i lost my virginity last night, i'm 15, and i bled quite a bit, more than i expected
i know u dont really get "normal" bodies, but how much do most people bleed?
plus me and my boyfriend both agreed that sex didnt seem like such a big thing once you'd had it, why do people make such a big deal over it? is it simply to put younger people off, to keep them safe from pregnancy and STIs? did anyone feel the same way as me?
and before u make comments, yes, we did use a condom
2006-12-16 06:40:11 · 15 answers · asked by queenie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sex can be a wonderful experience so stop knocking it you underage one-timer you
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2006-12-19 08:34:12 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How could it of not been a big deal to you - ok its not the best first time round becuse you are both nervous but its precious thing to a woman and it feels special if you are both in love and attracted to eachother sexually. Not going off the mark....its normal to bleed the first time round, depends on the person of how much...but if you are still bleeding....maybe go the doctor or a clinic.
Well done for using a condom - if you plan to have sex regulary think of some other protection such as the pill but always still be careful and use a condom. I dont think people necessarily make a big deal out of it....because of them reasons but think of teenage pregnancy and STIs....its always good to wait for that right person...i wish i did.
2006-12-16 07:12:34 · answer #2 · answered by hunybuny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing I would like to point out is, if you are in the UK, sex under the age of 16 is actually a criminal offense so your boyfriend has potentially set him self up for a charge of 'statutory rape'.
Sex, in itself, is no big deal..........unless in the context of a loving relationship. Males are perfectly able to have sex with no emotional conection, so please don't mistake sex with love.....they are not one and the same and just because a boy has sex with you it doesn't always means he cares about you.
The reason it seems such a big deal to young people is because it is forbidden and, ttherefore, seems to be a big deal. Most people want what they are told they can't have.......especially teenagers :-)
Some bleeding is normal, but I've not idea how much.........guess it depends on the individual.
At least you had the sense to use a condom.........pregnant at the age of 15 could, potentially, spoil your life.
2006-12-16 06:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost my virginity at 14 with a long term boyfriend and i bled very little. If you are still bleeding after a couple of days i would see a doctor. If not then the bleeding was likely caused by the tearing of your hymen (the membrane covering the vagina) when he penetrated you.
Well after I had sex I did feel different, like I had lost... my innocence, maybe? However this may have been because i couldnt really talk to anyone about it to rationalise my feelings, and i have a tendency towards introspection.
2006-12-16 12:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by prettyflower17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can really do to find out if your 'bleeding' was/is normal is to go to your nurse at your Dr's surgery.
There you can get confidental advice about all aspects os sexual health. She may also give you free condom's. I'm not trying to encourage you but you have to think of your health, which you are.
The emotinal side of sex is hard to explain.
You have to be in love before you feel a connction during sex, don't do it with anyone, i know he is your boyfriend, but that doesn't mean that you are in love.
Sex is about love, trust and respect, and these have to be earnt, and this takes longer than a few weeks etc.
You are also to young, i'm sure you are fed up with people saying this but it is true.
Good luck, be safe and only do things you are comfortable with, even if that is not doing it!
2006-12-16 08:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by JennyPenny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont mean to be the bearer of bad news, but there is a reason why you need to be over 16 to have sex... health reasons as well as morality.
You do know that you could give yourself cervical cancer in later life by having sex at a young age dont you?
Your BF could be in a alot of trouble too.. its called statutory rape.
Thats probably something alot of girls dont know or the school will not mention in sex education.
Well done for using a condom though
2006-12-16 08:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by Rebz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly ...well done for using a condom.
Secondly its not that unusual to get a bleed after the first time.If it does not clear up please seek advice from a nurse or a GP.
Sex the first time is always awkward and you both are new at it , but there certainly is no harm in waiting.
If you decided to do it again then please be as sensible as the first time and always use a condom.
2006-12-16 06:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by Byte 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reminds me wen i was that age first time lol yeah to all ur worries bleedin normal first time is rubbish and is big deal that age but become more of a 1 to 1 thing as u get older not a Rep thing
2006-12-16 06:46:12 · answer #8 · answered by PAUL B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in that posytion wit my ex i guess now she bleed for almost a whole 5 minutes i knoe it doesn't sound like much but it is trust me and then after her ovaries stoped and she can't have a orgasism now i am not sure why some body's do that but she is okay with it and it is just something you have to face i guess!
2006-12-16 06:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by Michael H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry i don't know coz i've never done it. I'm 15 too.
Good for ye for using a condom
2006-12-16 07:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont care that you used a condom, your too young to be dallying in grown up things. congratulations your boyfriend is now culpable for mandatory rape. 5 years inside. how does that sit with you?. hmm fun is it, your decision is it?
2006-12-16 07:08:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋