i am feeling almost suicidal?

Question

i was thinking today :
i am 22, have no life, no friends, no boyfriend, no one who can help me in life, no job, i just graduated from college....
and i see all my classmates so happy, all together drinking, and i am all alone.... maybe i was living wrong??
i know that i am shy, and very spiritual, and its hard for me to open up infront of ppl..............and now i met this very popular boy, who had lots of girlfriends before, and i feel like, what the hell does he want from me? sex is probably the answer. yeah, that all he wants
and nothing else, who am i fooling.........
i feel so left out and lonelly..........
i am scared, maybe i've been living wrong??

Answer 1

nope - you're normal -

and CONGRATULATIONS! - graduated college!

your nose has been to the grindstone - so get out there and get a job - and get some jingle in your pocket

it will be a change from studying - you can do it!

there is a lucky guy out there for you! *sigh*

Answer 2

Don't feel like that, life's is never that bad to end it!. You've got sooo much to live for that you don't even realise. Yeah, you graduated from college, that's amazing! well done, you have loads of opportunities now to eventually find a job, earn lots of money. As for the friend thing, you're only 22, give it time. I really think you should try to make new friends, maybe when you get this job, then you'll meet them. But when you're 50 years old, you're gonna look back on your life at 22 and think I should have done this and i should of done that. Really, take control of your life, forget the guys right now, if that guy wants you and you think he just wants sex, don't give it to him, if he really likes you, then he'll be more than happy to wait for it. Don't put yourself down, this guy may fancy the pants off you, and love being around you cuz you're fun, have you ever thought bout that. Break out of your shell, and push yourself to talk to people and the confidence will come eventually, do it before it's too late. P.S. Get self help books out to have confidence. Anyway, I hope this has helped, don't do anything stupid tho, it's not worth it when you CAN change YOUR life. xx

Answer 3

Don't doubt your past, You can't change it. You just have to realize what you did wrong and use those mistakes and that knowledge to help you in the future. The most powerful tool you have is your past. I have been where you are. I have been to the point where suicide was a very real idea in my head. I actually tried to hang myself. When i realized what i was doing, I noticed how stupid I was for even thinking about doing that. I am a smart, beautiful girl with a million oppurtunities in front of me. You are the same. Why would you throw that away? Use it. If there is a hot guy looking your way, jump for it. Maybe he isn't just after sex. And if he is, draw the line.

If you ever need somebody to talk to, I am here. I know that you don't know me, and I don't know you, but I am always willing to help and make new friends. You are a great person, and you have potential, everybody has potential. Use IT!

Answer 4

Chill out girlfriend.
We all feel like that at times....
Think about all the positive things in your life...how many othere 22 year olds have college degrees? I didnt graduate until i was 23, and I didnt get a job for almost two years after that
I spent 30,000 on a wedding for a marriage that lasted 2 mos, and then i had to pay thousands more $$$ to get out of it....
Sometimes i would think similiar thoughts, but i try to surround my self with family and freinds, when I do.
You are probably able bodied, with two hands, two feet, all your five senses, you have lots to be happy about.
Trust your guy about this guy, if you dont feel right around him, look for someone more to your liking.
Take a deep breath and count all the things you do have.

Answer 5

No, you haven't been living wrong. You seem like you're hanging with the wrong crowd. If it's any consolation, I'm 21 and I've kinda been thinking the same thing. I don't smoke or drink, or go to parties. I'm single too, and almost everyone I know is in a couple (often with people who live out of town). I do feel left out and lonely sometimes. But I think to myself that when I get out of college, I will be free to pursue whatever hobbies I please. I will meet more like-minded people there than I am able to right now. If you are still suicidal, email me and I'll try to help. Good night!

Answer 6

HELL NO GIRL, you are absolutely perfect the way you are. You are a normal person!! Everyone has had times when they feel like there is no-one for them to love, to tlk to, to hang out with!! It's okay though! Listen all you got to do is walk up to some random group of people and be like "Hey is there a party or anything going on tonight? Maybe we could hang out later sometime". And tell that guy that you're not into being all physical and that you want a REAL relationship and if he stays then he's worth it, but if he runs then forget about him he's not worth it! Whatever you do do not do anything with him that's sexual WAIT!!
By the way there should be absolutely no reason for suicide you are a great person and you are going to make someone happy one of these days...just wait and everything will work out like you want it to!!! God put you on this earth for a reason so don't interfer with that reason ok!!!!

Answer 7

Honey, PLEASE don't kill yourself! I know it sounds corny but you have your whole life ahead of you. A lot of recent college grads don't have jobs yet, so don't feel bad about that!

And you're classmates aren't as together as you'd like to think - why do you think they drink all the time? Maybe they have friends that they secretly hate, a boyfriend who's only with them to use them for sex, and the majored in something they didn't care about because their parents told them they could get a good paying job right of college (and they had to give up what they really cared about).

As for that very popular boy, think about this, he's had other girls, but he wants to be with YOU! And it's probably NOT a sex thing, I'm sure he could find easy girls for that, you're very spriatual, and it would be hard for him to use a good woman like you for something so cheap and dirty (and he KNOWS that about you)

You sound like a great girl, and you're time will come!

So quit beating up on yourself!

And you should get a counselor or therapist to talk to about this, so she can help you deal with your feelings.

If you're in the US, call 1(800) SUICIDE or 1(800) LIFENET and they'll help you find some help.

Things are going to get better for you!

Answer 8

You need serious help..

First, I think you should be thankful of what you got right now although you claim that you got no life, friends, bf etc etc..

You have to find the source of your unhappiness.. Maybe it's time to know yourself better..

Try to open up little bit, meet more people then you will get wider perspective in life..

Your life is not as bad as you think! There are many people out there who are worst then you..

So stop thinking negatively.. Pull yourself out together..

If things are really difficult for you then you should find a therapist..

And by the way, how do you know that your friends are happy, the do look happy but you never know what's inside their heart.. Only heart knows its own trouble :-)

Wake up girl.. be more positive!

Answer 9

Oh my dear women. Drinking and sex isnt going to help you. Sounds like you have a real *** of a boyfriend o only want sex from you. You deserve better than that. THere is Help for you and your Depression. Please go get professional help. Its ok to be shy. LOL I have never been popular. However, I have found this. Its not the number of friends I have its the quality. Remember that quality over quanity. I think its great taht you are a college graduauate that is something to be proud of. I also think that being Spiritual is a great hing. There is more to a relationship than sex. IT helps but if your not ready or you feel pressured than thats not the relationship for u dear. Have you ever watched your classmates after they have been drinking. Most of them are acting like donkeys behinds, puking in the toilet and doing and saying things they wouldnt do if sober. Thats nothing to envy lol. ITs one thing to have a drink or tow and be with all your facilities then falling around staggering drunk and not remembering what happened the night before thats no fun. ITs sad and irresponsible. Listen my advise to you is to Go for some serious counceling ASAP especially if you are suicidal. Asking for help is your first step. If you need to Please go to your local emergency room and ask for help. ASk to talk to a dr or social worker. I guarantee things will be ok. Its only a problem if there is no solution and there are solutions. Im sure you have friends and family , a pastor. Cal them ask for help. I know my pastor would be here in the blink of a eye if I needed him. so would my family. You will be ok. HUGS please get help. here is my email if you need to tak. [e-mail] please let me know your ok and have gotten help goodluck dear.

Answer 10

Sucide is really not the answer, i know sometimes things can seem really bad in life and it can be very hard at times, but it doesn't seem that anything is wrong with you, jus because your shy and maybe have a hard time being social isn't that bad, there are people with alot worse, you should just work on getting out there a little bit more and enjoying life, and as far as a guy goes, you definitly don't want to be with someone who only wants sex, you will find someone soon enough that wants to be with you for you and loves you for who you are, your personality and stuff... stick with it and please don't hurt yourself..... if you want u can always IM me on yahoo IM if u ever just want to talk...... justin685 is my screen name...

Answer 11

Dear, If you continue to put yourself down, you will stay down. To get to the top you have to start at the bottom, but you don't have to stay there. Think positive, Keep your head up. Just because you see classmates out Drinking and having fun, Does not mean they are happy people.We all have ups and downs, Its how we deal with it when were down, and what we have learned. Give your self some credit. Maybe this guy likes you because of you,not what he can get in the bedroom. You live your life for you, not for anyone else. Keep your chin up and good things will come to you. I promise!!!!!!