we dated two years ago, and he is the love of my life, we were together a really long time, have know eachother since we were kids, best friends, everything. well, we ended up getting engaged and i got scared and we broke up. after that, he married some other girl to make me mad or something silly like that. well, everytime i talk to him, he tells me he is unhappy with her and that he made a mistake and how much he loves me. I really do still love him, i believe he is the one. well, we ran into eachother about a week ago and ended up having a really long conversation where he was drilling me about if we were both single, would i be with him again, and how he thinks about me everyday and how he is so unhappy with his wife. well, he tells me that he thinks they are going to end up breaking apart soon and i said ok.....then the next day he calls me, says he cant stop thinking bout me and hesleavin her, then calls again, and says sorry no i love her, should i forget bout him???
2006-12-16 09:58:28 · 10 answers · asked by creampuff 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ive been in this situation before so i can relate to how you feel. i think there are still feelings for each other between both of you, but he is married. that itself is a reason for you to stay away. whether his heart is committed to her or not, hes still someone elses husband. he sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too. he is probably confused, and has feelings for both of you. let him have time to figure out what it is hes feeling, who he wants, and as for you forget him for a while. dont hurt yourself by falling for someone whos not yours. when and if he leaves her then think about you two being back together. but for now - there are plenty of other fish in the sea, throw that sucker back in the water and get your bait girl and go fishing.
2006-12-16 10:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by kd baby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh God girlfriend you are breaking my heart. I've actually been here before. I know you are in pain with this. You love him and the thought of him loving you and you two finally being together is putting you on cloud 9. The thing is, it's just a dream ... and it's okay to dream but please don't waste your life and time trying to make it a reality. He's so not going to do it (hopefully) and if he does divorce her and come to you (hopefully not) it won't be the dream you thought it was. He probably does really love you... in his own weird way but he is really playing with your emotions in a very real way and anyone who loves you won't one day say this and the next day that.... just to see if you'll offer some way to make it work (like.... I can't forget about you can't we just see each other till you figure things out??) don't say that because that is what he wants to hear. Just move on and you will find someone that will really mean it and say it all the time and be consistant in his love. There really is nothing worse that a love that fluctuates all the time ... I love you/I love her... I mean come on! Sounds to me like drama will consume you if you stay in further contact with him.... and I'm talking lifetime movie special of the most heartbreaking kind. Never forget about him but feel a little sorry for him, he sounds really immature and married someone and wants out now... and makes serious decisions for his life on a whim or what feels good right at the moment = no back bone. You don't want to end up with a guy like that. You really don't. Took me a while to see that also but I did see it before I did anything rash! :) Good luck and I hope it's been helpful.
2006-12-16 10:13:21 · answer #2 · answered by sassinya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see from what you wrote that you do love him but he is married to another woman. If he continues to call him the best advise I can give you is to tell him if he loves as he says he does then to call you when he has the finalized divorce papers in hand and then you two can try again. The reason I say this is because he might be telling his wife something different and just leading you on. Good Luck.
2006-12-16 10:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by angel68769603 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exs are Exs for a reason move on and don't let him hang around to hurt you. Find a guy that wants to spend time with you all the time not just once in a while.
2016-05-22 23:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hon, I think he doesn't know what's good for him! If he can't make up his mind which one of you he really wants, I think it's time to tell him goodbye, because if he left her and came back to u then he would always be hankering after her.
I'm so sorry, love, I know you're hurting, but he's not worth the pain. Leave them to their little idiocies. There are so many genuine men out there.
I know it will take time but you'll see him in the correct light soon enough.
All my best wishes and good luck, love.
2006-12-16 10:08:50 · answer #5 · answered by kiwi_mum1966 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should forget about him, it sounds like he wants two women at the same time to feed his ego.
He is married, and cheating, if you ever go out with him what makes you think he won't cheat on you?
Drop him.
2006-12-16 10:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this guy got married to make you mad then hes a piece of shat. And he's a heeping pile of sheet for what he's doing to his wife right now. move on baby he's not worth the effort you took to type this out.
2006-12-16 10:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by scumbag 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
forget about him. he is lying to u. he is usuing u as a back-up. he proabbaly really wants her but wanted to keep u in case she left him.
2006-12-16 10:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by DA-LL /Male/ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay away from him, he seems like he's playin u
2006-12-16 10:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by Ian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on, he obviously doesnt know what he wants.
2006-12-16 10:01:06 · answer #10 · answered by stephanie f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋