Im baptist and i wanted to kno is it against my religon to marry someone who has less of a love of god than me

Question

I was told by a friend of mine it was wrong to do

Answer 1

No it is not against your religion.

There are some warnings in the bible that you might want to consider.

Solomon, reputed to be one of the wealthiest rulers ever, exists almost in name only today. I think 1 or 2 references have been found outside of the bible, that's it. His downfall was in trying to please his 900 wives and 600 concubines (approximate numbers) that were not respectful of The One True God. In Soloman's effort to appease "his women" he allowed the high places of worship to other gods along with the (asthoreth?) poles to be established. God was not favorable to this compromise AT ALL.

In the New Testament both Paul and Peter write about the proper relationship between a husband and wife. Essentially you are her role model of Jesus in her life. The only way you can successfully fulfill this responsibility is by submitting to Jesus as the Lord of all, in your own life. If you do this, she will not resent your authority. You will be putting her needs before your own and leading her through servant leadership. She will be able to flourish as a woman because she will be free to exercise her gifts and not be held back and treated like a second-class citizen. The result of you successfully doing this is that you will always have her respect. This is reflective of the love that Jesus demonstrated to His bride to be, the church. Jesus loved the church enough to die for her and this kind of love deserves respect.

We are all created with a purpose in mind when God formed us. Have you identified your purpose in life? Do you know the purpose of your creation, have you found and are walking on the path that God made just for you. Have you identified your spiritual gifts that you were given upon your re-birth? They are given to help you in accomplishing God's purpose for your life.

If you can answer these questions then you should be able to discern if your choice in a wife is an asset to accomplishing the work that God has for you. I know that it is alot harder to hear God when we are emotionally attached to the answer, whatever it is. Going to marriage counseling can be a good idea. Getting counsil from someone that is Christ centered and not only believes the bible is true, but that it is completely true is a necessity for sound advice and direction as a Christian committed to Lordship.

Ultimately God will honor any choice that you make. Marriage is a covenant between a man and a woman that are joined by God and made one. So as the man you are responsible for the success or failure of this joining by God since you are the head of your house. It is important to realize that even though you are the head, your wife is the neck. When you are in agreement EVERYTHING is wonderful. However, if you are in discord, life can quickly spiral downward to a living hell. It is through the mutual commitment to Lordship that brings both of you closer than perception allows, as you truly become one in spirit. This is how you are able to both to let the perfect love of God that is in each of you out and express this love for each other in healthy ways.

This is a life choice that is almost as important as your decision to accept the gift of grace and redemtion and asking Jesus to be the Lord of your life. I pray for you and your question and that God will give you clarity for the choice you make.

Proverbs 16:9
In his heart a man plans his course, but the Lord orders his steps.

Hebrews 12:1 About commitment to Lordship.
We must get rid of everything that slows us down, especially the sin that just won't let go. And we must be determined to run the race ahead of us.

Answer 2

I do not think that one would say there is an actual rule against this, however I know many Christian women who have married a lukewarm male and found out that after the marriage was a done deal the men went back to their former lifestyles. The women then either backslide with them or end up going to church alone. Go and ask the ones who are married to these types and see if they are happy. My advice, tell him to take a hike and wait for the real deal to come along.

Answer 3

Do not listen to man. Listen to God. Remember the Book of Job? Everything started going wrong - his animals died, he lost his money, his kids died, etc. and what happened? Job was a rightious man in the community - and here come his two buddies to preach to him. For 37 chapters they told Job what was right and what was wrong. In the 38th chapter, God spoke up, and he said: "what are you listening to those idiots for? Listen to ME"
No offense to your friend, of course, but stick to the Word. What does the Bible say? It says that every person on Earth has to sail his own boat, and that everybody's path to, or with, God is different. Who cares about a "religion's" rules? However, you were very brief in your question - If the person you are going to marry is a strict athiest, and will prevent you from your path with God, they gotta go - nothing, absolutely nothing, should come between you and God. Nothing, no exceptions. Or, if that person is abusive, or in some other way a bad idea, obviously don't do it -
Marriage is a tough endeavor, so be sure that at least your spouse respects your beliefs, even loves you for them. Otherwise, if its just that they believe differently, or they aren't as quick to want to do a Bible study or something, hey, who is any christian to judge them? In fact, The Bible states quite clearly that if a spouse has less of a love or knowledge of God than you,
you are setting a real good example for them - not by pushing your beliefs onto them (don't try that) but just by being you, and going about your normal ways - Did it ever occur to you that this is part of Gods plan? What if God is counting on you to be that good example for your spouse? Would you walk away just because somebody in your Church judged them? Think about it.

Answer 4

Hi JaysonC. God tells us we are not to be yoked to an unbeliever. In 2 Corinthians 6:14-15 God tell us very clearly:

"Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? 15 And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?"

Answer 5

Whether you're Baptist, Presbyterian, Pentecostal, or any other denomination is truly irrelevant to this question. It's one that concerns ALL active Christians. If spiritual things are a higher priority for you than for your intended, know that this problem won't go away over time. It'll get worse. If God only comes truly first for one of you, how can you be equally yoked? Be very careful here. I hope you've already tried your best (and been serioulsy praying) to bring your boyfriend or girlfriend into a vibrant relationship with God. If you can get this person to want to put God first, this would be a huge step forward. It does not matter to what denomination this other person adheres, what matters is how important his or her relationship with God (Father, Son, and Spirit) is to him or her.

Basically, it goes back to having no other gods but God Himself. Look back through the OT and see how often and how thoroughly the Israelites and their kings were led astray by attractive members of the opposite sex who worshipped other gods. We worship other gods nowadays in more subtle ways, by focusing on material things, making time a god (i.e., my time is for me; I won't waste a sleep-in morning by going to church,) making family a god (God can't come before family time,) and many other subtle, insidious habits that are not of themselves truly sinful. Having money and/or things, spending time on onesself, taking quality time with the family, and such, are only sinful when they get put before God.

When only one spouse is fully committed to putting God first, things get out of balnce quickly, often through things that aren't "bad" in themselves. If you insist in going forward in a relationship where both parties do not honor God equally and together, be aware of the many pitfalls that await you both. Please be very careful.

Answer 6

It is against the Bible to marry a non christian. If the person is a Christian I would seek to encourage them to love the Lord more, but you have a whole life ahead of you and five years down the road they may be the spiritual one and you may be dragging your heels. When one is down the other encourages, that is what marriage is all about.

Answer 7

Not necessarily. I guess there is the small risk of religious conflict taking place between you and your partner. You may also find yourself in situations where you are unable to truly share spiritual experiences. If you are comfortable with her however and you both have never encountered this kind of problem, you probably don't have anything to worry about.

If it is a serious concern of yours, pray about it and let her know how you feel.

Good luck :).

Answer 8

no, it is not against your religion to marry someone who has less of love for god. Baptist teaches tolerance and love. YOu should tolerate others and care for others and preach god's love to people you love, not reject them simply because they do not love god as much as you. Hope this helps, love is good.

Answer 9

Human or State regulations, no. there is not any regulation compared. yet, you need to work out if iPod regulations are antagonistic to it. i have not heard some thing opposite as a lot as now although!!.. Have a rich destiny, expensive! Invite us to the marriage get at the same time. There should be a lot of stunning music!

Answer 10

Sounds like you already consider yourself superior to this person which is a big problem for any relationship. Do her a favor and let her go or start to work on your own humility because you sound like a true pompus ***