She is always complimenting me and upbeat in public. She always is sooooooo inquiring about how I am doing. Yet, when I ask her out several times, she puts me off. Is she some kind of freakin' tease? Does she enjoy "slicing my emotions?" Is she some kind of person that get's pleasure out of humiliating me? I guess I don't have enough money or a big enough "bulge" down there. I shower everyday and sometimes twice a day. I gargle. I enjoy the better things in life. I don't have a wrinkled complexion or zits or hair on my back! I cut my hair regularly. I work full time but for only $8.00 an hour. I never married because of low pay. So, I don't have any thing to really tie me down. I have known this
"female" a long time. What the he** is my problem? What the he** is her problem? I DON'T DESERVE THIS TYPE OF TREATMENT. A meaningless movie or dinner every now and then is all. Is that so bad????????
2006-12-16 06:43:14 · 14 answers · asked by rasckal 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been hearing about this issue to the point that I could write a book. You don't have the problem. She does and nothing you say will convince her otherwise. Some women don't know that when they play the lover/friend game that they commit emotional homicide. Some women don't know and they don't care. You are right. You don't deserve this type of treatment. Friends take each other to dinner or to the movies, so what the **** is her problem??? I hear you so well. Her compliments are hollow. Move on and check out of the heartbreak hotel. All the best.
2006-12-16 07:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she's your friend.
Friends don't always want to date their friends, in fact that tends to ruin a friendship. Don't read too much into a good friendship, it's the ultimate way to kill it.
My advice look outside your immediate group of friends for someone to date. People who want to date their friends are usually too scared or too intimidated to head out and try to find new people.
From the sounds of your question you have plenty going for you. I don't think she's being a tease or embarassing you, I think she just wants to be your friend, which is a logical thing for people to say when that's really all they want. You can be a great guy and not be her type. I'm sure there are tons of women you know that you're just not interested in, but they're great people.
Sometimes that's just how it works. My advice is this, be her friend--friends are golden--and look elsewhere to find a lover.
2006-12-16 14:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by tkatt00 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to just be friends
Then down you have been shot
I know this sounds quite negative
But really, it is not.
She could say yes and waste your time
On some expensive date
After which you leave, go home
And sadly master...um, the art of picking potential significant others.
Dude. She shot you down. It leaves you free to pursue others. It's not an indictment of you as a person. Just shrug and move on. Pick a new one.
2006-12-16 14:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you like her enough to be friends with her, and it sounds like she likes you enough to be friends with you. That's great. If you can't handle being just friends then I suggest you don't hang out with her anymore because that is obviously all she wants from you. Relax, and stop asking her out. Enjoy her company and keep looking for a relationship elsewhere.
If your job isn't cutting it for you get a different one or get in school. Maybe she is just not attracted to you, I have a lot of guy friends that I love but would never date.
2006-12-16 14:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by az 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably sees you as a nice guy, buddy type. A lot of women don't like dating those types of guys---but a lot of women do.
I think it might be best to just move on and find someone who will appreciate you.
BTW, I am in almost the same boat as you. Nice guy, intelligent, educated, hard working, soft-spoken, well-mannered etc., but can't seem to find a woman who appreciates that.
2006-12-16 14:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by I'm Still Here 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does sound like a tease.On the other hand,maybe she just feel you need cheering up,I guess.But If I were you I'd try to stay away from her for a while to see her reaction.And if she is a tease stay away from her!
2006-12-16 14:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a lady who appreciates you...maybe she doesn't know what she wants from you yet! Just be friends but begin to seek out other relationships!
2006-12-16 14:47:15 · answer #7 · answered by Dre 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lifes too short. If she is going to act a fool I say look elsewhere.
2006-12-16 14:45:51 · answer #8 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well screwing around in a painful relationship never helps...it sucks and is good for nothing! you need to move on or tell her flat out what she is doing.
2006-12-16 14:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on bro'. This chick is making you crazy - she's not worth it.
2006-12-16 14:47:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋