My uncle has anti social personality disorder, i'm not sure if he's completely diagnosed but he certainly has almost every symptom. The problem is he won't accept any blame for how messed up his life is, he's been jailed lots of times, beaten people up when he feels like it. He resents the thought of paying money to anybody, even though he has hardly ever worked in his life, after he left the military when he was 17, he is now 40. Now though, nobody in the family wants to help him, but I just can't stop feeling like I should try. Should I just give up on him? after all, if he won't help himself then noone else can?
2006-12-16 08:31:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Thank's for all the answers, they were all exactly right. Unfortunatly his parents and most of his brothers and sisters give him money which he wastes on smoking.
2006-12-17 04:11:24 · update #1
If he is really sick (emotionally), what he needs is not a sympathy, but a treatment.
But the difficulty here is, the person who is emotionally sick often don't know or don't have the ability to know he is sick. Since he is an adult, no one can force him into a treatment unless the court declears incapable of making his own decisions.
If you are going to try to help him, MAKE IT VERY CLEAR TO YOURSELF how far you are willing to go. It is obvious from your descriptions that he doesn't want to help, and he will fight you every way. He can easily drag you into his world and make you feel that it is YOUR responsibility to help him that if you don't help him, you are the bad person. Make sure you don't fall into this trap. Realize that he may not be doing this intentionally, but you have to protect yourself first.
If you decide to loan him money, make it a gift and don't expect a payback, although you can tell him anything you want. I can almost gurantee you that if you loan him anything, he will want more and you will never see that money again.
2006-12-16 08:43:59 · answer #1 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I made this mistake more than once. I cannot stress enough that it is a mistake to get involved with a person like this. Before you know it, you will be the one negatively affected, not him. He'll just go mooch off someone else. Nothing is ever enough for them and they will manipulate things to stay in the victim mode so people will feel they owe them something.There are medical and lodging places that will help him. If he refuses and passes out on the street or gets violent again, the cops will provide housing for awhile.
2006-12-16 16:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by beez 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People like this do not change after they "Get one more chance". I bet he knows you are "soft" and will attempt to convince you of his newfound change in attitude. People like your Uncle prey on others, with no thought of anything other than the attitude of "what's in it for them". You are not going to make a shred of difference. If he hasn't done anything to fix his poor social skills by now, he ain't gonna do it. What are you thinking of doing, drag him to a therapist? He would just lie about the facts anyway. Stay away, if he really wants help, tell him you'll GO with him, but only if he makes the first step.
2006-12-17 04:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by msmaryanne3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people do not learn how to behave when growing up. His parents may not have disciplined him when needed. It is too late for that now. Its probably best to forget he ever lived.
2006-12-16 16:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋