I am a virgin and my boyfriend is ready to have sex and he doesnt know that I am a virgin, I told him lies about having sex and how great it was so he wouldnt judge and now he is preasuring me to have sex.All of my friends have had sex and they talk about how great it is and so do their boyfriends, they are the same age as me and their parents know and they seem to not care. I need answers from you becuase my mom would freak if I asked her. Does sex hurt? How do I know if I am Ready? How do I tell my boyfriend that I am a virgin and that I am not ready? I am 12 years old and my boyfriend is 13, I already asked my cousin and she fainted when I asked her, so I asked her older brother and he never answered me. what should I do? I dont want to be a loser and a virgin forever but no one will asnwer my questions. Please help!
2006-12-16 09:35:22 · 18 answers · asked by amanda hamilton 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh GOD baby girl, slow down. First of all don't allow anyone to pressure you into doing something you don't want to, your so young, its TOO early for you to be thinking about sex. To be honest with you guys respect you more when they found out you're a virgin, because so many girls are giving it up so quick and so easy. I lost mine virginity at 17 and up to that point so many guys would try to do things with me but never budged and afterwards they will tell me they respected me and said I wasn't like them other girls, they called them SLIDES. Hold on to it as long as you can, but just in case you don't listen to the right advice...I'll answer your other question.
At first it is very painful, MOST girls bleed their first time, because their cherry is being popped.
You would know when you ready because you will have no feeling of regret.
Simply tell your boyfriend to take you for who you are and that you're not ready an dif he doesn't take you for that, then obviously you know he was just in it for the sex. MANY MEN TEND TO DO THAT.
Being a virgin is not being a loser, being a virgin is actually gaining respect.
But the day you do decide to have sex, understand the MANY diseases there are out there. Use protection and don't let any guy tell you to not use protection, because that one time you have sex may end up being your last. AIDS, HIV, and many, many other diseases.
Contact me whenever you need to talk, you're so young, keep your head up!!!!!!!!
2006-12-16 09:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by hated.bymany 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask other people if you're ready, trust me, you aren't. I don't know a single person who doesn't regret losing their virginity at your age. And think about it, if you can't even ask your mom about sex now, what would you do if you got pregnant? Are you even concerned with using some kind of birth control? Or what if you got a disease? You say you're boyfriend's not a virgin-it's possible. You'll have plenty of time to have sex, in another 12 years, you won't even be 30 yet. You're only like an 1/8 of the way through your life. If you're not sure, wait. And for the love of God, at least protect yourself-use a condom, get on birth control!
2006-12-16 17:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by lucky_ducky331 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do dont have sex right now i can tell you that you are not ready and yes for a few minutes or so it does hurt but thats besides the point your only 12 you and this guy probably wont even make it and hes probably just using you you should wait till you find the one that makes you complete and the one that you think is going to stick with you or at least till you get older
no matter what you decide remember to always have safe sex and you should also talk to your mom or some trusted adult so they can tell you some important sex stuff
2006-12-16 17:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi. great question. hope I can muddle through and give you a decent answer. first, the easy part, does it hurt? It could, if your hymen wall is still intact and it's ruptured that tearing will hurt. some girls tear it riding horses, or durning gym or what ever so it not a big deal.
I don't know that there is a perfect age for sex. just like there is no perfect age for marriage.
The thing about sex, is it goes both ways. if you sleep with someone, the way God made us, it's more than phyical, it's emotional and spiritual. even if you don't believe in God those are still the facts. so, lets go on.
at 12 you will probably not be a virgin forever. but believe it or not, it is not strange for you to not have sex. it's actually a good thing.. no worries about aids or sexually transmitted diseases and stuff.
at 12 there are so many pressures on you to conform, to fit in, to be like everyone else. I guess if everyone else were going to hell, you''d maybe think about that one. maybe being like everone else is not so good.
You are special, and beautiful. My advice to you, probably sound corny but here it is,
wait till you get married. if you share that with with husband, it's special. you put out for this guy and good chance you will not be with him for very long, so he got something special from you and you lost some thing special.
corny but what the heck.
peace out beautiful girl.
frankie c.
2006-12-16 17:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by frankiechocolate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well for some the first time does hurt so go slow and just tell him if your not ready that it is that time of month so he will have to wait. one thing you might want to do is in your room at home start playing with yourself and learn to enjoy yourself first then when it right you will know and really at 12 you got all the time in the world to loose your cherry. don't let anyone or anything change your mind you stay a virgin as long as you want cause once it is gone you never get it back
2006-12-16 17:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by yum_two 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn chick ur only like 12 at least wait till ur like 16!plus Im 14 and Ive always had friends and still do who say they have had sex but later on I found out that they were fcuking
liars!now I know some of my friends have actually have had sex but most of them havent!My 21 year old couison told me she lied when she was 15 and told her friends and said that she wasnt a virgin but she really was then she lost it when she was 16 or 17 I think...she says some chicks just say that to sound cool and mature.
2006-12-16 17:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by gothicanimechick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are too young!!! and you are not ready!!!!! Please wait until you get older. Dump your boyfriend!! Dont allow anyone to pressure you into doing something that you know you should not be doing!!! You are not a looser, he is the looser!!!! Its okay to be a virgin, you are 12 years old sweetie!
Do you even understand the consequences of sex??? You could possibly get pregnant or get an sexually transmitted disease!!! And you are not too young to get any of those!! Are you ready to take care of a baby??? Are you prepared to live the rest of your life with a STD?? These are the things that you must take into consideration before having sex!!! So please wait, i beg of you, please wait. In time, as you get older these things will come. Wait for love--please. . . .
2006-12-16 17:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me and wait. i kissed a guy in the 6th grade and i was called a slut, think if you had sex with a guy what u would be called. you can also end up with serious diseases like std's, or getting pregnant. I know someone who got pregnant in the 7th grade and everyone calls her a ho. I am in the 8th grade now and am staying a virgin until i am ready. If your ready you will love ur boyfriend, and be older. Think about when your parents find out also. they won't trust you. Go with your instinct and tell him your not ready. if he likes you he will respect your decision.
2006-12-16 17:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by oReOs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heres a thought, how about keeping your legs closed for a few more years, like maybe ten or so. Nothing to be gained be having sex this early other than a possble std, a bad reputation and maybe a pregnancy. Oh and anyone who tells you to go ahead and have sex now is an idiot.
2006-12-16 17:45:39 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think ready or not one day you will have to do it so why not now? You don't need to tell him about your virginity. When you do it go with the flow and moan and say something fake like Oh! dear you're the best. I'm your slave. You can make me do any thing! Oh, Oh, Oh. More yes more and in no time it will be over. You won't feel a thing. He is 13. Right?
2006-12-16 17:42:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋