He says it is because his parents are older. Well, they are completely self-sufficient. He says he needs to be near them, but he commutes an hour each way to work each day. He has a good job, and money saved. He also hasn't really introduced me to his family, and we have been seeing each other for a year. He also will not spend the night with me. When I brng up living together, he says yes (in fact, he started that conversation), but changes the requirements, every time I find a way to meet them. In fact, we were about to lease a hosue together, and he caled me and said he couldn't live with me, because I got "hysterical" when we talked about money.... I had already given notice at my apartment when he did this.
2006-12-16 09:54:58 · 19 answers · asked by NorthernCA/FL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say it all depends on each individuals circumstances. If it doesn't bother this 44 year old man, and it's not bothering his parents....why should it bother you?
2006-12-16 10:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by Prying Pandora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds as though there's an underlying problem here that you don't know about .
I am curious about the fact that he has not spent the night with you even though you've been seen each other for over year. This indicates a couple of possibilities that I will not even mention here.
What I do believe is that he definitely does not want to move in with you any where any time. Is it true you get hysterical when you talk about money?
You have to be realistic about this because if money does seem to be the issue, this may be something you can resolve. But if this is a cop out on his part, there are bigger issues that need to be dealt with.
2006-12-16 18:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by Gnome 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There something going on here, you say he is still living with his
parents, but doesn't want to introduce you to them, That to me sounds kind of fishy. Why wouldn't he, if they are old, like he claims them to be their is nothing wrong with that. Are you sure
he isn't living a double life? Is he married to someone else? Just
because he lives with his parent doesn't mean he can't take you
over there to visit for a while or you spend the night over there.
Don't give up your place for someone whom doesn't show his
real Identity. Why would he change he conversation every time
you bring up (moving in together) Think about it very hard, cause
the more I write the more it stinks. What kind of man doesn't want to move out of his parent s house after 44 years. And to top it off heis hiding something, don't you think. If he is innocent he has a weird way of showing his man hood and the way he does things like Adult kind of way. Are his parents even alive? Sorry
to say this, but it makes one wonder, if you write something that
he is acting strangely. If I were you I would get to the bottom of
this. Do you even know where the parents live? If you do stop
by unexpectedly, to see what he'll say or to see if he will even
invite you in for dinner or just to introduce you to the family.
2006-12-16 18:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The signs was there you knew he was bit of a arshole
..yet you push and push him to say yes to certain things that he would back out again ..within you... you known him for a year ..if he wont stay the night with you away from his home ..how the heck you expect him to move in with you ...it looks like you are desperate to pin him down
and there are many reasons i can think of..
2006-12-16 18:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by JJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not understand why in the world you are still bothering with this loser. If you ask me there is something verrrrrry verrry weird about him, and if you haven't got around to thinking so too, there has to be a little something getting in the way of powers of perception. Come on. You can surely do better for yourself. You are in cloud cuckooland hanging around with this oddball.
2006-12-16 18:01:44 · answer #5 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must have problems,i know of a 44 year old living with his parents but he needed them,they did not need him...He could either be married or he has been in trouble a lot.I would be afraid of getting involved with him.
2006-12-16 18:09:38 · answer #6 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. He is not a motivated person and is probably lazy. This is why it is convenient to live with mom and dad. I have an uncle like that. They don't want to do what it takes to be self sufficient. If mom and dad need to be taken care of, then they can move into his house with him when they need to.
2006-12-16 17:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by roxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is plan as day he ahs hang ups about being at home with his parents and they dont seem to be healthy. You need to let him go because you wont get any where with this man he is too flaky find you a more responsible,independent man
2006-12-16 18:11:49 · answer #8 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have a ton of money by now. He sounds to unstable or insecure to risk a life in the elements of society. You need more advice than a public forum for that one.
2006-12-16 18:04:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh,RUN the other way!You are in a bad situation.
Listen to your intuition!
44 year old MEN do not live at home.
44 year old moma's boys do.
2006-12-16 17:58:49 · answer #10 · answered by Mark K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋