i have 3 kids and im under 25! i have no job, no babysitter to go find a job, no car, no diploma. ive made mistakes and i am so depressed. I want to improve my life but its hard i am thinkingabout suicide! I need help!
2006-12-16 08:54:26 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Death is not the answer. You have 3 people depending on you. The babysitter problem. Find some young mother and share in the child care. Maybe she can watch your children and you can watch hers when needed. No job? Start small. What skill do you have that you are overlooking? What work could you do from home? Stuffing envelopes? Taking surveys online? Data entry? Keeping others children while they work? You will be pleasantly surprized when you start asking around, help will be there. No Diploma? There are many free adult schools. This is where some of the babysitting services come in. No car? Use mass transpotation, learn schedules, get monthly passes. Learn to ask for help from family from friends. Life is so worth living and your children need you. Also check with the churches in your community. I have been here you are. Keep faith. Only you can begin to change your circumstances right now. This question was a start.
2006-12-16 09:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by shoes_717 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't leave your kids, stay away from drugs and alcohol. Do not sell yourself either. If you have parents, see if they can sometimes babysit your kids during the day or know someone who can. You should try to get back into school. Even if you can't try to get some form of a job, like at a gas station or somewhere where a degree isn't needed. Then, once you start making some money (not a lot, but hey, it's something) buy ONLY the necessities. Those would include things like food, water, and clothing. Everytime you get paid, you can save up some money. Eventually you will have enough to go to school again, and get a real degree. Once you do that, you will be able to support your kids. This is obviously easier said than done and may take some time, but hey, there's no better place to start than the beginning.
2006-12-16 09:05:25 · answer #2 · answered by Whenimwithy0ux3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is suicide going to do? It's very selfish of you to think that with three kids! What would happen to them?
But then I think selfishness is probably a large reason why you are where you are now isn't it?
The good news is you at least take responsibility by admitting you made mistakes. That allows you to believe that you are still in charge and can change your life.
How are you getting food and shelter? I guess thats where you need to start. Find some community/government agencies to help out people in situations like yours. Once you got the basics covered, find out how you can earn your H.S. diploma. THere are adult schools all over the place and help from welfare agencies in getting child care. Some places even take you through college or trade schools.
From there, you need to figure out what it is that you want to do with your life. Try starting with being a good mother so your kids don't end up the way you did.
Good luck and good life to you.
2006-12-16 09:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by markawfg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you commit suicide- then what will happen to your 3 kids. It will be a circle, they will probably repeat the same mistakes as you, ruin their lives, think there's no way out, and also commit suicide. You're under 25!!! You have lots of time to correct your mistakes. Start with finishing your diploma- it's not as hard as you think. Then find a suitable job. Try moving closer to family- not only for guidance and support for difficult times such as these- but also so they can watch your kids for you while you're at work free of charge! Take things one step a time. Save $20 from every paycheck and pretty soon after a couple of years, that will pile up and you can get a car. Not the best- but a car. Just take things slowly- take life one step at a time. One breath at a time. And I promise- things' will get better. They always do :-) Best of luck---
2006-12-16 08:59:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is not the answer to your problems. You are so young still and have so much you can still achieve. You may not need a car to get a diploma. Depending on where you live, adult schools do offer a "study at your pace" program that will help you get your diploma. If you have no way of getting to the schools, call and ask to see if they have such a program in your area. They usually do because they want to encourage everyone to have at least a diploma, and of course for those extra busy people who don't have the time to attend class during the day, they can work on their workbooks even at 3 in the morning. All you have to do is complete these workbooks/packets and turn them in for credit. How many workbooks depend on how many units you have left to get your diploma.
it's tough having three kids, no car and no job, but consider getting a diploma first so it's easier for you to find a job.
Craigslist.org has many job listings, so you may find that helpful.
As for your kids, i hope you can find a family member who is willing to help you out. Or, if you find a job that offers daycare, that would be a help!
see, there are still opportunities for you. Please dont' kill yourself, your kids need you.=)
2006-12-16 09:07:11 · answer #5 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to do better then you can do it. You have a choice but it's up to you to quit throwing the pity party and get on board and do something about it. Now i know you have a social services where you are at you need to go there and tell them that you need help to find a job and you want to get your diploma and you have no means of transportation. Another thing you could do is talk to a counselor. You can change your situation but if you commit suicide what will happen to your kids because they didn't ask to be born. Now get up and start making some phone calls to get on your way to a better life for your kids and yourself and i guarantee you that your life will start to take a turn for the better but you have to make it happen. You can get give out for trying but you never give up. May God Bless You And Give You The Strength To Endure!
2006-12-16 11:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you say you made a mistake. That's a beginning. Killing yourself and leaving 3 kids with nobody to take care of would be the worst thing you can do. Face up to your problems. I am sure you can find a friend or a relative, neighbour to attend to the kids while you go look for a job. You have to start somewhere. Things could have been a lot worse. You could be having an incurable disease or married to a crackhead. Just think about it and make the best out of your life.
2006-12-16 08:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everybody makes mistakes. Sometime I wish I could turn back time and fix the mistakes I have made but we can't. Life is already to short. Take it a day at a time. You should start by getting your diploma and the job of your dreams. Sucide is not your answer girl. Good Luck and keep your head up high. Think positive.
2006-12-16 09:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by undertowrottie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please get some help. Do not even think about suicide. Do you really want to leave your kids in this world with out you in thier lives? I know that life is hard and nearly impossilbe, but you have to keep trying. Everyone has made mistakes, the thing is to learn from them and apply your knowledge to your future. Take things one step at a time and follow your gut feeling. It will take a lot of hard work but it will be worth it. If you would like to talk let me know. Please take care of your kids and you.
2006-12-16 09:01:33 · answer #9 · answered by jeffko82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, no think of your babies don't even think of suicide. You can get help from the state with all these problems. Just go to the state office and tell them your problem they'll help you. Move into a home for women an they'll give you and your kids food and a place to live and help you until you can help yourself. Don't leave those 3 babies homeless without a mommy.
2006-12-16 09:03:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋