my fiance and I were planning a local wedding until some family problems (on my side) happened and we thought what a great idea it would be to just go off to Jamaica and have our wedding at a beautiful resort.. I thought just the two of us would go since none of our family can go with us (too expensive) but he invited two of his long time friends that have just recently moved to the area to come along with us. I do NOT want them to come along. I don't want anyone to. I rather spend a loving long week of just the two of us and no one else to spoil the fun. I'm not a huge people person and I'd really like to just have it be us. Fiance is throwing a fit, we're to the brink of calling the whole thing off. He's been married twice before, me never. I'm about ready to punch the guy for not thinking about my feelings over his friends. Suggestions please!!
2006-12-16 08:06:49 · 8 answers · asked by picturegirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You both need to compromise.
How long (#days/#nights) will you be at the resort?
Perhaps have the first few days there to yourselves, NO talking to his friends or meeting with them, then the last few days with his friends? OR meet his friends just for lunch and perhaps an activity or two.
You need to think about HIS feelings too, his long time friends have recently moved to the area and I'm sure he'd like time to hang with them too.
Sit down with each other and talk it out. If you think you or he will start yelling, make sure to bring a NEUTRAL party to help mediate.
2006-12-16 09:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are probably going to need to compromise.
what about having a small destination wedding in jamaica (it is so much cheaper to do a destination wedding), then ditch the guests and go on your honeymoon at another resort?
that way you both are happy....he gets to have his close friends and family at the wedding...it is not too large for you...but then you guys get to go off and have romantic couple time.
i had a destination wedding and it was fantastic.
here is some info for you about DW's in jamaica so you can see pics etc. There is even a bride that just got married with no family or friends present.
http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/f34/
2006-12-17 07:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a small wedding at home for family and friends and then go to Jamaica for your honeymoon without your fiances two best friends. Best Wishes and Happy Wedding Day!
2006-12-16 08:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by Janice 10 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if two people truly love each other ..then any wedding is the answer.. however I can fully relate to your whole idea of going to Jamaica for your wedding because when family problems get in the way at the planning stage of the wedding it generally happens on the day aswell..my girlfriend and I are thinking of the whole overseas beach wedding thing because we want something that we decide on and not what any family say we should do...as for his friends going along I think you need to ask him why he thinks he needs them along on what should be your special day and the honeymoon that follows.. its not being unreasonable of you to want him to yourself and I for one know that the time left at the resort after the wedding I would only want my new bride there and no-one else
2006-12-16 11:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
just talk to him then decided what's best for the both of you. Marriage is all about compromise and what I would do is have a wedding close to home then go to Jamaica for your honeymoon
2006-12-16 08:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by buddy dog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're searching at this as an both/or and ignoring all the opportunities in between. the guy who performed out wedding ceremony ceremony married his spouse at his brother's farm, then they'd a barbecue, and swam interior the swimming hollow. there is not any reason you may't have a ceremony at residing house, (interior the in-regulation's backyard, in a park, community assembly hall,) and characteristic a pig roast for the reception. you may favor to modify out of your wedding ceremony gown for the roast. Then, bypass to Jamaica. It would not might want to be a huge White wedding ceremony, yet a probability on your human beings and kin to witness your vows *as they take position.* I basically altered a "wedding ceremony" gown for my boss's DIL. She appeared on line for "non-wedding ceremony wedding ceremony clothing" and positioned a short, above-the-knee ivory gown that replaced right into a 'pattern' from a clothier she loved. No lining or some thing, appeared gorgeous on the exterior, interior replaced into unfinished. She paired it with brightly colored shoes. She requested each and each of her BMs to purchase a revealed, above the knee gown. the adult males wore khakis, white shirts, vests and ties. They married outdoors, and had a reception in a hall interior sight. They wrote their personal vows. actual one of my college acquaintances were given married at her kin's summer season camp in a short white cotton gown from an section branch shop. I made my gown and rented the safeguard at an section park. in case your loved is an basically toddler, getting married with out his kin being waiting to be there would initiate issues out on the incorrect foot. You *can* do it, yet why, at the same time as there are this kind of large number of concepts to think about? at the same time as i will savour your remark about "all about us and no one else" it isn't truly authentic. movements have repercussions. Your in-regulations have thoughts, too, and evidently their thoughts are somewhat damage. you do not ought to have a "massive, classic" wedding ceremony to be married: as a count number of truth, i imagine it has a tendency to overshadow the extremely difficult section, the marriage.
2016-11-30 20:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by sobczak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jamaica is a beautiful place if they cant be there try using a web cam.
2006-12-16 14:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by Gossip81 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a super small family get together on a local beach for a small wedding, and go to JAMAICA for your honeymoon. ::))
2006-12-16 08:15:00 · answer #8 · answered by Aleah Marie LL 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋