Females keep on rejecting me, wether it's asking for a date or to hang out. No one wants to hang out with me. Why can't I just have a true friend. I've been living in Hawaii for about a year. I just turned 26, the end of the year is approaching fast, yet my year is already turning out horrible. It's been a year since I've had a friend to be with.
2006-12-16 08:47:20 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sound like you are kind of down on yourself and that you don't really know who you are. Think of the types of people you want to date or hang out with. I am guessing they possess qualities like independence, a positive outlook, and self-confidence. Those are the same qualities you need to develop within yourself to draw people to you. So my advice would be working on turning yourself into a person people are drawn to. This can be achieved by working on several areas of your life.
First, if you don't have a great job already, get one. Great doesn't mean high-paying. It means something you have a passion for, something that when you mention it to others, they get excited and start asking questions. By getting a career you are passionate about, you will attract others with your enthusiasm.
Second, get some hobbies that are interesting. What type of sport or activities do you think you might enjoy? Not only are hobbies a great way to develop your confidence and positive attitude, it is also a wonderful way to meet potential friends or dates in a laid-back, stress-free way.
You will only get the type of friends and lovers you want by becoming the sort of person you seek. Once you start to feel more sure of who you are, you will understand why you are valuable to others and they will see that change of attitude in you. It is NOT easy. It takes work to fine-tune yourself. But you can either look to the future with a pessimistic attitude and hope for a miracle, or you can start working right away on making yourself the type of person you want to be.
Remember, the first year after a big move can be a trying time, but while you are waiting to meet the right person, utilize the spare time you have to make yourself the best you can be, so that right person will have no choice but to be attracted to you. Good luck!
2006-12-16 09:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by MissM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, a two part answer. First, people rejecting you as a friend: you shouldn't have to "ask" a friend if they want to hang out. Visit them or ask them to visit you and you can tell if you're enjoying their company and them enjoying yours. if not, go somewhere else. Find an interest or a hobby or a club... a common interest with people and try to meet some new aquaintences and in time, you will make a few friends.
As for dating: I look at getting rejected as something positive. One less person to wonder about as to whether they will go out with me or not. Move on to the next. Dating is an odds game, you have to get rejected so many times before somebody will say yes.
Also, like everyone said, don't be whiney and don't act/seem too desperate. Give it time and it will happen.
2006-12-16 17:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by O S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all make sure you don't stink. second, try being a bit more social. go to ANY get together. even if you think it won't be fun. Talk to many different people, about anything. but if they're showing signs of not being interested in you don't push it. make jokes, say hi. it may be hard to be more social because you might be shy, but remember, other people are just as shy as you. or watch somebody who has a lot of friends (don't stalk). see how they act or what they do. sort of like studying them. or even better try to become friends with them.
2006-12-16 16:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by asprinfree_braindamage_please 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're trying to hard.
You're going to the wrong places.
You're not dressing like you have a fashionable bone in your body.
You're not liking yourself or that's how it's coming out.
First, stop trying to pick up every female you see.
Second, change where you go to meet women. Going to bars? Get out of that scene. Go to a bookstore and read.
Third, dress like you actually care what you look like.
Fourth, bathe, brush your teeth and comb your hair everyday.
2006-12-16 16:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by Geo-Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying becoming more of a man than a whiny boy. Try looking else were or lower your standards or hang out with people with the same interests are you. If whining is one of your interests, join a support group of whiners.
2006-12-16 16:49:46 · answer #5 · answered by InTROLLigent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all get rejected at some point in our lives. Just be yourself, don't try to hard or come across too desperate. Have fun in HI. I'm jealous!!!
2006-12-16 16:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by JAD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a friend...they will learn you are a good friend...they will want to hang out with a true friend
don't pretend to be a friend...really be a real friend...if you don't know what a real friend is, then how come you have such high expectations of others being your friend?
2006-12-16 16:53:51 · answer #7 · answered by Piguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you are trying to hard. You should try alittle less or chnge something. If you need more help then im me at aim stephan6117.
2006-12-16 16:49:59 · answer #8 · answered by Jonathan G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you look attractive, do you have a great personality, what makes you unique? if you don't have any of those qualities, then maybe thats why you are being rejected.
2006-12-16 16:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by ♥frisco♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try so hard. When you stop trying and be yourself and then have some fun, people respond to that.
2006-12-16 16:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋