Do you think its okay to hit your children? I have 6 kids but I just want opinions. If you don't have children, would you hit your children when/if you have children. Thanks!
2006-12-16 07:23:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Absolutely! Not to beat the crap out of them, but children need discipline. Parents now just don't care, and their kids walk all over them. I am the authority figure in my home and I will not be back talked. I am not their friend, I am their MOTHER!
2006-12-16 07:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by [un]bro/ken 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Shew. No, I don't think it's okay to hit children. When my son was two, I gave him a light spanking for doing something wrong, and he was devastated. He cried and cried, and I just know that all he would remember was that his mother hit him and would not remember the point of the spanking. That was it for me. I never spanked/hit him again. I actually took/take the time to discuss with him what he did wrong (or right) and why it was wrong (or right). I feel that spanking is a quick fix. My son is now 12 years old, is respectful, articulate, funny, loving, and is in the honors program at his school. He is compassionate and I adore him.
I often wonder as quick as some parents are to strike their children, how those same parents would feel if they were struck in their every day life by others.
2006-12-17 23:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think that sometimes a kid needs a spanking, but I dont think its the best way to solve things. Im a mother of 4 girls ages 9, 7, 6, and 8 months. I dont have much patience, I loose it easily. I think that your childrens behavior is much better when you dont spank, but still let your children know that what you say goes no matter what. My children know that I love them, even though Ive spanked them. Sometimes its just better that you talk with your kids be your kids friend. It will make your relationship better.
2006-12-16 15:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by Latina 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes I think physical punishment is OK if logical punisment does not work. It should not be done in anger and should be a controlled process. That is the consequences should be clear before it happens. Then if the unacceptable behavior event happens. Discuss very carefully the corporal punishment that is about to take place. Then carry out the punishment. Swats on the buttocks are a good rule because no permanent physical harm should come if done properly. The number and strength of the swats should be appropritate for the age and size of the child being disciplined.
2006-12-16 17:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by Bullwinkle 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
All my children recieved spankings when they deserved it. Not a one grew up to be dangerous or violent in any way. I, and my five siblings all were spanked when we deserved it too. Every one of us are happy, productive and responsible people with happy and well mannered families.
In my experience, the people with the worst children that grow up to be the worst adults are the one that do not apply a firm hand as needed. Having watched a lot of kids grow up over the years it seems to be almost exclusively true. One of my daughters is finally figuring it out. She just started being more firm with her children and administering spankings as needed. Their behavoir has improved drastically, especially in school. Yet they still are happy children who love to laugh and play.
I can't think of a single child that didn't get disciplined when needed that I would want to admit was mine.
2006-12-16 15:38:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
A spank on the butt is ok. But hitting, no way. My father used to hit my brothers and I and it leaves emotional scars for the child and later on in life hurts relationships they may have with others. Plus it makes them fear you. What kind of parent are you to ask such a thing. Shame on you for even thinking it. :(
2006-12-16 18:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by Allison 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
as long as its only on the bottom and only with an open hand and NOT done in anger. then yes its ok -
trick is - to use it as a last resort, the worst thing your kids can exspect, spanking is very much more symbolic and that what makes it work, if you did it all the time it isnt as symbolic anymore and loses it effect.
2006-12-16 20:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
NO! Striking someone simply because they displeased you is always wrong.
Hitting or spanking instills fear, not respect. Unfortunately, most parents don't know the difference, or just don't care. Children of such parents obey them because they fear them, not because they respect them.
2006-12-16 16:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hit no. Discipline by spanking, not in anger maybe.
2006-12-16 15:27:56 · answer #9 · answered by applecrisp 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
i do and dont agree with hitting my kids i have never hit mine as all i do is send them into a time out.
2006-12-16 15:39:21 · answer #10 · answered by victoria m 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋