and my ex bf split up a bit ago. he said it was because he found it awkwud being in a relationship as he had never really been in one before, but he wanted to try agian in later. I have only this week moved on and started to get with this other lad, but this week my ex has started tellin me that he still has feelings for me n regrets ending the relationship, i like both ma ex and the new lad and i don't want to hurt ither of them, i don't know what to do
2006-12-16 10:37:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time waits for no man!
I feel bad for your ex, but his indecision has hurt you before. He sounds like an honest guy, but he realistically can't expect you to drop everything and to go back with him because he's had a change of heart.
You've mentioned how he feels... but what about you? Who would you rather have as your boyfriend? You know these two better than us. Who's company do you prefer? Who makes you feel warm and fuzzy? Who do you get excited about seeing, hearing from? Who makes you smile?
If you do still have feelings for your ex- and they're genuine feelings and not just guilt, regret, sorrow, pity or an urge to put wrong things 'right'- then you may want to reconcile things. But it's only worth doing this if you KNOW that you two have a proper bond, otherwise it may be heartache all over again.
Whatever your decision, be honest with both these guys and when you've decided who you want to be with, let the other know you just want to be friends and keep it a clean break.
Ultimately, only you know who puts butterflies in your stomach and makes you want to smile, so you can only follow your heart. Don't let your ex influence your decision by making you feel secretly guilty.
Hope everything works out okay :-)
2006-12-16 10:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by midsojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go out with him because you don't want to hurt him. this is all new to him so give him some slack but he does need to know that it's not ok to leave people then expect them to take him back because he want it.
do what's right for you - you'll hurt all three of you eventually if you don't x
2006-12-16 18:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by aria 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out w/ the new one for now. If that works out then great. If it doesn't you can always go back to the old one later. And if i were you i would tell the old one that since he made you wiat for him now it is his turn to wait for you.
2006-12-16 19:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by smalltownman501 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby blue - stick with the new. You can't go back. He pulled the stunt, let him take the brunt.
2006-12-16 18:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sound like the first dude has the case of ... "don't want her, but don't want anyone else to have her either...."... maybe also a bit jealous....
leave him... let him stew in his decision, then maybe one day when he grows up,,, you might meet him again, then' he'll be ready for a good thing...good luck
2006-12-16 18:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by Traynor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋