Would it ruin their friendship??

Question

Well my best friend is dating a friend(Aric) of my b/f. I am always hanging out with Aric and we are very close friends. My friend is jealous. Does she have a reason??
When I was hurt and d.q. during my gymnastics meet(which neither my bff or b/f could attend b/c of something else with school), Aric came up to me in the hall where me and my friend were crying and held me in his arms and said everything will be ok.
He will come up behind me and put his arms around me or give me a hug when I am feeling down?? I have fallen asleep in his arms b4 too. We both have feelings for eachother.

If Aric and I hooked up would my b/f be devastated that I fell for his(and my) friend?? Would it ruin their friendship??

Would my b/f "hate" his friend??

Answer 1

yes. There are planty of guys in the world. Find one that has no attachments to your BF. You have a choice- stay BF or loose the friendship forever. Which one is more valuable? PS Guys are only after one thing, and if they can get it from 2 girls they feel empowered.

Answer 2

Oh it very much would. First of all - even though I am friendly with a couple of my boyfriend's friends, I would never call them my friends. They are my boyfriend's friends.

Aric is your Boyfriend's friend! Also Aric is your Best Friend's Boyfriend! You must respect that. He is NOT available to you. You are putting four hearts and friendships in mortal danger. Your best friend has a reason to be very hurt by you, and furious at you.

These things can happen easily if you don't behave in a responsible way.
A hug of comfort can be nice, but do not hang on anybody but the one you are committed to.
It is very inappropriate to "fall asleep in his arms"! What were you even doing in a position like that? If some one who is not my bf or is the bf of a friend (or anyone else's bf) put his arms around me I would gently push them away to let them know that it is not acceptable/respectable behavior.

Think, if he behaves that way with his friend's gf, how does he behave with all his other friends or his own gf? If you behave that way with your bf's friend and your bff's bf what kind of human being are you?


.....That would be some one without healthy boundaries, without self respect, without common decency, without maturity.....
All of which you can learn about and improve to be a better person and a happier, well loved person.

Answer 3

8 years diffrence is good!!