I've posted a similar question in the past but here's a better way for me to describe it. My boyfriend and I dated for 2 years, and towards the end of our relationship three years ago we were being very silly immature and cruel to eachother. We broke up but kept seeing eachother until finally i quit cold turkey and hadn 't spoken to him in 2 years. Well recently we've started talking again and it appears that we haven't skipped a beat and although we have matured since last meeting I really believe he's still very much in love with me. Is it possible for you to actually get over your first love or will this always happen?
2006-12-16 10:21:43 · 18 answers · asked by Megster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You absolutely never forget your first love.
You may find someone you love more, but it will be in a different way than your first love.
No, I don't think you ever stop loving someone when it was a true love. Some people think it's true love, but find out later it was just an emotional hiccup.
2006-12-16 10:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Gnome 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sometimes think about my first love. We had the same situation as you where a few months go by then a few years go by and we somehow catch up with each other. I haven't heard from him in over 7 years. He's married now and there's nothing much to think about. The past is the past. You still think about it but then you put the memory away and bring it out for another rainy day.
2006-12-16 10:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by JAD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why do you care if he loves you anymore? Didn't you say that you were neutral towards him>> Didn't you say that you have the greatest boyfriend you've ever had?? I can see why this guy is so confused..you are sending him conflicting messages..first you're neutral, then you're afraid you're losing him..What's up with you?? If you don't want the guy, give him a break and let him go..quit dragging his heart around..Let him get on with his life..leave him alone..and be with the greated boyfriend you've ever had!
2016-05-23 00:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first real love i went and married as soon as we graduated high school. the marriage only lasted a few years because we were still growing and happened to grow in opposite directions..i have since remarried and have remained so for almost 30 years, and while i can't say i still love my first wife, there isn't a day that goes by even now that i don't wonder what ever became of her..so i guess no, you don't ever get over that first love
2006-12-16 10:27:39 · answer #4 · answered by mrjones502003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, it's true you'll never forget your first love. but you stop loving him by loving him in a different way. If we all never stopped loving our first love then we would all marry our first love. And we all never got over them, then we wouldn't date anyone else and would always have them in mind. so, some people do stop loving their first love...while others dont. sounds to me like you guys are at a stage where you still love each other. reminds me of the notebook. have you seen that movie? anyway, yea, it's possible for you to actually get over your first love. but not everyone does.
2006-12-16 10:29:01 · answer #5 · answered by christi815 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many would say they still can't forget their first love, but they have gone over it already. It only depends whether you're too (and still) attached to him/her. It's possible, even though after many years with no strings attached, that he/she still loves you. Or within that time that you're not seeing and communicating with each other, he/she may have forgotten you, but when you two meet up again, the same feelings will boom out just like before. Unbelievable, but it happens.
2006-12-16 10:29:00 · answer #6 · answered by Chimchim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
True love never truly dies. It may very well be forgotten or simply fade into the distance but it never really dies. If you have loved at all, for however much, for however long, you have made a significant contribution to this world.
Cherish the love you have had. If you once again have opportunity to rekindle it into flame, embrace it.
The poet (E.B Browning, perhaps?) said:
Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
and that is so, so true
2006-12-16 10:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by BlueFeather 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is possible to get over your true love and stop loving them but you will probably never stop caring about them. If you were hurt by the breakup and you guys broke up because one or both of you were unfaithful to the other of course you will "get over" him/her. But if it was a mutual thing and you guys were jus not in the right state of mind then yes you guys could still be very much in love
2006-12-16 10:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by Mickey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Noooooooo, you are so right! I loved a bloke when I was in my early twenties (I'm 40 now) and I still don't know what I would do if I met him again! I think I still love him.
If he's still in love with you and you with him I say go for it, love! I have heard of so many cases just like this, some don't get together until they get old but it still works out.
Good luck, sweetie.
2006-12-16 10:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by kiwi_mum1966 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm definitely over my first love, but for a long time I wasn't. It can be hard. It's important for him to see other people and really open his eyes to the possibility that he could love someone else.
2006-12-16 10:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by waywrdsun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋