What should i do? Sorry its confusing.?

Question

I am a lesbian first off, and my girlfriend and i have the same ex. My g/f just told the ex that we are seeing each other. The ex still loves my g/f. My g/f is trying to mend things between them friendship wise. But since my g/f told the ex we havent talked very much. I love my g/f. We are going to get married soon. We love each other. I just dont know what to do to support my g/f right now because she doesnt want their friendship to end. I want to be there for her but i dont know what to do.

Answer 1

I don't think that it matters whether it is a lesbian relationship or a heterosexual one, in the sense that the emotions surrounding love, commitment, break-ups, etc. are the same. In general, I would venture to say that it is very difficult to maintain a friendship with a ex-lover even when both of the individuals involved want to be friends. When one moves on to a new relationship and is committed to it, with time the connection to the ex becomes less and less. It happens naturally and it is probably for the best. In your situation, the ex is still in love with your girlfriend and may try to win her affections again. It makes a difficult situation. Hopefully, you have enough trust in your girlfriend and the relationship the two of you have developed. I believe you need to give her space to figure things out on her own; after all, you can not receive someones heart by force and if she is true to you and your relationship, then it will be. The only other thing you can do is just be a good listener and comfort her when she is feeling at odds with this situation.

Answer 2

It comes to trust. I don't think you should keep your gf from having friends. I feel that you just need to sit down with your gf and have a heart to heart talk with her. Communication is the key to a long lasting relationship. Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

You need to talk to your GF. Tell her it's hard for you to accept it, but you'll try to help.