I need words of encouragement about my miscarriage?

Question

I am so sad because of my miscarriage and I fear I will never, ever have another baby. I have a son already, but I really wanted more children and the miscarriage was devastating as it came with a couple complications (but none too harmful for more kids, so the doctors say). Anyway I'm really really sad about it and would love some kind people to tell me about their experience with miscarriage, as well as having a healthy pregnancy after a miscarriage. Please help with some encouraging experiences...I need more hope in my life. Or I'm going to have a breakdown, which won't be good since I have an 18 month old. Oh, and could you tell me how long it took to get pregnant again with that healthy pregnancy? I'm obsessed with child spacing these days after my miscarriage.Thanks, everyone.

Answer 1

I never had a miscarriage, but I had a good friend who had three (one was a set of twins!). She was really depressed too and didn't think she'd ever get pregnant again... but 7 years later she did get pregant and now has a boy and a girl! Stop being obsessed with spacing your children the way YOU want them! Let God do the work for you. He knows best.
And stop dwelling on this sad event in your life... it's a "bump in the road" and you WILL get through it. But right now your son needs you. Put all the energy into your son that you're putting into dwelling on this, and you won't have time to be sad! Good Luck. I am sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

Words Of Encouragement For Miscarriage

Answer 3

My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage, and it was the worst thing that ever happened to me. That was almost 4 years ago, and I am still not over it. Every year on the day s/he died and the date s/he was due, I get so sad and deppressed. I long to hold the baby I never got to know. I miss it so. The only way that I could go on with my other babies was that I had to blame myself. If I set there and delt with with it being one of the 1 in 4 pregnancies then I would never make it through another pregnancy. So saying that I was really young and did everything wrong was how I delt with it and I had a beautiful baby girl July 31, 2004 and another baby girl on May 5, 2006. I am so happy to have them and they are my world. I am also 5 weeks pregnant with baby number 3, and thats my fear right now, I cant loose another, I have to do it all right this time. If I can make it till febuary, I know that my chances go down and that most likely everything will be fine. Its just making it that far thats the hardest. I know its hard, but you can and will be able to have more kids, and most likely, everything will go just fine. Its just the long process of know that it is thats the hardest. I wish you all the luck in the world and if you pray, that will help you in more ways that one, and I will say a prayer for you as well.

Answer 4

I know how you are feeling. I have a miscarriage almost exactly 5 years ago. After the doctor released me from the hospital, my husband wanted to go get food. We went to a restaurant to pick up some food, and I was just sitting there crying my eyes out and holding my husband. This busboy came up to me and told me not to cry. He asked why I was crying. I told him we just lost a baby. He said not to worry that within a year or so I will have a new baby. I thought at the time that he was full of it. I was really depressed for 4 months. The whole time my husband was pressuring me to keep trying to have another one. I was so depressed that I decided to go to the doctor to get some antidepressants or something. While the doctor was analysing me for the pills, he discovered I was 1 month pregnant. I was so nervous the whole pregnancy. But I am happy to say that my daughter turned 4 last week. There is hope. You just have to realize that God knows what he is doing.

Answer 5

I had a missed abortion with my third pregnancy which is where the foetus dies and does no spontaneously abort. I was devastated for months and kept my hopes up. I fell pregnant around 5 months later and delivered a healthy child. That pregnancy was not easy emotionally, but now I have three healthy children which is what I have always wanted. You must remember that if you have already had one healthy child and the doctors say that it is possible to conceive again then you will probably conceive. Speak to your Doctor about Chlomophine the fertitlity drug which stimulates ovulation.That could hurry things along a bit. It won't be easy and you will never forget the child that you lost. But remember there are lots of other women out there who have lost pregnancies and they go onto deliver healthy children afterwards. I wish you all the best

Answer 6

I've been there. When my husband and I got married, we started trying immediately, and were absolutely ecstatic when we found out we were pregnant the next month. I miscarried at seven weeks. People told us to keep trying, so we did, and three months later, I was pregnant again. I lost that one at six weeks. It's devastating - there's no real words of comfort, and when you DO get pregnant after a miscarriage, it's kind of bittersweet. You want the baby so bad you can feel her in your arms, but on the other hand, you're SCARED to want her that bad, scared to be disappointed again. After two miscarriages, we stopped actively trying - didn't go back on birth control, but we gave up the basal thermometers and the ovulation kits. We figured if it was going to happen, it would - and it did. Five months after the second miscarriage, I was pregnant again - and last week was week 12, so I suppose I'm out of the woods now. Being sad is understandable, but remember - stress messes with your hormones and makes it harder to get pregnant again. A miscarriage is just God's way of saying the baby wasn't perfect yet. Someday, she will be. Hang in there. You'll get through it just fine - take it from someone who knows.

Answer 7

Sorry about your loss. I had a miscarriage two years ago with twins at the age of 20 and it was heart-breaking. I have been trying for the past two years, but ever since my D&C my periods have been really messed up, so I have a hard time knowing when I am ovulating. You will be ok, my doctor told me to wait for at least three cycles before getting pregnant again. Hope this helps. Good Luck

Answer 8

I never had a miscaraige, but I had a daughter and I know I would feel the same way you did. My friend on the other hand, just had a miscaraige, and she did too feel the way you did. The only words I can really offer are the ones I told her. Although you're sad about this one, I'm sure you'll have other chances and have another one. And when it does happen, it'll be loved all the more because you'll know how hard you had tried and that it made it. You'll just be all the more happy and proud. So don't give up hope and keep trying at it :)

Answer 9

Babies are a gift from God. That is why so many women become pregnant unexpectedly (as I might be right now). God has a very good reason for why you couldn't carry that baby in a healthy pregnancy. So he chose to have you go through this rough time right now. But look on the bright side of things, it could have been worse. God is the only person who truly decides when you have another bundle of Joy.
My adivce to you is to keep your head up high, and don't let this very sorry experience traumatize you or make you feel like you're not worthy of having another baby. Remeber when the time is right it will happen.

Good Luck and May God Bless you.

Answer 10

i am so sorry for your loss. Losing a child is tough, because alot of things run in your mind "did I do something to cause it? Could I have done something different?"...but please know that miscarriages usually occur because your body knew the baby just wasn't developing right. I had one years ago, my first pregnancy, and I went on to have two healthy ones (the 2nd still cooking lol). I think about it sometimes. You will get over your feelings of grief, but you will always have a place in your heart for the baby you lost! Talk to someone you trust, and PLEASE dont' hide your feelings or feel you have to "Get over it" within a certain time, cause you ARE grieving, and your grieving is real. All the luck to you.