does this situation im about to explain mean you are questioning you relationship...ok here we go.....was dating a guy for a while we both were very physically attracted to one another and things broke up as i was upset about my job etc a little needy at the time...he always stares at me when we are out and the other day i apoligised to him and he said i was one of the most lovely people he had met and that initially he was intimidated by my job ( i have quite a high powered job and earn good money) he also said he thought i was gorgeous back then and still does, i said i was leaving and he kept on grabbing me and said he would love me...if he was single..When i chatted about one of my ex boyfriends he got jealous and said 'what about us?'. He has only just started to date someone else..i have always been infatuated with him and vice versa..what should i do should i ask him for a drink as friends, i think he could of beena potential one
2006-12-16 09:31:57 · 15 answers · asked by racheal m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What the hell you waiting for......go get him...
2006-12-16 09:34:09 · answer #1 · answered by ohwiseone 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, take things very slow. You've got all the time in the world. He may have changed from the past, so you'll have to see if he's still charming. Now you did say, "if he was single". That tells me he's married. If he is, then don't mess around with him. If he would leave his wife for you, then what makes you think he won't leave you for another down the line. If he's married, then he can't be trusted, unless he's actually separated or going through a divorce right now. Like I said, take things very slow, and make sure you guard your heart so you don't get hurt. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-16 17:38:29 · answer #2 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok it is a very confused picture.
it looks as tho he never really wanted to split up.
he may feel unsure as to ur intentions
bcos u let him down.
he sounds quite a nice guy.
he may not want to do to his new love what u did 2 him.
as she is fairly new it might be ok for him to explain to her
that he has never let go of u.
u can either give it time to see how his current situation works out. or u can get back together and let her down.
my concerns are:-
1 he feels u let him down
2 ur job is obviously very important 2u
3 do u want a serious relationship considering 2?
4 how committed 2 him would u be?
if u genuinely are made 4 each other then i wish u a happy life together. as long as this other girl is not too hurt in the process.
2006-12-16 17:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer: He is an 'Obsessive.'
Advice: ""Walk""
If you are foolish enough to invite him 'in' or anywhere, then the chances are likely that should you decide you are no longer interested, then there would be no point in you saying so as you would be probably wasting your time and breath.
But then, I think you already know this and are enjoying something of the DANGER or the kudos involved here.
By the way: I find it a problem to understand how anyone can be 'intimidated by the job another person does.'
A 'job,' 'work' or 'profession' is ethereal, it cannot intimidate anyone. I suspect that his explanation is a cop-out for him.
Sash.
2006-12-16 18:33:03 · answer #4 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a bit of a difficult one, but it sounds like he has low self esteem issues, he couldn't hack being there for you when you needed him, he is threatened by your success and is jealous of anyone you felt anything for in the past. Only you know if this is someone you want to spend time with.
If, on the other hand, it is one of those "you don't want him but don't want anyone else to have him" things, then let the man be happy.
2006-12-16 19:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by patience 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say that he definitely still has feelings for u. and i think he's fooling himself by getting into another relationship with someone else. i just feel sorry for his new girlfriend. you both need to sit down and have an honest conversation about your feelings towards eachother. i know that it'll be difficult, but u hear about so many couples who marry the wrong people, then are miserable for years, before finally getting the courage up to follow their hearts. i would wait til after xmas though. i don't think it's a good time of year to be dealing with these kind of issues..... like i said before, i feel sorry for his current girlfriend, and i think it would be horrible if he dumped her over xmas time
2006-12-16 18:01:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a potential BAD situation if he is jealous like that and you aren't even dating. And if he said he would love you if he was single... well if he really loved you then he would become single so he could be with you. Sounds like the cheating type though. JUST BE FRIENDS... if you avoid the physical stuff you find out what he's really like. If you dive into sex then that's all you'll get.
2006-12-16 17:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by LD 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have asked this question 3 times in the past hour - each time it has a different heading but the main question is just the same - long winded and confusing. maybe is you made it clearer and easier to understand then people would answer you.
2006-12-16 17:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by magicalle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look first things first, if you love him go for it. no questions asked. If you are just infactuated with him because he is seeing someone else then leave the man alone. You left, not him.
2006-12-16 17:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by Biker 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you love him and can see your self growing old with him then go for it. Just remember looks fade and sex dies out. So if he doesn't make you laugh or have good convo w/you. Then he's probably not the one.
2006-12-16 17:40:38 · answer #10 · answered by buddysgirl24 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you mad or just obsessed. You call yourself the needy one but I think it's him. Forget the runt, move on!
2006-12-16 18:53:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋