Whatever happened to good manners?

Question

No one says excuse me anymore. Young people could care less about Senior Citizens and they scowl and roll their eyes instead of greeting each other with a smile. What's Up?? It's still polite to say Good Morning or How do you do ?

Answer 1

that is a fantastic question. if only we knew, we might find them again.

Answer 2

I gave several of my co-workers Godiva chocolates at work today for Christmas, and one of the women didn't even acknowledge the gift. I think that common courtesy is no longer important in contemporary American culture. My dad said that 50 years ago, if you didn't have good manners, then you were a social outcast. Now it's really common and socially acceptable to be rude. My mother said that I'm the only "child" in the family that sends thank-you notes (I'm actually in my twenties now and so are all of my cousins). My grandparents send their grandchildren $100 every Christmas, and I can't imagine just cashing the check and not acknowledging the gift. I'm pretty upset about the woman at work, and I think I'm going to stop giving gifts, because people don't deserve it.

Answer 3

It went down the drain year's ago. Its not just with senior citizens its with "any" age group. I use to say hi to senior citizens but they don't even say hi back anymore. and i'm in my late 20's. So it goes "Both" ways. Not just the younger generation. The Senior Citizens need to rekindle there good manner's as well if they want to have good manner's back. Cause they don't. Well at least where I live. I'm glad they do where you live.

Answer 4

I agree. I use manners all the time. Yes Mam, thank yous etc.. and when I do, people give you this look like you're weak or a sell out or something. I get crazy looks all the time for using manners but it doesn't change me because you get no where without good manners. I don't like the mentality that you think you have to be so nasty, and "hard" to get respect, that's crap. Do unto others...

Answer 5

Accountability is what happened to the manners. No one is responsible for their own behavior, its always someone else's fault, or bad childhood, or television. Parents don't repremand their children - it might either hurt them, or require some actual work and involvement in their lives. Society waits until the 'problem' is out of control to address it. The so called heroes of today are nothing more than overpaid self absorbed egocentrics. There is no one left to look up to as role models anymore. Even our leaders aren't worthy of having anyone follow them.

Answer 6

They were auctioned off to the utmost bidders. honest dealing became bought to a collection bid from each of the most important agencies in the international. i imagine they are on reveal is a few foyer someplace. organic ethics, after being bought by using the Catholic church, were locked up, under no circumstances for use back, to keep them 'organic'. And each of the worlds manners were bought to a touch previous female who regrettably went senile quickly after figuring out to purchase them. The managers of her property nonetheless have not been waiting to locate any hint of the manners, even with the very undeniable truth that the hunt maintains....

Answer 7

We were all taught in public school and on tv that we were the most important people in the whole wide world, and nobody could hurt us, and we could do anything we wanted as long as we didn't hurt anyone. No one wanted to tell anyone else what to do because it might hurt their feelings, or they might get sued for trauma. Children were not taught because both parents were out working so they could have more tv and movies that showed them how to be the best smartalek, the best goof off, and in the 70's it was the best to cheat the police cause they were a bunch of idiots anyway. Parents listened to people who told them that their own parents were wrong for giving them rules, and that everyone had the right to determine for themselves what they felt was most appropriate - which in a capitalistic society, generally becomes what's best for "number 1." We've raised a bunch of selfcentered children who never want to grow up, but who don't in fact live in neverland - and since they don't know what to do about it, they teach their children nothing. Parents who cared about manners realized they were in the minority and gave up, thinking themselves "the only ones" - and said to them selves "No one says excuse me anymore", instead of teaching young people and their co-workers to say excuse me, by example or whatever. Polite people were made fun of and being in the minority, or so they thought, gave in and let everyone walk all over them, instead of standing up for what they believed in - respect for others. It may be polite, but "polite" doesn't mean what it used to, because now it has the connotation of being a sissy, a wuss or a prude. Or worse, "old fashioned." I'm all for a little old fashioned myself, and I'm trying to do my part by saying "thank you" and teaching my children to do so too. But people look at me funny, and my own family laughs at me for trying to instill in my children the joy of giving at Christmastime - saying in front of the kids, "Oh, sure, giving is the best. Hahaha!" Even Christianity and Judaism has gone the way of selfishness, with megachurches and youth music geared towards doing what makes you feel good and fit in with everybody else, instead of what makes for true peace, and serving one another. I won't even touch the separation of church and state issue. And there are more reasons. But you asked in a forum full of people who have little to no idea what social graces are, as we sit here behind little glowing screens and say whatever we want, however we want to spell it, because in the end it really doesn't matter. It's just a computer with no heart or brain. And I just happened to be in a mood for being a little grumpy about all the "Christmas spirit" that gets talked about and praised, but never fully lived, except maybe a little toy bought and thrown in a Marine's anonymous can for children without anyone to teach them manners or love or respect - just, "hang in there and you'll get stuff every December 25th. You deserve it. Cause you're the most important person in the whole wide world."

Answer 8

I think parents are not longer teaching respectful good manners in the home and you cannot expect teachers to take on that chore too. Children are growing up with no guidance and no manners.

Answer 9

Good manners are sorely lacking. Lack of respect for Senior citizen is lacking. People are becoming lovers of themselves.

Answer 10

good manners went out the window a long time ago ,along with morals and respect.none of these things hardly exist anymore, i,m sorry to say.

Answer 11

I try. I think that all you can do is try to lead by example. I hold the door for the person behind me. I say "Thank you" if someone holds the door for me. I will let someone out in front of me in traffic & give the little "wave" to anyone who lets me out. I also try to respect other's opinions & beliefs on here, whether or not I agree with them. I do agree with you!