im finding it rle hard to control my feelings for him, i dont want to break him and his gf up....any tips on how i can try and get him out my head?
2006-12-16 07:17:01 · 29 answers · asked by jenny p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmmm I feel for you. Just ignore anybody that says bad things they obviously think they are so perfect. All You can do really is just stay away from the person, do not speak to them on the phone or text them. Do things that make you happy, go out with your girlfriends, absorb yourself in your job. Try and stay occupied so your not just sitting there thinking. It is hard in the beginning but the feelings will fade if you have no contact. Also keep reminding yourself that there will be someone else out there for you that is single. I have been in your situation and it isn't easy but you can do it I promise. :)
2006-12-16 08:06:44 · answer #1 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way would be to realize that if he truly did care for you then he would choose to break up with his girlfriend. The fact that he's still with her proves that although he may like you the feelings aren't strong enough for him to want to create a relationship with you. The sooner you accept that he's not as in to you the sooner you can start moving on. Because at this point you're hung up over the fact that his gf is the reason you two aren't together which is not the case.
2006-12-16 15:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by fansygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to give you my answer, to jump from one relationship to another hardly ever works out. I speak from the "girlfriend" point of view because I lived something like this a few months ago (my boyfriend left me for another girl and it all messed up and now he regrets everything). Do you want to mess up the life of three people? If he did leave her for you, the beginning might be great (because of all the excitement etc) but then he'll just start comparing and start wondering if he did the right thing. A lot of pressure on everyone....not good.
2006-12-16 16:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by yayoch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to have strong feelings for someone when you really love him or her. Tell him how you feel and see how it goes. If he doesn't leave his girlfriend soon, he probably wants to see both of you at the same time and you will either let that happen or find another guy that doesn't have a girlfriend!
2006-12-16 15:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by Michael C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, hon. Its' going to be very difficult. but if he loves you why does he not break up with his girlfriend? Obviously you need to do anything you can to move on. go out, find activities that interest you and in time your feelings for him will pass.
however, if it is the real thing he might end his current relationship and live happily every after with you.
a girl can dream. right?
best of luck
Irene
2006-12-16 15:22:35 · answer #5 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has that charm that makes you wish that you could open your heart and let him step in and see all the love that you have for him right, well you wont get him out of your head. he tells you that he loves you so much and wants to be with you but the time isnt right, but the saddest part is what is he telling her right now? only a suggestion but sometimes if you stay away long enough for it to hurt and still dont give in then it starts to get better. my situation with a man and his girlfriend got easier because he went to jail so i had to stay away from him but she and i have become good friends and wants no part of his lies anymore
2006-12-16 15:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by desiree_tx2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so dont break them up, see him if you want. but dont let him call the shots in the situation, its the worst thing you can do. i understand, been there, i did the opposite and it turned out very badly for me, the guy stayed with his wife and that was the end of it. it left me hurt and feeling stupid because evidently i liked him more than he liked me or he would have left on his own.so, just do what you want to do , but be prepared that he probobly wont leave his gf.
2006-12-16 15:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by gingerb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We never can control whom we fall in love with. It all has to do with very complex systems in our brains, and very little of it is under our control.
The notion that a woman who falls in love with a man who is "spoken for" is a "homewrecker" or other negative idea is an incorrect one.
Don't try to get him out of your head. Let things take their course. If, ultimately, he loves you more than her, then you two will be together, if not, then, he will be out of your life, and ultimately, out of your head.
2006-12-16 15:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there but he probaly doesnt love you, just wants someone on the side just in case things with his girlfriend dont work out. I wouldnt see him because it will make it harder and date other guys and you'll get over him in time.
2006-12-16 15:21:34 · answer #9 · answered by Tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i must say if you did get him could you trust him? if he is doing this to her what would stop him from doing it to you. Obviously the choice is his to make. There is nothing you can do beside barge in and tell her that you 2 love each other with him there of course. and she will get mad maybe fighting made but then you have to make the choice is he worth all this. my opinion....hope i could help have a very marry christmas
2006-12-16 15:20:50 · answer #10 · answered by crazyeeeee69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋