I want my bf to try more he's no like all the other guys i dated he dosn't try to get close to me or even hold my hand and i want him to but how do i get him to do it instead of me doing it or me telling him to do it.
2006-12-16 08:01:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him..is better.
2006-12-16 08:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by mada m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reserved fellow, huh? Well, I've never seen a sudden change in this kinda thing, so be patient. The only thing I've seen work personally is you taking the initiative.
A friend my just broke up with a guy like that, and I think it is because niether were willing to make a move. so it became uncomfortable. Just try it yourself, he just might be playing the gentleman and waiting for some kinda clue as when to move in.
2006-12-16 16:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by Somebody Real 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you want to take the lead in the relationship??
Some guys want/need that.
You know when I fell in love with my late wife?? When I got upset over something one time on a date (nothing to do with her), and she simply reached out and took my hand.
Sometimes, really nice guys don't want to (or can't, because of how they view the world) push another person into anything.....these are the people who need to be led, by the hand, by the heart, and sometimes, by the penis......
Namaste,
--Tom
2006-12-16 16:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys need you to take the lead. If you don't like it that way, you better find another guy, because obviously if you tell him it won't be right. When you have to tell him what to do and how to do it, it's just not as fun. But, if you like to be in charge, go for it.
2006-12-16 16:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by ronathecute 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you're out and you see people holding hands and close to each other you just keep making comments about it and maybe just maybe he'll get the message. Good Luck!
2006-12-16 16:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhh ... the age old female/male problem. "How do I change him/her to be what I want "
Answer: Move on, find someone who already IS what you want them to be!
2006-12-16 16:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by markawfg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he likes a woman in charge. have you tried calling him a worm and lick my whatever?
2006-12-16 16:05:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make the first move or talk to him about how you feel.
2006-12-16 16:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by drkchocolatedeluxe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him watch someone else try it on you first
2006-12-16 16:03:45 · answer #9 · answered by azflyboy6477 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him if he wants to do it...then if he says no then that is what it is no.
2006-12-16 16:04:31 · answer #10 · answered by fthsunshine@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋